What to do if your GF apologizes?

[Fela Kuti]

Say, your GF says a mean thing to you (like "shut the hell up") then you tell her that you're offended by that then she apologize. But you're still hurt by her words and feel hard to accept her apology. What would you do? Try to soften your heart (accept her apology) or act indifferent? Or what? Thanks.

 

[truckcompany]

Just a quick guess but..
I think you shouldnt say your offended because you are a strong man and what ever they say wont effect you.
So if it were me you could say.... if she says to you SHUT THE HELL UP. I would laugh and say.... Haha where did that come from?? You have anger problems or something??.....
So you get the point im making.. It wont offended you because you are strong. And try to make it that its something to do with her that is the problem. Because you are always right! lol.

Buuut... if i were to answer your question I to be honest am not sure how you could say it in a way that could mean you are a strong. Someone else help this man out! lol

 

[Last Man Standing]

Yeah kid, you should be offended!! It was disrespectful!! This just gives you a glimpse of her dark soul - her apology means nothing!! I personally would send her to hell and never see her again!! Don't love the unlovable!!

 

[Fela Kuti]

Yeah kid, you should be offended!! It was disrespectful!! This just gives you a glimpse of her dark soul - her apology means nothing!! I personally would send her to hell and never see her again!! Don't love the unlovable!!

really?

 

[KontrollerX]

"You ever talk to me like that again and we are through."

A response like that worked for Rollo Tomassi when he told his current wife when they were dating to never hang up on him until they were actually done talking or else they were through and it worked.

Rollo only got the balls to go that extreme route with his current wife because he'd dated and been disrespected by a BPD who hung up on him all the time during phone calls and he made up his mind he would never tolerate this level of disrespect from any woman ever again.

Rollo decided who he was going to be and how he was going to be treated from that point on.

You need to make this kind of harsh response to your girl for bad behaviour that really hurts you Fela Kuti because it puts the fear of losing you in her mind and the fear that you will take no sh!t from her.

By giving her wishy washy responses or laughing it off she sees that she can keep getting away with this and taking it to worse levels.

By giving her the silent treatment over it and not dealing with it you invite her whining at you to forgive her and in effect you would be acting like a woman since that is their tactic not ours.

We are men and we deal with things up front.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah kid, you should be offended!! It was disrespectful!! This just gives you a glimpse of her dark soul - her apology means nothing!! I personally would send her to hell and never see her again!! Don't love the unlovable!!

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:


I hope he meant what I understood.


Anyway, you "kids" need to start acting like real men and stop acting like girly-men who can't handle anybody telling you the word "damn".

If you are that sensitive, you need to start working on your inner game and manhood, then you should start thinking about having a girlfriend.

What you need to do is have something ready to put her in check, right on the spot; something that will let her know you don't approve of her behavior, yet you are not startled, and expect better from her.

You (OP), seem to be doing good already, as she apologized, yet don't even realize it, since you are getting all sensitive about little things.

 

[Last Man Standing]

really?

Yes really! A harsh tone from a woman to a man is very unnatural and very disrespectful to a man! As if you are suppose to obey her barking commands? She has no authority over you!!!!! Is she going to beat you up if you don't shut up? It is a shallow threat and she wants to show her dominance over you - don't let her do it!!!

Do this next time... http://www.rickysplace.com/flash3/slap-ho.html

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Yeah kid, you should be offended!! It was disrespectful!! This just gives you a glimpse of her dark soul - her apology means nothing!! I personally would send her to hell and never see her again!! Don't love the unlovable!!

hahahaha man you have GOT to be a troll. This is the funniest thing I've seen all day

 

[Tear Gas]

don't be afraid to put her in her place if she disrespects you..you don't really have to reply when she apologizes, she'll realize she can't disrespect you like that again.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Anyway, you "kids" need to start acting like real men and stop acting like girly-men who can't handle anybody telling you the word "damn".

If you are that sensitive, you need to start working on your inner game and manhood, then you should start thinking about having a girlfriend...

For real. He stood up to her and she apologizes and his ego is still hurt. Heaven forbid if her actions were commonplace.

 

[Birdem]

You cant let this girl shake your feelings like that. Even if you did check her behavior, she really got the upper hand because you still feel hurt. I agree with gangster just work on your inner game. Last man standing that was funny lol.

 

[Rebound Material]

I thought what you did was fine. I don't know how you guys got to the point of her telling you to "shut the hell up", but if it was clearly out of context then theres nothing wrong with putting her on check about her bad attitude. If you wanted to be more reasonable about it I would have said something like "Is it that time of the month(PMsing)? Let me know now so that I don't dump you on the spot."

 

[Fela Kuti]

This started when she asked me to go watch a sci-fi film. I said I didn't like sci-fi and if she wanted me to accompany her, she must pay for the tickets. She's disappointed by this and got a little irritated. A couple of talks later, I teased her to lighten the mood then she spitted out the words.