What the hell is up with THESE questions?

RIchardo

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alrighty, heres the lowdown.

I have been dating this girl for 2 months now, and last night after our school dance we went back to her place.

in the middle of makin out i was just like "whats on your mind shorty" she said "why do you play games with me?" im like "what are you talking about" and she responds with "You ACT like you like me but you never tell me you like me" i responded by explaining that i wouldnt have been taking her out these past two months if i didnt like her..

Is she trying to tell me somthing in a roundabout way that she wants me to ask her to be my gf or somthing ?
 

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Good DJ response.

She digs you and don't change a thing. You are exactly where you want to be. Mystery, challenge, and you are in control.

Good work.
 

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Well Richardo, she definitely likes you!

She's just a little insecure and isn't sure where you are coming from. I wouldn't be surprised if you are starting to get more attention from her now.

If you want to be her boyfriend then ask her to be exclusive. Simple.
 

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Originally posted by Revlis
If you want to be her boyfriend then ask her to be exclusive. Simple.
Wait a minute!

Never ask a chick to be exclusive. It destroys everything (Mystery, Challenge etc.) that you've been building.

Speak to her with actions not words.
 

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I'm missing something here. How do you know when you're exclusive with a girl when it's not verbalised?

He could wait until she asks him but it sounds like she needs a helping hand. If he's confident that she'll say yes and they've been successfully dating for a while now then I can't see how it'll destroy everything. He can still be mysterious when they are a couple etc.

Sometimes, if you don't ask you won't get what you want.
 

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Anti Dump from the DJ Bible

Becoming exclusive with a woman means the both of you talk about not dating or seeing anyone else. The dating with others comes to an end.
Never ask a women to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must talk about it FIRST.
Why? If a woman hasn't asked you yet it means she is still open to seeing others. She still has DOUBTS about you. Highly interested women don't want you going out with other women.

A woman asking for exclusivity is like a 'marriage proposal'. She is cementing and laying the foundation for true intimacy.
She wants something that's lasting. It is the ULTIMATE test of interest, guys. She is 'proposing'.

If you ask first, you will never know her true interest level. Why didn't she bring it up? How come she is still letting you see others? Why isn't she CLOSING her options? Is she seeing someone else?

Think about it.
Ever want something you couldn't have and once you got it you didn't want it anymore??? Many women live by this statement.

Its why the theories of mystery and challenge exist.

The whole idea of being exclusive is silly anyways. At any time one or the other can lose feelings and seek out someone else. Verbalizing it makes no difference. They'll both know they are exclusive when they happily spend all their time together. Asking or discussing exclusivity is an immature way of trying to "brand" someone as yours or make them your possession. The more experience you get you will realize that this is impossible. Ask anyone who's been thru a divorce.

Women will go to the ends of the earth to tie down a guy. If you want your relationship to last you must remain a challenge.
 

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More to think about:

From Take no Dirt also out of the DJ Bible

How to keep a gal
Once you have gotten over the hump by getting her home telephone number, set up the initial date and have dated her a few times, there's that nagging question in the DJ's mind: how do you keep the gal? Some DJs have said "Keeping her was more difficult than getting her". So, what are the various ways of improving your chances that she'll stay with you.

First off, we know that females are emotional creatures (males on the other hand are visual species). Women must be emotionally stimulated, otherwise, they'll become bored, restless and will seek some other dude who can provide that stimuli. I offer the following for your consideration:

* Give her a sense of impending finality, i.e., you may be on the verge of moving on to another gal. Let her think she's one of many chicks in your life. She'll compete to keep you to herself. She enjoys the challenge.

* Whenever you're with her, look at your watch every so often. She'll think that you have other plans on the burner. Act like a thoroughbred horse who's champing at the bit to get out of the starting gate.

* Show her your almost uncontrollable exuberance about life. Flash her that Steinway piano keys smile of yours. Make your eyes sparkle with excitement.

* Whistle a tune in her presence. That way, you're giving off the signal that life is simply peachy.

* Dress the best you possibly can afford. Your clothes must be impeccable. She will feel the excitement in you just like she felt on her high school graduation day.

* Tease and flirt with her like crazy. Get her to the point where she almost has to take a leak because you're cracking her up so much.

* See her sparingly but the time you spend with her, make it super quality time. Time the activities with a drill sergeant's precision. Make her breathless as you go from one event to another.

* Project nothing but positive comments when talking to her. She must identify you with "joie de vive".

* It's OK to disagree with her and even get mad at her. This gives a roller coaster effect, i.e., from her feeling high one minute to her crashing down to earth. Make up to her with some super sex.

* Concerning sex, don't be predictable. Go for some role playing and fantasy. Slow almost excruciating foreplay is paramount. Tease her mind (a woman's most erotic sexual organ) and get her to literally beg you to fu*k her like a sl*t. She must be kept guessing as to what the next sexual adventure will be like.
The Bible is full of Wisdom like this. I hope you take the time to read it.
 

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I know a lot of guys missed out on been exclusive because they never asked. The girl assumed that they didn't want to be their boyfriend and found someone else that did. I agree with most of Anti-Dumps theories but NOT every girl will take the initiative.

Also I am talking about if he wants to be only with her and no other girl.
 

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Originally posted by Revlis
I know a lot of guys missed out on been exclusive because they never asked. The girl assumed that they didn't want to be their boyfriend and found someone else that did. I agree with most of Anti-Dumps theories but NOT every girl will take the initiative.

Also I am talking about if he wants to be only with her and no other girl.
If "these guys" missed out then she wasn't all that interested to begin with was she??? Your friends were lucky to have gotten rid of those low interest chicks.

Now why would Ricardo only want to be with her? Even if he enjoys being in a relationship, he should always keep it in the back of his mind that his options are always open.
 

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The one thing about Anti-Dump that gets me is that he doesn't account for chicks that are shy and/or insecure. Anti-Dump is searching for marriage material, which is great but sometimes people want to be exclusive and not be serious at the same time.

It's up to Richardo if he wants to pursue a relationship with her. Just giving an alternative view to the popular theories that most people here subscribe too. Not everything is black and white.
 

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Originally posted by Revlis
The one thing about Anti-Dump that gets me is that he doesn't account for chicks that are shy and/or insecure. Anti-Dump is searching for marriage material, which is great but sometimes people want to be exclusive and not be serious at the same time.

It's up to Richardo if he wants to pursue a relationship with her. Just giving an alternative view to the popular theories that most people here subscribe too. Not everything is black and white.
First of all. All women are the same. Get that into your head. It doesn't matter if she's insecure the same theories are used. They work on all women and probably more so on insecure ones.

Second. Being truly exclusive and marriage are very similar things. Only difference is the paperwork and the legal aspects.

I'm not trying to slam you Revlis. Just trying to demonstrate why Richardo would be wrong to ask her to be exclusive. If you've had any experience with women you'll surely know they can change their minds about you in a second. One minute her IL is to the moon and the next its gone. They can truly be cold and heartless. Its up to you (the DJ) to keep her interest level up.

If Richardo wants to keep this girl he should keep doing exactly what got him there.

Peace out.
 

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Yes, women can be very fickle. We all here know that otherwise we won't be here, right ;)

I don't believe that EVERY girl would ask a guy to be exclusive even with a high interest level. Also I don't believe that she will suddenly not like him because he asks to be exclusive. That shows intiative and if she suddenly doesn't want to know him then shes done him a favour so he can find someone else. In my past relationships I've never had a girl interest lowered because I asked them to be my girlfriend. It's silly. As long as he deosn't start acting AFC in the relationship. In fact I remember a couple of them start to gain more interest!

Actually come to think of it it's a great test for high interest. If she wasn't really interested she would say no.

I agree he should keep up what he's doing. She might ask him to be exclusive, I honestly don't know. Remember all depends what HE wants from this girl.

Anyway Richardo, you are doing well!
 

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ty ty ty for the responses guys, i appreciate both views.

I Think im going to take the middle road though......as in ask her why she was asking those questions to help her disclose her sentiments.......and see if that works
 

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what's up with having to absolutely be mysterious and in control ?
 
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