What the fvck?! can you explain this illogical behaviour

[Who Dares Win]

Hi guys, I was looking at this site for some months and finally decided to try what is suggested here so here my question.

I went to the club last friday and approached two girls who were in the smoking room, this way I had the opportunity to have a little talk.
After breaking the ice with the common questions we moved to the dance floor where we danced for about a hour, I dance really bad and akward but that didnt stopped me from getting close and close to one of them, just read my name here.

I then invited them to get something to drink and hear hear, one of them(red head) paid my drink and had some light physical contact, once back in the dance floor I got really close to the girl who paid my drink and managed to hug her and move my hands everywhere on her with minimum resistance from her, did few times on her friend as well but not as much.
Tried to kiss red head but she only allowed me to kiss her neck while touching her, she turned her face away when I aimed at her lips, however no problem with the rest.

After that I asked for fb contact to the red head and left being it so late, tried to add her on sunday morning but got no reply since then.

I mean what the hell? I can kiss necks, hold asses and squeeze boobs limitless but not good enough for any further social interaction?
Wasnt it supposed to be the opposite? What I did wrong and what would you have done? Was my behaviour too aggressive?

Btw they made clear that night was over with both words and action so its not a problem of closing the deal,they in fact left alone right after me.

A friend told me that maybe they regretted it the following day or that some girls are simply looking for being manhadled at a given night an nothing more.

 

[Htienvu]

You ask for FB? What the! What ever happened to the good old days of taking a girls phone number! Club games are unpredictable, she might just be there to have fun on the night, shoulda taken your chances and try to close her on the night.

 

[Mike32ct]

Hi guys, I was looking at this site for some months and finally decided to try what is suggested here so here my question.

I went to the club last friday and approached two girls who were in the smoking room, this way I had the opportunity to have a little talk.
After breaking the ice with the common questions we moved to the dance floor where we danced for about a hour, I dance really bad and akward but that didnt stopped me from getting close and close to one of them, just read my name here.

I then invited them to get something to drink and hear hear, one of them(red head) paid my drink and had some light physical contact, once back in the dance floor I got really close to the girl who paid my drink and managed to hug her and move my hands everywhere on her with minimum resistance from her, did few times on her friend as well but not as much.

Ok, good. You gotta give her friend some lovin' too, but not too much, so it's clear who your target is. So far, so good.

Tried to kiss red head but she only allowed me to kiss her neck while touching her, she turned her face away when I aimed at her lips, however no problem with the rest.

Was she grinding you face to face?

After that I asked for fb contact to the red head and left being it so late, tried to add her on sunday morning but got no reply since then.

I mean what the hell? I can kiss necks, hold asses and squeeze boobs limitless but not good enough for any further social interaction?
Wasnt it supposed to be the opposite? What I did wrong and what would you have done? Was my behaviour too aggressive?

I'll cover this below...

Btw they made clear that night was over with both words and action so its not a problem of closing the deal,they in fact left alone right after me.

These girls probably came in together and left together.

A friend told me that maybe they regretted it the following day or that some girls are simply looking for being manhadled at a given night an nothing more.

The biggest thing to look for is HOW SHE GRINDS YOU on the dance floor. If she keeps her back to you all the time or nearly all the time, that's NOT a good sign. Some chicks will grind you hard for hours and even let you grope them. But in the end, they are just enjoying the attention. They either aren't THAT attracted (most likely), or already decided that they AREN'T hooking up that night or she's actually taken and doesn't want to go too far with you.

When you are dancing with her, try to spin her around so she is facing you. See if you can grind her face to face. If you can, you have some pretty good attraction. If she won't let you do that, dance a little bit longer, and try again. If she still won't grind you face to face, EJECT. I don't care how much she lets you grind and grope her, it's a lost cause. You are wasting your time. (Unless you aren't looking to pull and just want to grope, then I guess it's ok lol. Or you know for sure she has a boyfriend or fiance back home. You just want to get some play on the dance floor and go home.)

Why would a chick only let you grind her as* and not face you?

1. She doesn't want to kiss or make out with you. She wants to keep her face away from you.

2. She isn't that attracted and doesn't want to look in your eyes.

3. She is scanning the dance floor for other sausage.

I learned this all the hard way. I was grinding this chick hard for about an hour and touching her everywhere. But she would ONLY let me grind her back side. She later rejected me for a kiss and grabbed some random guy's hand and said, "Let's go." They left together. While she was grinding me, she was scanning the dance floor for a guy she really wanted to F.

Finally, I would tone down the groping. The times I did pull from the dance floor were when I was LESS aggressive with the touching. Run your hands down her sides and occassionally brush her boobs. Make her WANT MORE. Eventually, she may pull YOUR hands down to her p*ssy. Also keep making out to a minimum. Again, leave her wanting more. Plus you don't want to get too sleezy in front of her friend. If you get TOO aggressive with your girl, you will trigger a c*ckblocking instinct with her friend.

And as discussed above, if her friend doesn't have a guy, dance with the friend and touch her lightly too once in a while so she doesn't feel left out. (You did that. That was no issue here.) That way you are the FUN TOUCHY FEELY GUY, not some guy only trying to get in her friends pants.

 

[Who Dares Win]

You ask for FB? What the! What ever happened to the good old days of taking a girls phone number! Club games are unpredictable, she might just be there to have fun on the night, shoulda taken your chances and try to close her on the night.

Yeah thats true, a really stupid choice from me...a mistake I wont do again.

The biggest thing to look for is HOW SHE GRINDS YOU on the dance floor. If she keeps her back to you all the time or nearly all the time, that's NOT a good sign. Some chicks will grind you hard for hours and even let you grope them. But in the end, they are just enjoying the attention. They either aren't THAT attracted (most likely), or already decided that they AREN'T hooking up that night or she's actually taken and doesn't want to go too far with you.

When you are dancing with her, try to spin her around so she is facing you. See if you can grind her face to face. If you can, you have some pretty good attraction. If she won't let you do that, dance a little bit longer, and try again. If she still won't grind you face to face, EJECT. I don't care how much she lets you grind and grope her, it's a lost cause. You are wasting your time. (Unless you aren't looking to pull and just want to grope, then I guess it's ok lol. Or you know for sure she has a boyfriend or fiance back home. You just want to get some play on the dance floor and go home.)

Why would a chick only let you grind her as* and not face you?

1. She doesn't want to kiss or make out with you. She wants to keep her face away from you.

2. She isn't that attracted and doesn't want to look in your eyes.

3. She is scanning the dance floor for other sausage.

I learned this all the hard way. I was grinding this chick hard for about an hour and touching her everywhere. But she would ONLY let me grind her back side. She later rejected me for a kiss and grabbed some random guy's hand and said, "Let's go." They left together. While she was grinding me, she was scanning the dance floor for a guy she really wanted to F.

Finally, I would tone down the groping. The times I did pull from the dance floor were when I was LESS aggressive with the touching. Run your hands down her sides and occassionally brush her boobs. Make her WANT MORE. Eventually, she may pull YOUR hands down to her p*ssy. Also keep making out to a minimum. Again, leave her wanting more. Plus you don't want to get too sleezy in front of her friend. If you get TOO aggressive with your girl, you will trigger a c*ckblocking instinct with her friend.

And as discussed above, if her friend doesn't have a guy, dance with the friend and touch her lightly too once in a while so she doesn't feel left out. (You did that. That was no issue here.) That way you are the FUN TOUCHY FEELY GUY, not some guy only trying to get in her friends pants.

I got close to her frontally many times and most of the times she was closing her arms around me and as I said allowed me to kiss her neck and also get close to the upper chest but yeah I think you got the point she wasnt that interested after all.

Dont know if she was looking for other guys, I simply looked in a threating way anybody getting close to her, maybe an other mistake to show jealousy?

So you suggest going for the kiss as ultimate test of interest?

 

[Mike32ct]

Ok my bad. It sounds like you did the best you could. Yes, if she's dancing with you face to face, then a kiss would be the next sign of interest.

I can't see what else you could have done. Charge it to the game.

 

[DonJuanit0]

Isn't that called ATTENTION WHORING? You just fed her need to desirable! Kiss bounds people and is a sign of acceptance, but what instead, she sucrificed her ass and boobs to gwt the feeling of being wanted! That's why there is no answer on FB! That's my thoughts!

 

[perseverance]

I wouldn't say a kiss was a sign of interest. I've gotten with girls who later regretted getting with me, but did so because they had spirit goggles on. :crackup:

It sounded like these girls weren't out looking to hook up, but weren't exactly going to turn down some male attention. That's what happens at clubs a lot, you just have to accept that. One week you can pull several women and the next week none at all. The Club game is just swings and roundabouts. You win some, you lose some, but as long as you have a good night out, that's all that matters.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You met two drunk chicks at a club, you built almost no comfort with them and grinded on them for most the night. Then instead of trying to venue change (maybe get some food after), you asked for her FB?

And your wondering why she has low interest?

She thinks all you want is sexxx (which is probably true). Its okay if this is all you want, but you have to built comfort ALONG with attraction in order for it to fly. Girls don't want to FEEL like slvts; they will slvt around, as long as they don't feel like one.





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