What went wrong with this girl?

[mindripper06]

Hi guys. I have trouble with women when I shouldn't. I'm tall, good looking by most peoples accounts and in good physical shape. But something in my personality messes me up with women.

I have been on a really bad run lately. This last girl came to me, said I looked like a cute actor and gave me her phone number. Ignored the guy right next to me even, who said "hey I'm here too". She looked at him and rolled her eyes (she was kind of drunk) lol.

Next day she sees me and says "I'm so embarrassed" I say thats Ok and get her number. Asked her out a couple of times over the next 2 weeks but she made excuses not to go. "WTF? Guess she doesnt like me" I think. I ignore her texts.

Few days later she comes to me in person "why you ignoring my texts?" I say I just wanna give you space you seem really busy. She texts later that day and BEGS to go out. Like a fool I say yes. We go, she buys me drinks (yes she paid) and we make out. Problem is her friends are there so nothing that night.

I text 2 days later thanking her and ask her out AGAIN on a "real date" without her friends.

She texts and says "lets just be friends sorry".

2 weeks go by and she "accidently" bumps into me A LOT...but I just say "hi" and thats it. She looks at me as if shes expecting me to say more (should I have?). She keeps trying to make small talk now all of a sudden. I keep it short though. Finally I see her a local bar 2 weeks later and she comes up to me drunk "you...what is with you...you are just...um I'm really drunk" her friend pulls her away.

Finally last week I saw her again, this time with some horse face dude on her arm. She looked at me in a "sad way". Whatever. That takes care of that.

OK she paid for my drinks, she came to me, seemed sincere enough, gushed about my looks...then backed off. If I bought her something, like dinner, I'd say she used me. But she was buying ME drinks! I dont understand what the deal is here.

Obviously there was some sort of attraction and I think I killed it. What, if anything, did I do wrong? Should I have refused her request to go out? Is she just a nut and I shouldnt blame myself? Gimmie the truth.

 

[TheCzar]

Pointing to particular mistakes
* I asked her out a couple of times over a two week period.
-- don't ask a couple of times, use a sales technique that works well "there's this cool place I've been wanting to check out, what works best Wed or Thurs night?". There's no yes/no possibility, if she hedges say "bummer, maybe some other time then when I don't have so much going on." if she doesn't offer an alternate then go cold.

* She asked me out and I wound up drinking with her friends. Errrrr I think this is in the bible - and it's in a bunch of threads - no first meetings with friends involved theyll CB you and create all sorts if issues when she's most indecisive about you as a prospect.

That'd be two things...

TC

 

[SchoolBoy]

She's showing all the signs of an attention wh0re.. She assertively gave you her number and bought you drinks, even made out with you as a way to plant the seed, while not planning to take it any further. That's what attention wh0res do.

Then after you are hooked, she hopes you will become and AFC and feed her ego. Next her now and do no contact. These kinda girls aren't worth your time.

Don't become her AFC toy, have some self-respect.

-SchoolBoy​

 

[mindripper06]

She's showing all the signs of an attention wh0re.. She assertively gave you her number and bought you drinks, even made out with you as a way to plant the seed, while not planning to take it any further. That's what attention wh0res do.

Then after you are hooked, she hopes you will become and AFC and feed her ego. Next her now and do no contact. These kinda girls aren't worth your time.

Don't become her AFC toy, have some self-respect.

-SchoolBoy​

Thanks for the advice. But why did she pick me? Like I said, I'm a decent looking tall guy with options (not trying to sound conceded but you know what I'm saying?) I'd think she'd pick some schmuck to string along, like the guy next to me when I first saw her who said "hey I'm standing here why arent you talking to me??"? Why didnt she choose THAT guy to string along, especially when he seemed so eager and so into her? He'd have probably chased her to the moon. LOL.

I only texted her once after she "friended" me saying "we shoulda went out". A mistake on my part. She said we work too close together. Whatever. No contact before or since then and thats how it'll stay.

She probably expected me to chase her around town. Screw that. Shes hot and all, but who needs that headache? Lots of hot women out there right?

 

[mindripper06]

Pointing to particular mistakes
* I asked her out a couple of times over a two week period.
-- don't ask a couple of times, use a sales technique that works well "there's this cool place I've been wanting to check out, what works best Wed or Thurs night?". There's no yes/no possibility, if she hedges say "bummer, maybe some other time then when I don't have so much going on." if she doesn't offer an alternate then go cold.

* She asked me out and I wound up drinking with her friends. Errrrr I think this is in the bible - and it's in a bunch of threads - no first meetings with friends involved theyll CB you and create all sorts if issues when she's most indecisive about you as a prospect.

That'd be two things...

TC

What does "CB" mean?

And yes, when she said "with friends" I shouldve bailed. Oh well, I got free beer at least.

EDIT: I'm guessing CB means c0ckblock, lol.

 

[mindripper06]

Pointing to particular mistakes
* I asked her out a couple of times over a two week period.
-- don't ask a couple of times, use a sales technique that works well "there's this cool place I've been wanting to check out, what works best Wed or Thurs night?". There's no yes/no possibility, if she hedges say "bummer, maybe some other time then when I don't have so much going on." if she doesn't offer an alternate then go cold.

What if she says "I'll let you know next week" or "let me know next week" or gives some "vague" answer like that? Instead of saying "How about Friday" or something? Still go cold?

 

[SchoolBoy]

Thanks for the advice. But why did she pick me? Like I said, I'm a decent looking tall guy with options (not trying to sound conceded but you know what I'm saying?) I'd think she'd pick some schmuck to string along, like the guy next to me when I first saw her who said "hey I'm standing here why arent you talking to me??"? Why didnt she choose THAT guy to string along, especially when he seemed so eager and so into her? He'd have probably chased her to the moon. LOL.

I only texted her once after she "friended" me saying "we shoulda went out". A mistake on my part. She said we work too close together. Whatever. No contact before or since then and thats how it'll stay.

She probably expected me to chase her around town. Screw that. Shes hot and all, but who needs that headache? Lots of hot women out there right?

Women aren't attention wh0res to EVERYONE, they choose who they want to fvck, they choose who they want to be "Friends" with and they choose who they want to be attention wh0res with. When she first met you, she may of actually had interest in you, but somehow your game wasn't as tight as she thought, so she decided to brand you as someone she wants attention from but not fvck. Not every woman is going to let you off the hook once they find out they aren't interested in you. At least this one made it clear she wants to be friends. Just don't keep chasing a lost cause.

Remember, she can only be an attention wh0re to you if you let her.

-SchoolBoy​

 

[seano99]

man i reckon she's got issues. you've done everything reasonable - we could nitpick your game, but from the sounds of it the problem is at her end. she bought you drinks dude, she likes you. my best guess:

her friends are single and want to keep her single too. they're in the party stage.

they'll prob all get boyfriends at the same time, and YES THEY ARE LOW QUALITY FRIENDS your girl has. if you got on their good side, they might let you in. they are c0ck blocking you.

good luck, play it cool in the interim. she likes you.

 

[AMDG]

What if she says "I'll let you know next week" or "let me know next week" or gives some "vague" answer like that? Instead of saying "How about Friday" or something? Still go cold?

Obviously - don't feed her ego no matter what.

 

[TheCzar]

What if she says "I'll let you know next week" or "let me know next week" or gives some "vague" answer like that? Instead of saying "How about Friday" or something? Still go cold?

Keep in mind I don't think you actually blew it here, I think she's a little whack and like a previous poster said is in the 'party time with my friends' mode. I've seen a lot chicks do this and the fact that their friends are around puts you at a serious disadvantage.

If she gives you a vague reply then you need to call her out on it if she's sh!t testing you. So yes, I would let her sit - at some point she'll text you and say 'whats going on?' 'how are you?' 'when are we getting together?' - If she does, wait like 3-4 hours before you reply. Don't be immediately available, pick again two days later in the week. You need her to realize your a busy man with a life and that if she's all flakey she's not going to meet your standards. If she gives you another vague reply then don't even respond.

TC