What went wrong here? Text Conversation analysis...

[the_govner]

So I met this girl at a club, she gave me her name to add her on facebook, for some reason i didn't ask for the number have no clue why I usually do, so there. She was a good 8.5-9. Her number was on facebook, so I took the plunge and called, no answer, so I messaged her. This is the conversation:

Me: Hey this is blah blah blah from the club (basic intro admitted to taking the cheap road and taking the number from FB)

Her: Hahah hey sorry i missed your cal i was at the pool. Nothing wrong with taking the cheap road haha, i put my number up on facebook for a reason haha. What's up?

Me: So you got working on that tan at the pool? You were definitely the brightest person at the club taht night i saw you haha.

Her: Hahah I'm still an albino, it's truly unfortunate. I'm getting my hair done as we speak, whatcha up to tonight?

Me: I'm sure it is, although can't exactly relate as i have quite the impressive tan.. hahah, hair done? Big night tonight? have some old friends in town so have to take them out tonight.

Her: hahah just a late xmas dinner with some friends. where are you taking them out to?

Me: We're at martini's now nice and chill here, they want an early night. Let's get together for a couple drinks after our respective things?


NO REPLY AFTER THIS. I don't really care about the girl, I just want to see where I went wrong in your opinions.

Thanks bros, happy new year!

 

[S.Y.L]

I really don't know, it looked pretty good.

 

[chinwaggler]

Does it matter? Call her again in a few daays and if nothing happens, you know what to do.

 

[AAAgent]

Me: So you got working on that tan at the pool? You were definitely the brightest person at the club taht night i saw you haha.

maybe because you gave her a confidence boost here making her think she might be able to do better than you.

just my opinion.

but i don't see any killer mistakes yet, go for another call next week or this weekend.

 

[TheRealSupreme]

The reason why you didn't ask for the number is pretty easy to figure out. You were intimidated as to why you also posted her number of fineness with that 8.9-9 crap you guys use.

As for what went wrong...

Using all of those hahaha's is weak. You came accross as week.

She asked you what you were doing and what was your first response? Some lame ..what are you doing hot date kinda comment. She doesn't even know you. Your a guy whom she didn't give her number too and you got invasive and took it off her social site. She said she had it up there for a reason.

You could of also apologized for calling her off the top. You could of gotten kudos instead of losing points. "he this is blah blah from the club. I apologize for calling and texting without permission meeting you the other night I was so impressed that I just had to contact you.

You could of sent her a message first on her facebook asking if you could call her also.

Some women think stalker when a guy does that. I certainly would.

Combine that with with the lame comment and noise dig about what she was doing that night I could see why she would just say forget it..this guy is wierd...

But, hopefully chances are she was just in a part of getting her hair done to where she could not even text you back...well it's always a possiblity they had her hands tied up ....lol.

Oh it's also obvious that you did care because you thought she was so hot and you pedestaled her real fast in your mind.

 

[Lust]

It was boring.

 

[Metaphysical]

Ok. it is very creepy that you took her number from her facebook and just messaged her. That's weird. She didn't wanna call you a creep, but she was probably weirded out by that. You shoulda talked to her on facebook a bit and then asked for the number. Instead you gave her red flags and displayed creepy/weirdo tendencies.

Me: We're at martini's now nice and chill here, they want an early night. Let's get together for a couple drinks after our respective things?

First of all, she told you she was busy that night, so she couldn't come.

Second, the way you worded this totally sucks. Seriously.

You started out strong and then you went totally soft and weak and unsure on yourself.

I wouldn't have forced a date right there. I woulda picked up the phone and called. I would have asked her when she's free and try to fit her in my schedule.

I'd wait a week and give her a call. There's a chance it can be repaired, but she probably thinks you're a weirdo. Next time don't do this creepy stuff to women.

 

[Metacomet]

LOL I know it's pointless to laugh and say 'this is painful' but.

lol... this is painful.

Don't sweat it man we all have terrible text conversations some times.

In this instance you made a TON of mistakes and just fishing her number up was just wrong...

but all she did was stop replying. She didn't call you a psycho or 'shoot you down'.

Consider yourself lucky. Lesson learned eh?

 

[roman]

What went wrong

So I met this girl at a club, she gave me her name to add her on facebook, for some reason i didn't ask for the number have no clue why I usually do, so there. She was a good 8.5-9. Her number was on facebook, so I took the plunge and called, no answer, so I messaged her. This is the conversation:

Subtitle: I wasn't bold enough to ask for Clubgirl's phone number when we first met, so in an attempt to recover that fumble I found her number on facebook and called unannounced.

Me: Hey this is blah blah blah from the club (basic intro admitted to taking the cheap road and taking the number from FB)

She hears: Hi my name is Stalker X from Last Weekend's Entertainment Venue. You didn't give me your phone number but I found it and I'm calling anyway. I'm not creepy, heh heh. Please love me.

Her: Hahah hey sorry i missed your cal i was at the pool. Nothing wrong with taking the cheap road haha, i put my number up on facebook for a reason haha. What's up?

Subtitle: Ugh who is this fvcking loser. he sees my number and just calls unannounced? creepy. what goes through these guys heads to think that's normal, anyway? anybody home in there?! I hate that my Catholic upbringing forces me to acknowledge guys like this. Fvcking guilt trip. i swear to god i need to take that fvcking number down, some people just dont fvcking get it.

Me: So you got working on that tan at the pool? You were definitely the brightest person at the club taht night i saw you haha.

She hears: You are so hot. God i wanna fvck. I'm getting nervous just thinking about ogling you last night.

Her: Hahah I'm still an albino, it's truly unfortunate. I'm getting my hair done as we speak, whatcha up to tonight?

Subtitle: Tee hee, yeah. I am hot. So hot. And, now that you mention it, I'm making myself hotter as we speak. Where are you going with this, Creep-o? I'm kinda busy here. God i hate being catholic.

Me: I'm sure it is, although can't exactly relate as i have quite the impressive tan.. hahah, hair done? Big night tonight? have some old friends in town so have to take them out tonight.

She hears: OK, ummmm, ahhh, let's see here. Oh, right. Umm, do you have plans tonight?

Her: hahah just a late xmas dinner with some friends. where are you taking them out to?

Subtitle: Of course I have plans, it's christmas for fvcks sake, and i'm hot, remember?! are you trying to ask me something here? hurry up and ask it already so i can blow you off and go back to doing my nails. jesus mary and joseph, i should just stack on an extra hail mary and cut this miserable bastard off right here. i wonder if tucker is going to be at christine's party tonight? god, i haven't had sex in a week, i'm so horny. he's so hot.

Me: We're at martini's now nice and chill here, they want an early night. Let's get together for a couple drinks after our respective things?

She hears: so, uh, can we do the no pants dance?

**flat line**

NO REPLY AFTER THIS. I don't really care about the girl, I just want to see where I went wrong in your opinions.

Thanks bros, happy new year!

You see what I'm getting at here. Pace yourself, man. Pace is key. Drop me a PM if you have any specific questions, but I would recommend as a starter to read Swinggcat's Real World Seduction manual if you haven't already. And if you have read it already, re-read it. Again and again. You need to have a better grasp of frame control and ingrain that into your being. You should also look into Doc Love's The System to sharpen your concept of challenge. Props for putting yourself out there, man. Respect. Now hit the books and then go out and do it all over again.

Sam Butcher

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again... but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat." -Theodore Roosevelt