what to say when a girl thinks youre just using her for sex?

[sebastian11]

ive been with my gf for a few months now and she keeps saying that she thinks im using her, what should i tell her to make these thoughts go away?

 

[garruk]

shes just wants some romance. its up to you whether or not you give it to her.

 

[Ease]

Agree and amplify

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

1. Agree and amplify.

2. Or do what I do, which is say nothing at all. I just stare straight ahead and do a Benicio del Toro when I hear that stuff.

 

[COD]

ASK HER WHY SHE FEELS THAT WAY...........what evidence do you have to support such and outlandish accusation.

quick comebaks:

1) OH YOU WISH

2) oh JUST ADMIT IT YOU LOVE IT

3) your just now figuring this out

4) AND here i THOUGHT IT was your that was never satisfied

5) WHAT ELSE DID YOU WANT TO DO

6) have you looked in the mirror naked............U tell me honetly........if you were a guy, would you be turned on and want to f--k.

7) I put money on the table what more do you want

8) JUST TIL I find a replacement for you

9) OK NOW ITS YOUR TURN...........go ahead use me

10) NOT YOU SPECIFICALLY..........just your parts.

 

[War Against Betaism]

"You're right, now make me a sandwich."

 

[( . )( . )]

Agree and amplify

This ^^

Maybe a "Why whats your point, can you cook and clean?"

edit: war against beat me to it.

 

[Slickster]

I would say "Really? I thought you were using me!"

You gotta deflect this stuff with fun teasing.

 

[2-D]

Why would you ever agree to that? Seriously?

Like honestly, if you don't want her to break up with you, don't tell her you're using her, "agree and amplify" my ass. If she doesn't take it as 100% a joke she will be all upset and stressy at you.

Tell her you truly like her for who she is, but that she DOES have a sweet ass

From COD's list, you could use 2 if she isn't serious (only if she isn't serious) or 6 but funnier

 

[( . )( . )]

Why would you ever agree to that? Seriously?

Like honestly, if you don't want her to break up with you, don't tell her you're using her, "agree and amplify" my ass. If she doesn't take it as 100% a joke she will be all upset and stressy at you.

Tell her you truly like her for who she is, but that she DOES have a sweet ass

This is terrible advice. Nobody likes a puzzy who cant throw her sh!t back at her.

If she doesn't take it as 100% a joke she will be all upset and stressy at you.

OH NO ! You mean if I'm not an agreeable yes man.. she.. she could be upset or possibly even leave me? But where would I find another immature chick who didnt have a sense of humour?

 

[mustfirstregister]

next her.

 

[horaholic]

Tell her you think she is just using you for someone to share her feelings with, and feel wanted and loved by.

 

[Proselytiser]

Tell her you think she is just using you for someone to share her feelings with, and feel wanted and loved by.

Haha. "Are you using me for sex?" "Are you using me for commitment?"

I like Julius's response, cept I'd usually tell her don't start that crap with me.

 

[2-D]

This is terrible advice. Nobody likes a puzzy who cant throw her sh!t back at her.

OH NO ! You mean if I'm not an agreeable yes man.. she.. she could be upset or possibly even leave me? But where would I find another immature chick who didnt have a sense of humour?

Have you ever actually said to a girl you're using her for sex when she asked? I did that once because I listened to David DeAngelo for too long and the girl was really upset. If she's actually serious and does think that, then these witty remarks are just going to cause more trouble than good. I promise. Go try it out in real life if you think that'd work.

 

[WhitePimp]

Just flip it back around, like she's just using your hot bod as a sex toy, etc. Turn it into a game, make her feel like she's asking a dumb question, and laugh it off.

 

[2-D]

Just flip it back around, like she's just using your hot bod as a sex toy, etc. Turn it into a game, make her feel like she's asking a dumb question, and laugh it off.

This.

Good advice.

 

[Ease]

Why would you ever agree to that? Seriously?

Like honestly, if you don't want her to break up with you, don't tell her you're using her, "agree and amplify" my ass. If she doesn't take it as 100% a joke she will be all upset and stressy at you.

Tell her you truly like her for who she is, but that she DOES have a sweet ass

From COD's list, you could use 2 if she isn't serious (only if she isn't serious) or 6 but funnier

i think this man is lost, somebody please direct him to the cosmopolitan website!

 

[2-D]

i think this man is lost, somebody please direct him to the cosmopolitan website!

I think you're being an armchair theorist. I've done similar stuff in real life (tried using ****y/witty replies to this sort of thing), I'm speaking from true experience. Feel free to go tell your girlfriend you're using her though... And then you'll know what happens. Tell me honestly when you've ever done that in real life. If you or any of the others have actually done this in real life and she didn't get all pissy, then it's a personal issue with me not delivering it right. But as far as my experience goes, that is a big no no.

I'm trying to give this guy advice here, it's obvious that his girlfriend has a genuine issue with the relationship and she's calling him out, much like you would do to her if something was up.

Look guys, this isn't just her saying "are you using me for sex?" If she keeps bringing it up this is genuinely a concern she has...

I'm not being a faggot, I just think you should follow WhitePimp's advice which is much better IMO.

 

[Warrior74]

The last girl who said this to me came at me like this.

I'm not just for sex you know. I'm not going to just be your booty call. My response was, "where is this coming from?", she went on to tell me how the last few guys she was dating were married men or men who didn't want to commit and how I had already told her that I never planned on getting married.

I responded by looking her right in the eye and saying...you know I like being with you and we have fun together, and we both enjoy that. And yes you know how I feel about marriage, but if you don't consider hanging with me fun and you want to leave, I understand. I'll miss you.

She backed down and then started telling me about how she's been stressed and her ex has been calling her and how her life is crazy. Then we had sex and she went home.

It's a test. The girl in my case has a habit of dating men who won't commit, and she knew going into it that I wouldn't commit. And if I would have changed my stance right then...it would have been down hill from there.

I noticed she threw this particular test out there when things where going really well and we had started spending more time together than normal. It was starting to feel like a committed relationship. It was a big sign for me to pull back and let her miss me a bit. It's that challenge that makes her 'gina tingle, not the comfort of knowing she has me in her pocket. She's been back to her old self since then.

Study your girl and study her behavior,dating history and timing and you will know exactly what she means by this...your girl may have a different reason for her test at this time. Good luck.

 

[eaglez1177]

"You're right, now make me a sandwich."

Hahahah

And do not follow 2-D's advice...