What should I do about friend's girlfriend?

[Mizzou-Rah]

Okay, I'm not really sure where to start on this. First off, I have been pretty good friends with this 1 girl for a little bit, but my intentions from the beginning for getting to know her was to try and fukk her. Nothing really developed too far besides kissing (I didn't really give her enough attention to make something happen), but we stayed friends. Fast forward about a month or two, she has now started dating my friend and fraternity brother, which I'm cool with. However, she continues to call me, wanting to hang out, go do stuff, etc. Also, when we are at social gatherings (parties, bar, etc.) she pays more attention to me than anyone else, including her boyfriend. Normally this wouldn't bother me, but other people are beginning to notice this and wondering what is up. This guy is my friend and I don't want him to think I'm trying to steal his girl (i'm not), but when other people start talking you never know what will be said. Adding to it, there is definite sexual tension between us when we are together, and I can pretty much guarantee that this girl would fukk if i gave her the opportunity (which i wouldn't until my friend and her broke up). So, what should I do about this girl? One option is I can cut off contact with her, which I have slightly started by not answering phone calls from her the past day or two. I feel weird about doing this because I do like her as a friend (her and her friends are great social proof), and I don't want her telling people I am an ******* because I don't want to hang out and I don't answer her calls. The other option is I can just ignore what everyone else thinks, but then my friend (and everyone else) might think that I'm trying to steal his gf from him. What do you guys think I should do?

 

[Skel]

well you say she is your friend and he is your friend.

So if they are both really your friends,
1)he will trust you as his friend not to **** his girl and know you are telling truth

2)If she is really your friend why not see her because of your other male friend

Doesent make sense. who cares what people say? Obviously you do so change your attitude to who gives a ****

 

[Mizzou-Rah]

Good points, but I'm worried that he may think I am trying to move in on his girl, whether he wants to admit it or not. I know it's easy to say who gives a **** what everyone else thinks, but I don't want to look like the type of guy who tries to get with other dudes girlfriends, that's not cool.

If you had a girlfriend who was always hanging out with another guy, wouldn't you be kind of worried about the situation? Is it really okay for me to be good friends with a girl who is dating one of my guy friends? Why does she make it weird at social gatherings by giving me nonstop kino and never leaving me alone? This girl has me confused, and normally I would just blow her off, but I wouldn't mind getting with her when her and my boy break up (which I'm sure they will since we're in college).

 

[Sir Shags Alot]

Dude that girl is really only interested in you. Girls have hidden agendas. Could she be using your friend as a placeholder so she can get with you....I bet anything she is. This girl I know did the same thing to my friend and she even told me her whole intention the entire time was to get with me. She just went out with him so she could have a excuse to see me. I know this is hard but you got to think what you want. You want the girl or your friend? Its pretty cut and dry. While some guys can get over you snatching there babe others can't, it depends on your friend.

so

1) cut her off entirely out of respect for your friend

or

2) hit that chick

 

[Mizzou-Rah]

Sir Shags Alot, I think you may be right (btw, you in KC too? I'm in North KC). This girl and I had been flirting back and forth for a couple weeks, I could tell she was into me but I was trying to play it cool with her for awhile to not let her know I liked her that much. Well, one night at the bar I start flirting with one of her friends, basically just trying to make her jealous. Long story short, her friend and I hit it off, I took her home that night, and I ended up dating her for the next 2-3 weeks.

While me and this girl's friend dated for a couple weeks, she would always come hang out with us and always talked about how great a guy I am, how good i dress, etc. Eventually I grew tired of her friend and broke up with her, but before I could cut her loose and get with the original girl, my friend hooked up with her at a party and decided he liked her enough to start dating her. So, my guess is that she was trying to get back at me by dating one of my friends, but continuing to want me.

So, does everyone else agree that I really have only 2 options here? I can either cut her off entirely, therefore making myself look like a total prick, or say fukk my boy and nail her anyways (which i wouldn't do). Is there anyway I can keep this going without looking like i'm trying to steal his girl, or is there even a point to continue to be friends with her?

 

[DankNuggs]

hell ya....don't listen to these fools...You can stay friends with all of them...Don't cross the line...Get it out of your head that you want to bang her...

All guy-girl friendships have the sexual tension...keep this girl and her friends around as social proof. If your boy gets in your face, let him know that your friends, if he can't handle it, he's a jealous pu$$Y and should get rid of the girl before he gets rid of you....

 

[Mizzou-Rah]

bump...

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Tell your buddy that he has a cheating ho for a girlfriend...and if she doesn't get screwed by you then someoe else will 'do 'her soon!!!