I've known this girl for a few months now and I never really tried to get with her, at least not until 2 weeks ago. Anyway, I just started talkin to her and I already screwed up. I was at a party and got real drunk. Unfortunately I also had her # on me, she didn't answer the phone and I ended up callin her 5 times (at least that's what how many times she said I called when I saw her at work. I briefly explained the situation and apologized for it, but I kinda played it off like it wasn't important to me. She didnn't really say anytihng but made it seem like any chance I had w/her was over. I didn't get distruaght over this instead I made it seem like I wasn't interested anymore. Now I find out that she was upset because I didn't say hi to her yesterday and that she wants me to call her. My question is: Do I apolgize sincerely or juss play it off li9ke it doesn't matter and how should I go about breaking any tension that might be?
What should I do?
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Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
You already apologized for calling her 5 times when you were smashed. Don't apologize for anything you do when you're sober. It sounds like you've boosted up her IL a bit. You didn't say hi to her, now she thinks that you're not interested, and she wants to gain it back.
As for this girl, don't call her immediately. Wait about a week. She'll be thinking about you and why you're not calling her. If she confronts you about it, just tell her "I've had a lot on my mind in the past while".
Also, I have no clue why you're chasing a girl at your workplace, unless you're not fond of your job. There'll be hard feelings if the two of you don't work out, which will make interacting in the workplace difficult.
Who are you finding out all this 5hit from? I'm guessing it's a female. These Human Communication Devices increase the chance of you screwing things up. They will relay every relevant thing you say to them back to the girl that you're interested in. They'll even draw to conclusions and tell them to the girl you're interested in. Avoid doing this in the future.
As for this girl, don't call her immediately. Wait about a week. She'll be thinking about you and why you're not calling her. If she confronts you about it, just tell her "I've had a lot on my mind in the past while".
Also, I have no clue why you're chasing a girl at your workplace, unless you're not fond of your job. There'll be hard feelings if the two of you don't work out, which will make interacting in the workplace difficult.
I really have no intention of staying at the work place for much longer so I figured it would be ok to start setting things up before I get a new job. Thanks for the advice, I'll watch what I say to people and call her some time next week.
im assuming that this your really new to the board? yes?
one cannot **** up. get that in ur head. you simply missed a good opportunity.
go enjoy urself, the whole point of goin out is to have fun, am i right? dont worry about her, just dont get tunnel vision on her.
two more words: MOVE ON
~ivan
one cannot **** up. get that in ur head. you simply missed a good opportunity.
go enjoy urself, the whole point of goin out is to have fun, am i right? dont worry about her, just dont get tunnel vision on her.
two more words: MOVE ON
~ivan
Yes, I am new to the boards and the reason behind "with some friends" is because I feel that having the friends around will make her feel comfortable. All the friends are gonna be w/ their dates, so later on we're goin to some ones house. I figure we can get some alone time there.
why you care about HER(!!!!!!) comfort?
doesnt matter man, you just gotta be comfortable.
~ivan
PS: please never ever ever make a post title with "what should i do" anymore. (this question on the board is my biggest peeve) there are sooo many things that you can do. there is nothing you "should" do.
doesnt matter man, you just gotta be comfortable.
~ivan
PS: please never ever ever make a post title with "what should i do" anymore. (this question on the board is my biggest peeve) there are sooo many things that you can do. there is nothing you "should" do.