Obsidian said:
Sex is meant to cement love and create children. There is no point to a ONS, except maybe to kill off your desperation, I guess. But I don't believe in ONSs.
Beware the hor matrix!
I heard recently that condoms fail 80% of the time. Is that true?
Yes, it's true, sex is really simply an act which we are "wired" to perform. And the "purpose" (if you want a label) is procreation. Sociopsychological stuff is all intertwined with sex, and that is BECAUSE it's important for us to want to have sex, so that we reproduce (i.e., the "Selfish Gene" commands us. -- this is not about our selfishness, but the gene's)
So, what do we have? An act which we find pleasurable, and to which we attach all kinds of stuff, in order to have a society which "works." There are frequently consequences to the act, and because we are human, with higher reasoning skills than the "lower" animals, we make up all kinds of rules about sex. Dogs just f*ck, they don't worry about what f*cking means. And, the fact that some SMALL number of animal species are "monogamous" is irrelevant. The sex "means" nothing to them, They are simply playing by the instinctual drives that they have inherited.
Sex "means" nothing, in reality. It's a biological function. We, as humans, have attached a lot of stuff to it. That's not WRONG, but it is what it is. Stuff we've made up. And we made it up in a sort of "evolution" of culture, in a collective attempt to give ourselves the best chances of survival, reproduction, and raising the products of that reproduction.
So, when you ask "what meaning is there in a ONS?," one can answer --- nothing, or everything, or whatever one wishes.
What's the "meaning" of a beautiful sunrise, or a shot of 20yo scotch, or, closer to home, the sound of the laughter of one's children? What we find meaning in, we find meaning in. Sex is sex. Everyone has their answer.
(I like ONS's a LOT, BTW. But I like the sounds of my kids laughing more.)