What to do if you are vertically challenged?

[violator]

OK guys, I know the subject concerning height has been brought up several times, but this is something that has been bothering me of late.

I am 5-9 (1.76m) on a good day. Now, my height is something that has not been bothering me even though most of my friends that I hang out with are taller than me But, I have become self conscious of my height because I am seeing this ultra hot girl who is about the same height as I. The girls I usually date are in the 5-3-5-6 category, so this new girl is about the tallest girl I have ever been with. Now, she doesn't seem to mind and has not brought up the subject yet. She seems to be interested in me and I have kissed closed her on the first date. But, for some reason I have become self conscious and I think it is affecting my game around her. I am not the usual self confident guy I am around other girls. It could also be because this girl is hotter than the girls I have been seeing.

My saving grace so to speak is that girls usually find me good looking, I have a muscular body and a pretty boy face which sort of makes up for my lack of height.

I have constantly read that women like to be with guys who are taller than them and some women will not date guys who are below 6-0. So, my question is, if you are vertically challenged like me, how do you overcome being self conscious so that it doesn't affect your confidence?

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Go to the pacific islands and pick up pygmies. They're usually less than 3' tall, so its not a problem.

 

[tamales]

First, the above is a perfect example of how C&F doesn't really work so well So don't do that. JMO.

Second, 5'9... are you kidding!Heck, you are lucky and that is not short at all. In fact, I it's the national average. My former DJ was really short like 5'4-5'5 or so.. I am taller than him and since I am usually in heels I was much taller. He loved it And I never once felt he was insecure about it. At least he never showed it. And I also never dated a man that short before but in my eyes, he was the sexiest man ever.. Mainly because of his confidence.

I say if you don't make it an issue, she won't. And just let any insecurity go. Just focus on all your great qualities, you have a cute face, great body and fun personality...Focus on just having fun.. Don't get wrapped up in issues you can't control. Maybe easier said than done. But come on man, you have a hot chic! Go for it and don't let a couple of inches keep you from getting your game on.

Trust me, if you closed the kiss on the first date.. she digs you and you'll be getting a lot more if you just be yourself and play your cards right.

But on one other note.. at the same time.... seems you really like this girl..Be careful that you don't get oneitus to soon to fast...Try and still flirt and date others. That will also boost your ego while landing her.

 

[violator]

Thanks for the reply Tamales. You are right. I think symptoms of oneitis are there, so I will just be myself and date other women in the meantime. If it is meant to be, I guess, things will just fall into place. No use overanalyzing...

 

[Mizer]

Good topic and I have a great story to illustrate a point.



Several years ago, I was in an educational program to help fine tune my academic skills before pursuing a professional degree. On the first day of this program, I was one of the first guys to show up for the orientation. Several of the women who attended were very attractive. Once the other guys began to show up, I immediately began to size up my competition. The next two guys to show up were about 5’7 and 5’6. Another guy walked in was about 6’5 and extremely muscular. The last guy, about 5’9. I am 6’3.

My initial analysis from physical attributes alone:

I should be able to get the lion’s share of the women. The first two guys are “short”, the tall guy wore funny clothes which may hinder his success, the 5’9 guy had unusual looks, in my opinion.

What actually happened:

The guy that was 5’7 has Djed more women around the school than any one I knew of. The 5’6 guy could have “gotten his” but turned the ladies down because he was in a committed relationship with a very nice cutie. The guy with the unusual looks dated one of the prettiest girls in the whole school. The tall guy...no one took him serious.

Why I believe it happened this way:


After hanging out with these guys, I discovered that the “short” guys are extremely secure, intelligent men who are very confident. With these attributes, looks and height just become a lot less important. The tall guy was too nice and goofy at times.

It just continues to come up again and again and it will always mean be the foundation of sexual attraction…confidence is every thing when it comes to attracting women. Forget your height! It is beyond your control. Your insecurities are not!!!

Have fun!


Mizer