What Really Goes On In Women's Minds When They See Muscular Men?

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Sometimes the attention can be quite amazing even when you go out not seeking to get it. I've noticed and I'm sure a lot of guys here who work out experience this as well-the way women tend to stare when you happen to wear a T-shirt or a long-sleeved shirt that seems to show that you have some huge biceps and triceps...making them bulge out quite well and also showing off the size of your chest.



Many just seem to stand there as if hypnotized and confused, staring at you as if virtually begging for your attention and for you to say a word to them. You hardly get to walk past unnoticed. On the other hand, some men (let's call them the "haters") don't seem to like seeing you getting that kind of attention at all and give you unkind and unfriendly looks when you walk past them, as if you're doing something wrong by once in a while wearing something that shows your physical build.


In terms of women it seems as if a lot of them do go into their "primal instinct mode" when they notice muscular guys. In most African countries including mine for instance, bodybuilding/lifting weights has never really been part of the culture. Things have changed quite a lot with the younger generation who watch music videos from the US and see artists like 50 Cent, Timbaland, etc., and the percentage of muscular men within most African countries isn't very high at all.


Most muscular guys in African countries tend to be guys who studied in Europe or the US and then returned to their countries or guys who don't live there and show up when they are on vacation. Then there's a minority who have gotten into the muscular thing from watching American videos and movies and who live in those countries. In most African countries, the majority of cops are skinny (though a good number nowadays are muscular) and there's a tendency for them to stereotype muscular men as possible criminals/bad guys particularly when they are casually dressed e.g. in T-shirts and denim pants.
 

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Women like musclular men, but I don't think the visual sexual trigger is anywhere near as intense as the way a man is wired to respond to the female shape.
 

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Women love it but honestly it also helps if you have an attractive face to go with it. Not saying its a must but it definitely helps. A great muscular body makes you look dominant and women know they are the weaker sex when they see such a dominant looking man. When i walk into a bar or lounge and im wearing a fitted shirt, i get looks and stares all the time. I have a 30" waist but muscular broad shoulders, chest, Arms etc and it just feel dominant, probably due to high testosterone. Im not gonna lie, Ive taken testosterone and when i was on it.. i had absolutely no fear whatsoever to talk to not just one girl but a group of them and pulling the one i want out of the group. The link is my favorite fitness model Ryan Terry, I can bet anything that if this guy walked into a bar in a fitted t shirt, The bar would start to reek of wet panties. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2j3Rm0S2WA
 

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You are the guy dating a single mom are you not?

On the flip side, asians consider muscles to be highly un-attractive, even grotesque. Why? I dunno but you often see lanky Chinese guys with big thick glasses and pocket protectors walking around with insanely hot women. I think muscle denotes physical labour, something seen as peasentry here in the Red kingdom.
 
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@LiveFreeX: You must not be up to date on my posts. The single mom and I parted ways over a month ago now and I've seen been dating a so far wonderful woman without children whom I met while walking down the street one bright afternoon three weeks ago. We so far have great chemistry and are getting to know each other better.
 

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I may be in a high BF% approx 20% but I am built like a brick sh!thouse yes the girls stare a bit since I have been lifting. But I do believe that a lot of the whole women staring at muscular men is not only aesthetics but mental as well, shows high testosterone, can protect, hunter not a gatherer and all that other primal stuff but also the complete confidence boost that comes with looking better and you hold yourself better too.

My only problem is where I am both in Australia and New Zealand I found that 9/10 times I go to the clubs some bloke tries to pick a fight with me just because Im big. But that being said size and strength helped me out when some drunken idiot knocked over my broad, picked him up by the scruff and then proceeded to get an apology while he was ****ting himself while all 3 of his mates backed off and dropped nuts.
 

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doesnt matter if you are buff/shredded/bulked/Hooooooge or look like sergio oliva , if you dont approach, you wont get laid.easy as that.

and no im not a skinny asshat.

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I'm not sure if it's the actual muscles that attract attention. i believe it has to do more with the overt masculinity. I've heard many women say they hate muscles.
 

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I appreciate you guys sharing your perspectives. I don't deny that muscles alone probably won't do much if you don't have game and confidence but based on what I see, they do make you get noticed quite a great deal and there's women out there who seem very much willing to overlook your flaws as long as you have a good physique. A muscular, well-built guy has in my opinion a 90% chance of being noticed immediately than a skinny guy because most people are visual-they tend to notice the physical first. And well, this is just my own personal opinion based on what I've noticed both here in Africa and in the US: I think I can safely conclude there are a lot more female muscle-man lovers than haters.
 

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Frank2500 said:
A muscular, well-built guy has in my opinion a 90% chance of being noticed immediately
If you walked into a place with a three foot orange hat that had a spinning propeller on top, you'd also get noticed immediately.

You may THINK they are noticing you because they respect your masculinity and are responding on a deep evolutionary level of unconscious sexual desire, but then again, they may be thinking, "wow, that guys got some nice muscles."

The best way to get noticed is to walk up and start talking to her.

I'd bet that 100% of guys that did THAT would get noticed!
 

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I agree with the muscular part. But, it is more important to have almost no body fat - ie not to be too bulky. I am 56 now and I am not huge any more but have lost my fat - especially around the waist and am down to 72 Kg. I have a very athletic build now and that attracts huge interest woman think that I am only fourty - especially since I am not gray and have a ginger tache.

But game is the key! with women and men. No one picks a fight with me as they instinctively know that I can handle myself and woman are very attracted at a primal level - especially because I flirt and dance with them and apply kino early in the pickup.

Men say "Wow, that guy knows how to operate! He's so smooth."
 

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Ballie57 said:
I agree with the muscular part. But, it is more important to have almost no body fat - ie not to be too bulky.
Everyone talks about the low fat, washboard ab guys. But what about the big fat biker gang type? Supposedly these guys attract women too. Motorcycles attract girls because of the inherent danger and fun of getting to go for a ride. But I think muscles, as well as the big biker gang type dude, appeals to women because they see protection. They see a guy that others probaby won't mess with, and that can handle himself.
 

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Espi said:
Let's just say that the vast majority of women certainly won't be repelled by a muscular physique.
I Concur... I`ve made tens of thousands of dollars off my physique when I was stripping... Having a highly aesthetic physique (good muscle mass with a low bodyfat%) is a great equalizer. It will get you laid with minimal game, effort and resources. Hell I was doing pretty well when I was stripping haha, even though I had a shiit ride, was living in a small room and didn`t have a huge amount of cash to through around... I`m also not particularly tall (5-8) or good looking... The stripping gave me great social proof at clubs.

I LOVED the hilarious reactions from girls just walking down the street with a tank top on during the summer months!
 

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The biggest difference I've found in building a more muscular physique is that more women approach me first rather than them just sitting back "hoping" that I will approach them.

The second thing I've noticed is that more GUYS want to hang with me to increase their own approval ratings with the ladies just by association.

Then again, the fact that the older I get "the more comfortable I get in my OWN skin"---probably has a lot to do with it too.

To me, the bottom line is that whether you're fat, skinny, well-defined, or HUGE---just OWN who you are, be COMFORTABLE with who you are, and let who you are SHINE OUT from you naturally and without apology.

Then, you'll start to notice that people be drawn to your "light" for a variety of different reasons---and MOST of'em will be "good" reasons.


Soldier On.


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zekko said:
Women like musclular men, but I don't think the visual sexual trigger is anywhere near as intense as the way a man is wired to respond to the female shape.
Ah, beat me to it.

zekko said:
Everyone talks about the low fat, washboard ab guys. But what about the big fat biker gang type? Supposedly these guys attract women too. Motorcycles attract girls because of the inherent danger and fun of getting to go for a ride.
--What kind of women? I can't think of any woman I know - educated, all - that would go out with them. They go for winners, and the hardcore biker culture, like so many subcultures, is just a way to achieve some status that you didn't get through a career. In real life, away from movies romanticizing them, bikers are ... not really attractive. And more often than not they are fat, it seems.

--Motorbikes, that's another thing. You can have a motorbike without being a "biker". Motorbikes are indeed a plus. A normal guy will benefit from getting a motorbike. I have been thinking of that myself. But it is costly, I would have no practical need for one, and they are actually quite dangerous.

The_flying_dutchman said:
I'm not sure if it's the actual muscles that attract attention. i believe it has to do more with the overt masculinity. I've heard many women say they hate muscles.
They like goodlooking muscles. Not muscles that are so big they look like they aren't part of your body.

But they almost always say they don't like muscles ... maybe a way to berate men for consciously doing something to catch women. Or a way to excuse their own lack of effort. I wonder if women who are very goodlooking say they don't like guys with muscles. I see such women with athletic guys all the time.
 

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Women physiologically respond to masculinity triggers, just as men respond to makeup, hair, clothing, largely regardless of the actual natural beauty of a woman or lack thereof.

It may be that they say they don't like guys with muscles because that would make them appear "shallow" within their herd.

Regardless of what they think they are attracted to, they respond to anything and everything that is classically masculine... Muscles, health, height, mastery of machines, mastery of skills, etc.

Just a couple of weeks ago a woman who formerly would barely give me the time of day started getting all over me once I told her about my motorcycles. Same man, same personality, same everything, except now a bit of the imagined "motorcycle rebel" thrown in. Now she's making all sorts of sexual innuendos in anticipation of her promised ride on the back of my Harley.
 

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I think when women say they don't like muscles they're talking about the freakish looking bodybuilding type guys with the veins running all over and the super low body fat so you can see every bit of sinew.

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What kind of women? I can't think of any woman I know - educated, all - that would go out with them. They go for winners, and the hardcore biker culture, like so many subcultures, is just a way to achieve some status that you didn't get through a career. In real life, away from movies romanticizing them, bikers are ... not really attractive. And more often than not they are fat, it seems.
I don't really have any first hand information on this. I just remember watching a documentary on bikers, and they had all these big fat biker types on there. And there were other guys on camera saying that those fat bikers would have first pick of any woman that walked into the bar.

I don't know if that's true, maybe they're girls into biker culture as you say. But I have seen some big guys who were rather portly who were able to get some pretty decent looking women. Like I said, I think it's because of the "Protection" angle.

Wolfgang D said:
A normal guy will benefit from getting a motorbike. I have been thinking of that myself. But it is costly, I would have no practical need for one, and they are actually quite dangerous.
I decided at a young age not to get a motorcycle, because EVERYONE I knew who had one broke their leg on it, or broke something. Every single one. Now that I'm older and see the effect motorcycles have on women, I'm thinking maybe I made too rash a decision. Oh well, no point in changing now.

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Now she's making all sorts of sexual innuendos in anticipation of her promised ride on the back of my Harley.
Women love the Harley name, too. I don't know how many women I know that have Harley stickers on their car, wear Harley Davidson apparel, or whatnot. It's a cool brand to them. Reminds me of how a lot of women like to wear NFL gear.
 

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I have a female client. cute little thing. actually here's a picture

https://si0.twimg.com/profile_images/151558121/DG2.JPG
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26 years old. actually we have the same birthday so she's exactly 4 years younger than myself.

yeah, she's like, my little sister we are cool as hell. she won't won't date a guy that isn't a meat head. Just not attracted to them.

and before someone rols in and calls her a CCrider or some other sterotype she has her **** together seriously. runs her own business, that makes money, no kids, no real serious debt, a little school debt but that's it. doesn't drink, doesn't even really party. she just like guys who are seriously into muscles lol. not even like my size, i'm 5'8 170 and am pretty cut up but she told me point blank i'm too small lol. she likes football players.


at the same time, my wife hates it when i get anything over 175. she likes me at about 165 but that's too small for me i start o lose muscle. she likes the athletic look more than the meat head look


different strokes different folks. the thing is, first before you worry about what girls want, you have to first get in the gym. Then it just comes down to preference of the females. some will like bulging muscles. when i was 190 and i was built i got ass. but i felt better at 170 and i still got ass.
 

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This is an easy question to answer ... breading!

It's instinct, just like how a .7 to 1 waste hip ratio somehow appeals to us men.

Some men frequent strip clubs. Most would likely not take one of these women serious, but almost all are attracted to them and would bang the crap out of one given the chance without being caught by someone/scandal. Women are no different.

SH
 

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SecondHalf said:
This is an easy question to answer ... breading!

It's instinct, just like how a .7 to 1 waste hip ratio somehow appeals to us men.

Some men frequent strip clubs. Most would likely not take one of these women serious, but almost all are attracted to them and would bang the crap out of one given the chance without being caught by someone/scandal. Women are no different.

SH

holy **** i just had one of those moments.


this is a perfect analogy. Guys are too hell bent on trying to be both guys. You just said it yourself. Yes I would LOOK at the girls in the strip club, I Might even talk to a few or get some titties in my face for a minute but i would never take any of them seriously regardless of how attracted to them, because they are strippers. Yes they probably get banged and guys go gaga over them and **** like that but i mean, they are *****s. who cares.

somewhere along the line, it became BETA to not want to be the male equivalent of a stripper. If I'm good looking but nothing else that's all women will want me for is for sex, and while that sounds good. think about your local strip club *****s. you think they are very happy get sex and nothing else? the only guys who want them are true to the game losers.

I want a woman, i HAVE a woman that is attracted to me, but is in LOVE with me beucase of things other than how big my **** is or how good i look with my shirt off. that's what it's about
 
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