Zapp Brannigan
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There's a friend of mine, and we talk about pretty much everything. About three years ago I was desperate, and came to him for help about a girl. This was my first love, I had a bad case of oneitius, and ZERO experience at that point. I told him all kinds of cringe worthy details, and he gave the best advice he could.
She was already taken, but I wanted to show I cared and help my chances if she became single, so I went out of my way to talk to her for a bit after that. She seemed to like it, and came around more. I quit chasing after realizing I was on the verge of becoming an orbiter. I know now how badly handled everything was on my end. She's still with him and to this day still occasionally acts interested, but I have no idea whether or not it's sincere. Might have all been a ploy for attention, given she does have a fair share of orbiters. The lack of any real closure made me have a hard time putting the past behind me.
This friend means well, but whenever you tell him something like this, he'll unintentionally nag about it. When chasing her he'd ask how things were going, and I'd say a little bit and ask him to back off. After telling him enough to stop, he finally stopped asking on a regular basis. But still talks about her about once a year.
She's a member of a church related group, and every time he brings up the group or people from it I get worried he'll ask/talk about her. This friend works with a guy who knows the girl, he told me that but didn't go into detail about what was said, just that he knows a guy who knows her. The other day he brings up this work friend again and says how he and the guy were talking about how wild this dude who left the group years ago is. I responded by saying how it's always the types who pretend to be really clean that act the wildest, he says "I know" in a tone like he knew what I was trying to say. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but he might have thought I was hinting that about the girl. This friend already told me once when he was drunk how he thinks she's a most likely a slvt, part of me feels she might be, and my friend knows something about her that he isn't saying.
Just tired of how he won't ever let this one go. If I confront him about it he'll think something bad happened. It's none of his business, and I wish he would drop it. There's a Christmas get together the group is having on the 23rd, and I don't even want to go because he'll go with me (there's no I would be able to go without him tagging along) and he'll try to interpret what the situation is between me and this girl. He'll come up with assertions like if me and the girl talk she loves me, if we don't we hate each other. After the last get Christmas get together he was telling me how good she looked in a blue dress she was wearing, so he'll undoubtedly bring her up if he goes to the thing this year. There's also a promotion of sorts coming up where there will be a small celebration, and I'm thinking about trying to put that off by a couple months so the girl won't be there, and my friend won't be able to make assertions.
This isn't the only female he nags about either, it's like he tries to live out a life through me. What should I do about this friend? I'm tired of him asking and living in fear of him talking about s**t that happened ALMOST THREE YEARS AGO.
She was already taken, but I wanted to show I cared and help my chances if she became single, so I went out of my way to talk to her for a bit after that. She seemed to like it, and came around more. I quit chasing after realizing I was on the verge of becoming an orbiter. I know now how badly handled everything was on my end. She's still with him and to this day still occasionally acts interested, but I have no idea whether or not it's sincere. Might have all been a ploy for attention, given she does have a fair share of orbiters. The lack of any real closure made me have a hard time putting the past behind me.
This friend means well, but whenever you tell him something like this, he'll unintentionally nag about it. When chasing her he'd ask how things were going, and I'd say a little bit and ask him to back off. After telling him enough to stop, he finally stopped asking on a regular basis. But still talks about her about once a year.
She's a member of a church related group, and every time he brings up the group or people from it I get worried he'll ask/talk about her. This friend works with a guy who knows the girl, he told me that but didn't go into detail about what was said, just that he knows a guy who knows her. The other day he brings up this work friend again and says how he and the guy were talking about how wild this dude who left the group years ago is. I responded by saying how it's always the types who pretend to be really clean that act the wildest, he says "I know" in a tone like he knew what I was trying to say. Maybe I'm overthinking it, but he might have thought I was hinting that about the girl. This friend already told me once when he was drunk how he thinks she's a most likely a slvt, part of me feels she might be, and my friend knows something about her that he isn't saying.
Just tired of how he won't ever let this one go. If I confront him about it he'll think something bad happened. It's none of his business, and I wish he would drop it. There's a Christmas get together the group is having on the 23rd, and I don't even want to go because he'll go with me (there's no I would be able to go without him tagging along) and he'll try to interpret what the situation is between me and this girl. He'll come up with assertions like if me and the girl talk she loves me, if we don't we hate each other. After the last get Christmas get together he was telling me how good she looked in a blue dress she was wearing, so he'll undoubtedly bring her up if he goes to the thing this year. There's also a promotion of sorts coming up where there will be a small celebration, and I'm thinking about trying to put that off by a couple months so the girl won't be there, and my friend won't be able to make assertions.
This isn't the only female he nags about either, it's like he tries to live out a life through me. What should I do about this friend? I'm tired of him asking and living in fear of him talking about s**t that happened ALMOST THREE YEARS AGO.
