Starfvcks 64
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What do you do when another guy tries hitting on the girl you're out with? It seems like the expected reaction is to confront him, but I've always had good luck by not responding at all.
When I’m out with a hot girl, or when I’ve been talking with a hot girl I just met, other guys will approach her when I leave the area. Obviously that’s going to happen, and I know my reaction to that situation is a **** test from her. I never react or get competitive in those situations, because honestly, I think it looks weak. If I started a fight I would probably lose, and even if I won I feel like it would still show insecurity.
When a guy tries hitting on a girl i’m with I don’t react. I keep the same attitude and speak to the guy like he’s any other stranger. I don’t feel threatened and i don’t think he’s going to take my girl, and i’m right. I don’t know if this is AMOGing, it’s more like not even acknowledging him as a threat to begin with. I always feel conflicted about what to do in these situations, but not reacting always has a good out outcome for me. There have been times when i’ve been more aggressive and it’s worked out fine as well, but it takes me out of my element. I respect game and don't get upset when someone else gets the girl I wanted, but most guys get really pissed off.
I’ll give an example: I met a girl at a pretty busy club/bar and noticed that sparkle in her eyes when she saw me. I made some convo with her, the usual stuff and then asked her to go buy me a drink. When she stepped to the bar two guys approached her and basically blocked her in. They were trying basic pick up **** in a very aggressive way, but probably have a decent amount of luck with it. I was talking to my friend but watching her from the corner of my eye and she was looking at me hoping I would come over and fight for her. There was nothing I could do against two guys, and I just met this girl so I stayed where I was. A few minutes later she comes back with my drink and conversation continues. She told me that she didn’t pay for the drink, the guys at the bar did… I went back to her place shortly after.
One more example: I was out with a very hot girl who I had been seeing for a month or so. She is the type of girl who always gets hit on by guys no matter what the setting is. We were playing pool in the back of a somewhat busy bar and a guy starts flirting with her. I don’t remember how the convo started, but I could tell his intentions and he kept looking at me trying to see how I would react. He was getting drunk and maybe not used to rejection, because he kept coming around trying to talk to her after being essentially blown off. He didn’t see me as a threat, but he was uncomfortable that I didn’t see him as a threat either. Instead of getting protective or upset, I responded to his comments like he was my friend, like I was welcoming him into my group. I could see the anger in his eyes because he couldn’t understand what was happening but he didn't try to start anything with me because he had no reason.
I can give a few more examples, but I don’t think it’s necessary. The only time I'll confront a guy in these situations is if he takes my seat. "You're in the wrong seat" and then he gets up looking all mad...
I feel like a lot of people would completely disagree with my outlook on this, and I've always felt conflicted about it too. It works, but could it work better?
When I’m out with a hot girl, or when I’ve been talking with a hot girl I just met, other guys will approach her when I leave the area. Obviously that’s going to happen, and I know my reaction to that situation is a **** test from her. I never react or get competitive in those situations, because honestly, I think it looks weak. If I started a fight I would probably lose, and even if I won I feel like it would still show insecurity.
When a guy tries hitting on a girl i’m with I don’t react. I keep the same attitude and speak to the guy like he’s any other stranger. I don’t feel threatened and i don’t think he’s going to take my girl, and i’m right. I don’t know if this is AMOGing, it’s more like not even acknowledging him as a threat to begin with. I always feel conflicted about what to do in these situations, but not reacting always has a good out outcome for me. There have been times when i’ve been more aggressive and it’s worked out fine as well, but it takes me out of my element. I respect game and don't get upset when someone else gets the girl I wanted, but most guys get really pissed off.
I’ll give an example: I met a girl at a pretty busy club/bar and noticed that sparkle in her eyes when she saw me. I made some convo with her, the usual stuff and then asked her to go buy me a drink. When she stepped to the bar two guys approached her and basically blocked her in. They were trying basic pick up **** in a very aggressive way, but probably have a decent amount of luck with it. I was talking to my friend but watching her from the corner of my eye and she was looking at me hoping I would come over and fight for her. There was nothing I could do against two guys, and I just met this girl so I stayed where I was. A few minutes later she comes back with my drink and conversation continues. She told me that she didn’t pay for the drink, the guys at the bar did… I went back to her place shortly after.
One more example: I was out with a very hot girl who I had been seeing for a month or so. She is the type of girl who always gets hit on by guys no matter what the setting is. We were playing pool in the back of a somewhat busy bar and a guy starts flirting with her. I don’t remember how the convo started, but I could tell his intentions and he kept looking at me trying to see how I would react. He was getting drunk and maybe not used to rejection, because he kept coming around trying to talk to her after being essentially blown off. He didn’t see me as a threat, but he was uncomfortable that I didn’t see him as a threat either. Instead of getting protective or upset, I responded to his comments like he was my friend, like I was welcoming him into my group. I could see the anger in his eyes because he couldn’t understand what was happening but he didn't try to start anything with me because he had no reason.
I can give a few more examples, but I don’t think it’s necessary. The only time I'll confront a guy in these situations is if he takes my seat. "You're in the wrong seat" and then he gets up looking all mad...
I feel like a lot of people would completely disagree with my outlook on this, and I've always felt conflicted about it too. It works, but could it work better?
