What she means by "NO CHEMISTRY"

[vicki]

Everything these days has a politically correct term, and when she says "you're a really great guy, but there's no chemistry there".....

she's being really nice but firmly telling you she's not attracted to you.

It let's her off easy. After all, "chemistry" is some elusive thing that "cant be controlled". Its not her fault.

You may be a "great guy", responsible, fun, intelligent, well educated, and all but you're not pushing her "alpha" buttons.

By the way, this is also the explanation for why she's going to end up with a LOSER/VIOLENT/ guy that she ends up TOTALLY SURPRISED treats her awful.

Then, when the loser brings untold sorrow and heartache into her life she is going to tell the world that "BUT HE SEEMED LIKE SUCH A GOOD GUY"....,,...WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD GUYS IN THE WORLD?"

The truth is, she dumped one in search of the loser.

 

[blayde]

Women BLIND to subconscious choices

Just like in the book of genesis, it was EVE who was decieved and not Adam.

Women are for the most part totally unaware of picking out the loser and rejecting the good guy.

Youre right,

 

[NeverFear]

Why looks matters most

Yep,, it all comes back to looks.

If she says 'theres no chemistry' what she really means is she doesnt like your looks

its a way of saying that without saying that

 

[honeyshark]

"You're really not my type" also means the same thing.

 

[becker]

Yeah, looks are the first thing that either kills your chances or lets you in the door. A girl will find a way to let you off easy if she isn't into your looks, and this is just one way she'll deny you if you're ugly but nice.

 

[jakethasnake]

Funny post. Absolutely true.

 

[sux2bu]

Girls only want guys that are attractive... They want guys that are in DEMAND, that way, they can brag and show them off. They want to make their girlfriends jealous. i.e. -- "Hey, look what I got!" Oh, and if you're hung like a horse. That's just icing on the cake for her. They love to gossip in the girls bathroom about that. Actually that's the first thing they do behind our backs is call their g/f's after the first time to let them know.

 

[affirmed]

I disagree about it just being about looks. Women will often use 'chemistry' as the reason they got with a guy that might not look the part.

"I know he's not that attractive but there's so much chemistry"

She'll say this cause her attraction isn't logical and she can't explain it.

 

[Livingitup22]

What Affirmed says is correct. It is about not being attractive to her, but that may not mean it's your looks.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Originally posted by Livingitup22
It is about not being attractive to her, but that may not mean it's your looks.

That's true, but about 50% of the time it will be physical looks. 30% of the time it will be status/money. And only 10% of the time it will be personality.

Personality is the least likely trait to be rejected or accepted early on because it can take a long time to discover personality. Most women will have selected or rejected you long before they come to know your real personality.

Many women do buy the idea that selecting on looks or status is shallow. Yet they find themselves doing it that way anyhow. So it is no wonder they find weasel words to explain their selection criteria.

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by BobbDobbs
That's true, but about 50% of the time it will be physical looks. 30% of the time it will be status/money. And only 10% of the time it will be personality.

Personality is the least likely trait to be rejected or accepted early on because it can take a long time to discover personality. Most women will have selected or rejected you long before they come to know your real personality.

Many women do buy the idea that selecting on looks or status is shallow. Yet they find themselves doing it that way anyhow. So it is no wonder they find weasel words to explain their selection criteria.

Spoken like a man of experience in life.