What to do/say when the conversation dies?

[lanba]

This happens to me a lot due to my lack of life experience. Last time I went abroad was a decade ago, I'm not one of these yearly or biyearly jet-setters that seem to be all over the place now, they actually make me a bit sick, because they think getting drunk in a foreign country for a week is the same as having culture. Anyway... the point is, I don't seem to have much to talk about.

But I still want some cooch. So does anyone here ever have problems with conversations dying and what do you do about it?

 

[MOTU]

Don't be afraid of a little silence. Comment on things happening around you, people watching creates great convo opportunities.

And ask questions. Lots of questions, that don't lend themselves to yes or no answers: what was your first job, what did you have for lunch, how do you like parakeets, what was the last thing that made you laugh out loud, what was your dad's favorite sports team, where is your dream vacation, what color panties do you wear, etc. Spend some time and write then down in a notebook.

If open ended questions don't get the convo going, either her IL is low or you are both social tards and should go home and play video games together.

 

[Tictac]

Some easy silence is not so bad.

But then ask her a questions about her favorite subject - herself. The rest will take care of itself.

 

[RagingBalls]

A break/silence in a conversation is normal.

 

[Willard]

I had that problem sometimes, I listened to pimp your lingo by Stephan Erdman, Now I don't usually have the problem, in fact girls really enjoy talking to me on the phone for hours. It teaches you to ask questions that make you seem really interested in what they are saying.

 

[gravityeyelids]

look at her as if she is the one making it awkward and as if she should say something. if they're semi-interested in you they almost always pick the convo up

 

[SeymourCake]

Embrace the pauses that happen. Chances are, she's probably thinking of something to contribute to the conversation. It's not awkward unless you make it awkward. Relax and let the conversation flow like a river. The water may crash into boulders time to time, but it will eventually start flowing again. It's no biggie.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I am trying out this new frame of mind I heard from the rsd guys... Be the alpha male, center of attention, say what ever you want, be in the moment ... take the burden of the conversation away from the girl... say something stupid or be a jackass.. it don't matter you are the alpha.. say what ever, don't seek validation from your date about your conversation.

Yeahhh girrrlll... this is a fun date girrll.. you having a good time girrll... I like what you are wearig girlll... where did you get that in china town?

Look at them two girlll... why do you think they are here... I bet they are brothers and sisters.. what do you think?

just say whatever.. You don't need to have something witty to say.... say I love you... then say I hate you right after... stop making sense... stop thinking soo hard.. stop trying to be perfect.

this has helped me alot. don't try to be cool, trying to be cool don't work. Be the guy that don't give a shyt.

After all.. you don't give a shyt... do ya?

 

[JaegerPilot217]

This happens to me a lot due to my lack of life experience. Last time I went abroad was a decade ago, I'm not one of these yearly or biyearly jet-setters that seem to be all over the place now, they actually make me a bit sick, because they think getting drunk in a foreign country for a week is the same as having culture. Anyway... the point is, I don't seem to have much to talk about.

But I still want some cooch. So does anyone here ever have problems with conversations dying and what do you do about it?

I started doing some Coaching with David Wygant lately, what me and him and many others are doing with him is that whenever we go out and meet women, approach them, we use the video recorder on our cell phones, put them in our shirt-pockets, and record the conversations, and we send them to David Wygant and he gives us constructive criticism, lets us know what we are doing right and wrong and what to fix, improve on when talking to women

 

[RagingBalls]

I am trying out this new frame of mind I heard from the rsd guys... Be the alpha male, center of attention, say what ever you want, be in the moment ... take the burden of the conversation away from the girl... say something stupid or be a jackass.. it don't matter you are the alpha.. say what ever, don't seek validation from your date about your conversation.

Yeahhh girrrlll... this is a fun date girrll.. you having a good time girrll... I like what you are wearig girlll... where did you get that in china town?

Look at them two girlll... why do you think they are here... I bet they are brothers and sisters.. what do you think?

just say whatever.. You don't need to have something witty to say.... say I love you... then say I hate you right after... stop making sense... stop thinking soo hard.. stop trying to be perfect.

this has helped me alot. don't try to be cool, trying to be cool don't work. Be the guy that don't give a shyt.

After all.. you don't give a shyt... do ya?

Yep. Usually, forcing a convo just for the sake of having a convo isn't cool.
If there's a jive...there would be a jive. If she want's the D, give her the D

 

[MillionBillionaire]

In my boss date report I had a first date with someone that wanted to flake, we had nothing in common.

We really had nothing to talk about so I kept the conversation generic .. "hey girl, how you doing." "you look nice." "what is your nationality" .. work... school... friends.. family.. .etc. during the car ride to the club.

Once at the club... full game mode. Move her around.. be loud.. be social.. be alpha.. be self amused.. talk to other people.. dance with other people... Woo alot... take alot of pictures.. look at them pics together... get people to take pictures for us..get other peoples numbers.. dance alot.. make fun of bad dancers.. get in the center of a dancing circle.. try to dance bad but you cant.. steal each other from other dancers... twords the end of the night everyone knew it was our first date... they all thought we were bf/gf and were asking us about our relationship. I think we hung out with like 3 or 4 different groups... we got along with everyone... that will keep the conversation going.

Once we were at the club and when we went to perkins we literally never ran out of stuff to talk about because I was too busy being alpha.. Pretending to get pissed when someone spills on her... kissing a different girl and say she told me to do it... Had about a minute or two of "deep" convo stuff but it was just to change up the pace then back at me thrusting the air as we are talking.

She said.. "You don't have to thrust the air like that... you got me.... did I just say thrust out loud?"

I was like "Yea girl I just can't help it, when I'm around you I just want to thrust things... you wan't me to go into boring date mode?"... I pull away and sit up strait and make fun of the serious, trying to be a cool guy date..
She was like "nooo just go back to yourself.. the way you were."
May not be every ones style but it sure worked for me... there were no awkward pauses.. we never ran out of stuff to talk about... the date was like 5 hours long and it went by really fast.

I was obnoxious and loud the whole time. She kept putting her hand over my mouth and saying I cant say that.. or I'm being loud.. or I'm being crazy... then she would kiss me. Because she was the center of attention.

I almost just want to go on first dates from now on because the rush was iiiinncredible.


anyways... former afc ... OUT!

 

[Maximus Rex]

Do This

Kiss her.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

which is why i'm getting help from David Wygant about this

 

[Mr Wright]

The silence is just tension. Let the tension build a little, especially if there's eye contact and let her break it first. Just think what other guys do, they fill the silence with bullcrap to ease the tension but that's not sexy, tension is sexy, it's unknown. Be the guy who smirks and holds eye contact when it goes silent, she'll think of anything to say to break that kind of sexual tension because it's so powerful.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

The silence is just tension. Let the tension build a little, especially if there's eye contact and let her break it first. Just think what other guys do, they fill the silence with bullcrap to ease the tension but that's not sexy, tension is sexy, it's unknown. Be the guy who smirks and holds eye contact when it goes silent, she'll think of anything to say to break that kind of sexual tension because it's so powerful.

Well usually its expected of the guy to create sexual tension

 

[Mr Wright]

Well usually its expected of the guy to create sexual tension

Yeah but guys don't do it because they can't handle it. At best guys do it for a few seconds then bail out again because it's a little awkward.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Yeah but guys don't do it because they can't handle it. At best guys do it for a few seconds then bail out again because it's a little awkward.

Ya sexual harassment laws have been a factor for this

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Yeah but guys don't do it because they can't handle it. At best guys do it for a few seconds then bail out again because it's a little awkward.

And most girls will not touch a guy first