What to make of this?

[John59]

I have worked at the same company for 15 years as an accountant and about a year or a year and half ago the company president hired a new female admin assistant. We both sit in same section of the building. Each morning for the last year, she comes by my cube and say's good morning with a smile. I reply in kind. Every once in a while we past each other in the hall to from the coffee machine I smile and wink at her in passing.

Okay I am 53, not married nor divorced. She is 47 divorced over two or three years has a son, whom is graduating high school. I learned through the office grapevine she has a boyfriend.

Our finance group held an after work party and I mentioned to one of my lady coworkers ( whom is from Korea ). I was stationed in there for a year courtesy of uncle sam. So, I brought my old dress Army uniform jacket and my cap from "Team Spirit 86" into work one day. I first called over my coworker friend from Korea to show her the uniform. Then, another lady I work with from over 10 years came by. What attention. I kind of placed the dress uniform on a hook, so it would face office of 47 y/o admin assistant. After a while, she comes by an says "who's uniform?" It was obvious whom's it was. Then, she mentioned her son in the military and would shipping out this November.

Ever since that day, she now makes it a point even if I come in later than she does, to swing by and say good morning. She sits with in hearing distance, and I don't pay her to much attention during the day.

It just seems like clock work each morning to get a friendly good morning. In my whole working experience I never had a lady do so.

 

[The Gambler]

You of course already know she is interested on some level... Both of you have interacted with dignity and caution, which is great (you're not 16 years old, and this isn't happening in high school).

So do you wish to take this to the next level? Since you already know her, and already know there is some type of interest here, this scenario is a bit simpler than most of the ones posted here... Ask her to go to coffee or a light dinner after work, perhaps? Let her talk about whatever comes to mind (she'll talk about her son going into the military, guaranteed, and you'll be able to answer several questions for her... My step-son just left to the military two weeks ago, and that's about all my wife talks about right about now).

Keep in touch!

The Gambler

 

[John59]

Continuation

Okay. I really may have choked on this one.
I deal many ladies in the office, both single and married and have no trouble talking to them. Conversation comes with easy. Except with the one lady in question.

The day I was going to ask her out to lunch. My emotions said "Go ahead" my gut said "the timing was right." When I approached her I couldn't say word. I my brain just froze.... I had the shivers go right through me. She must had the idea, I was going to ask her something. She just turned with a slight smirk and walk off. Failed to close the deal again. Boy, I need a wack on the side of the head.

It might just be one of those hiccups. I think some of my own frustration with myself goes back to getting burned by the last lady I knew. But, that was some years ago.

The lady in question has been a bit more cheerful in the morning when she just passes to say good morning. I have just been remaining low at the moment.

any suggestions!

 

[The Gambler]

Break the ice... use a safe conversation starter.... i.e. "How's your son doing?"

See how receptive she is to smalltalk. If she is acting positive, after a minute or two say, "Well, I guess we'd better get back to work. Let's pick this up in the break room at ten-thirty."

Since you see her every workday, there's no need to rush into anything, but you HAVE to advance. When you guys meet in the break room, just be confident, be the great guy you are, have an interested, knowing smirk on your face, and just have the aura that you both belong at that table together having a good chat.

Many women our age have "boyfriends" that they would drop in a millisecond if they could do better, so don't be too worried about that. If both of your interests grow here, even gradually through nice little chats or lunches, she'll give you ALL the signals you need along the way.

The Gambler

 

[John59]

the continuing story

Well. The small talk goes in either two ways at the coffee machine.
Some days she is really enthusiastic and very friendly.Other times it is very cold and calculated.Now it has gotten to the point, where she has decided to avoid the times I vist the coffee machine.

When she comes in the morning, she will greet me with a friendly smile and day good morning or just say hi!

She has been tied up all week with the sale people and seems just intend on serving her master the corporate head. She is unpredictable going to lunch at various times.

Luckly back early September my boss gave me the go ahead to go back out to our factory in California. So, I will be out of office in Rhode Island for three weeks this month. Two weeks in South Cal a paradise. Including my lady friend there at out our factory there , I haven't seen in three years. Just friends, those.

Back to RI lady, may be she will suffer some good morning withdrawls for a change. She doesn't say good morning to others. I'm just waiting to see her face at the end of the month. ))

PS I have been thrown out of one company before run by feminists, so I trend to tread lightly.