What the? need help decoding this

[pancakepalace]

Guys - She is really starting to bug me.

I posted last week because this chick that I really dig had strangely gone cold on me basically castrating me for no apparent reason. We had hit it off real nice and she had high interest level. Now she seems all over the place changing her mind one day to the next. I backed off a bit and things seemed to be on track again and now she sends me this email:

''
I wonder, how does one go about having a relationship when we have spent 12 days in total in each other's company, over several months? Your conversation is delightful as are your e-mails. But it's so hard when I never see you in person. I realised we have developed a phone and MSN rapport that has nothing to do with direct contact and that is rather unreal to me. I guess I am frustrated that you were not there to see me through all my recent traumas. To need someone there and for there to be ... no-one. That's not fair of course and it's situationist, but ... if only life was different!

Perhaps one day we will get to know each other. For now, be assured I have utmost admiration and respect for you and am writing this e-mail as an honest expression of a moment in time when I thought of you, with a certain unease and uncertainty,_and these words are what came to mind. I guess I do think too much and analyse things over and over.

Hope you are sleeping soundly and enjoying a well-earned rest. Once again i forgot or ran out of time to get to the post-office so I'm still holding the score I meant for you. Will send tomorrow. Have a good practice tomorrow! thinking loving thoughts of you,

love *****
''

What the? If there is a woman around please decode this for me.

She used to say that she thought it was good that we were far apart. Now not so.
The last time I visited she was complaining I was smothering her and now she complains we don't see each other enough.

I am coming close to nexting her. However, I would like to get to the bottom of her little game first and make sure she isn't interested.

I really like this one, but the games have got to stop.

Any lead?

My guess is she has another guy in mind and doesn't want to hurt my feelings.

thanks guys and good luck in your quests,
pel

 

[bp1974]

Don't bother trying to decode this message. Look at the forest, not the trees. Overall, her messages to you are mixed up and confusing. Decoded = she is mixed up and confused.

My prediction for the future if you keep going with this girl = more of the same. If that's your bag then be happy.

 

[flexion_]

Women don't think logically - they think emotionally. Thats why its not useful to try and figure out what she is saying in any given moment - you'll just bang your head against the wall.

Go by what she *does* not by what she *says* as your guide.

It sounds to me like she wants to see you more in person right? So you backing off had an effect on her. But, I have no clue what the real ******** translation could be *in her mind* - its most likely different that what you and I think and if you appease her by being more available then she will just tell you that you 2 spend too much time together... LOL.

 

[Chrispy]

It sounds like she's putting a lot of emotional babble in one e-mail! But the crux of it is that you are probably more available online and by email than by person. So if you're still interested, give a simple reply and set something up to see her again and go from there.

And as the others said, don't bother trying to de-code. It's such a waste of time. There's really only two things to figure out..she's interested or she's not

 

[pancakepalace]

Hey guys,

I still haven't decided what to do. Maybe call her and put it all on the line? In a nutshell - 'are you in or out'.

The reason we don't see each other much is that she is in another city.

thanks,
pel

 

[bp1974]

Whether she says yes or no to that question will likely make no difference precisely because she is mixed up and confused. One day she might say yes, the next she might say no. You're looking for a clearcut answer from someoen who isn't clearcut right now. This is what I meant in my first post. She is how she is right now - either you're prepared to take what she's offering (confusion and mixed signals coupled with some together time) or you're not. Trying to make her something she's not will only drive her away from you and frustrate you.

 

[GirlCrazy]

So ... when you see her she says you're smothering her, and when you back off she complains even more. She's got some serious issues, man.

Maybe call her and put it all on the line? In a nutshell - 'are you in or out'.

That's about the worst thing you could do.

Best way to deal with a drama queen is to downplay the drama, not increase it.

If it were me, I'd pretend I never got that rambling gibberish email, and I make it a point not to answer emails that make no sense whatsoever.

What are you looking for with this gal? If it's an LTR, she's probably a poor choice. If it's just sex then ignore her when she's being a drama queen and only see her when she's in a good mood.

My prediction for the future if you keep going with this girl = more of the same. If that's your bag then be happy.

That's my prediction too.

 

[pancakepalace]

Right bp1974,

I see what you are saying.

I guess if I look at it truthfully what I am saying is that I don't like her behaviour and want it to change or I will leave.

I have to be sharp. She is very beautiful and intelligent and in a lot of ways what I am looking for. Seems though, she is confused and that makes all the rest useless.

I'll keep it going for a bit, but will eject before I crash.

thanks.

 

[libre]

Don't let her play your fidle

Dear crêpe

Be steadfast. Don't let her playing out of tune ruin your harmony. Even if she is a beautiful fidle, perhaps you aren't giving on the same rythm. Let her slow her tempo or else, be prepared to change tune.

Sorry, some harmonics are not meant to be.

Good luck

 

[pancakepalace]

funny libre,

Especially since I am a musican and she is a violin player and I am currently writing a piece of music for her ensemble.

Anyhow, I haven't replied yet. I'll probably send her an email tonight without refering to much to hers.

Crazy Girl! She can come up to my place any weekend for free (she has a friend who does).

The only thing I am missing to be a Don Juan is the concept of many girls at once. I am a bit too quick to jump into LTR type stuff. Thing is, I ain't really looking for date after date and sex from different woman.

I feel comfortable in a monogamous relationship.

We live in funny times though when people seem to leave each other at the drop of a hat.

pel