What should i do the next time it comes up

Comeback kid

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I read some article online saying that approach anxiety comes from the body teaching itself to be afraid of rejection. Mentally i can deal with it but my body can't. Sometimes when i talk to girls i'll be fine, but it's those other times. To explain it i get a warm (bad) feeling in my stomach and my heart beat speeds up and sometimes i feel bloated. So about 2 times i told myself i would approach anyways, and that these feelings couldn't help me. But when i talked to the girl my voice came out all weird and unconfident, due to so much going on in my body. This happened 2 times. I visited some site www.innergametapping.com, where they tap certain points of the body to train your nervous system to stop being defensive around girls. I tried it a few times but im not sure if it worked, has anyone else had experience with this site?

What should i do when this approach anxiety comes up again, i mean i get it really bad sometimes, (the bloated stomach, the heart beating feeling). I think it really limits me.
 

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Instead of telling yourself that the girl might not like you, tell yourself there's nothing about yourself that she shouldn't like. Positive self talk! Say, "Hmmm, I like this girl, and I wonder what she has to offer," over and over. Try not to think of anything else until you say something to her.
 

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when i get anxiety i tell myself that im the biggest ****ing loser in the entire universe, my penis is so small that i need a magnifing glass to jerk off ect... piss off your ego and you become egoless but feel like you must prove yourself too yourself and the ego is like a little devil inside that will haunt you
 
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