Hey guys, if you want to read an intro into my problem, see here:
...and if you don't want to read it, i've summarized below
- i know this isn't as interesting as a lot of posts on this board, but i'm an afc and need some help
i'll try to make this as short as possible:
-meet girl at my cousin-in-law's graduation party (she is my cousin-in-law's niece, one year younger than me, no blood relation, it's all good)
-we hit it off real well, we have a lot in common, i get her number, she lives an hour away from me, she mentions she's coming to my city in a few weekends
-that weekend arrives, we almost get together, but didn't, weekend ends with me supposed to call her to get ice cream, but she had given me "maybe, have to see what's goin on"....so i didn't call
-fast forward a week(the monday just passed), i call her, the first thing she says is "what happened? why didn't you call?", this is a good sign i guess, shows she was disappointed that i didn't call, anyways, i did the dj thing and didn' t apologize, just mentioned that something came up
- i talked to her for a few minutes and then mention that i'm going away for the weekend on friday and will be passing through her city....i ask her to get together for a few hours on friday...she said yes, so i told her i'd call her on thursday
- last night, i called her, told her i'd pick her up at 7, she tells me that she probably can't make it because her 12 year-old cousins are coming to stay with her for the weekend
-it turns out that she had left a message with her aunt and uncle on the sunday (the day before i called to ask her out) to see if her cousins wanted to stay for the weekend
-on monday when i called, she hadn't gotten an answer from her aunt, that's why she told me yes when i asked her out...however, her aunt left a message on her machine on wednesday saying that she would be dropping the kids off after school on friday...kinda sucks that they did that over a machine...she didn't have a chance to tell them that she had made other plans
- anyways, the conversation on thursday ends with her telling me she may be able to get her aunt to drop the kids off late on friday, to give her time to go out with me...so i tell her sure, call me tomorrow and let me know...she said she'd leave a message on my machine
- today, i get home from work and sure enough there is a message for me....basically she said she couldn't make it, but she wanted to thank me for the offer...told me to take care
- my gut interpreted the message as "goodbye, thanks but no thanks i don't want you"
This kinda sucks, i thought i'd get at least one date out of this girl. I'm planning on nexting her for now, I mean if she wanted to get together with me I think she would have said in the message "call me or maybe next time" or some other chick bs. I admit I'm a bit depressed. I was looking at tonight as a potential turning point for me out of AFC land. Also, I'm definitely not getting oneitis over this chick, but we really do have a lot in common. Maybe she feels pressure from the fact that her uncle is my cousin-in-law. I'm not sure. What would you guys do? Rip up her number and block her from your consciousness? I'm thinking I'll keep her number and call her in 2 or 3 weeks and her ask her out again. As long as I don't develop feelings for her, I don't see what it can hurt. I have a few other potential targets to work on, but this girl was my first choice right now. Any advice appreciated.
...and if you don't want to read it, i've summarized below
- i know this isn't as interesting as a lot of posts on this board, but i'm an afc and need some help
i'll try to make this as short as possible:
-meet girl at my cousin-in-law's graduation party (she is my cousin-in-law's niece, one year younger than me, no blood relation, it's all good)
-we hit it off real well, we have a lot in common, i get her number, she lives an hour away from me, she mentions she's coming to my city in a few weekends
-that weekend arrives, we almost get together, but didn't, weekend ends with me supposed to call her to get ice cream, but she had given me "maybe, have to see what's goin on"....so i didn't call
-fast forward a week(the monday just passed), i call her, the first thing she says is "what happened? why didn't you call?", this is a good sign i guess, shows she was disappointed that i didn't call, anyways, i did the dj thing and didn' t apologize, just mentioned that something came up
- i talked to her for a few minutes and then mention that i'm going away for the weekend on friday and will be passing through her city....i ask her to get together for a few hours on friday...she said yes, so i told her i'd call her on thursday
- last night, i called her, told her i'd pick her up at 7, she tells me that she probably can't make it because her 12 year-old cousins are coming to stay with her for the weekend
-it turns out that she had left a message with her aunt and uncle on the sunday (the day before i called to ask her out) to see if her cousins wanted to stay for the weekend
-on monday when i called, she hadn't gotten an answer from her aunt, that's why she told me yes when i asked her out...however, her aunt left a message on her machine on wednesday saying that she would be dropping the kids off after school on friday...kinda sucks that they did that over a machine...she didn't have a chance to tell them that she had made other plans
- anyways, the conversation on thursday ends with her telling me she may be able to get her aunt to drop the kids off late on friday, to give her time to go out with me...so i tell her sure, call me tomorrow and let me know...she said she'd leave a message on my machine
- today, i get home from work and sure enough there is a message for me....basically she said she couldn't make it, but she wanted to thank me for the offer...told me to take care
- my gut interpreted the message as "goodbye, thanks but no thanks i don't want you"
This kinda sucks, i thought i'd get at least one date out of this girl. I'm planning on nexting her for now, I mean if she wanted to get together with me I think she would have said in the message "call me or maybe next time" or some other chick bs. I admit I'm a bit depressed. I was looking at tonight as a potential turning point for me out of AFC land. Also, I'm definitely not getting oneitis over this chick, but we really do have a lot in common. Maybe she feels pressure from the fact that her uncle is my cousin-in-law. I'm not sure. What would you guys do? Rip up her number and block her from your consciousness? I'm thinking I'll keep her number and call her in 2 or 3 weeks and her ask her out again. As long as I don't develop feelings for her, I don't see what it can hurt. I have a few other potential targets to work on, but this girl was my first choice right now. Any advice appreciated.
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