NaturallySelected
Don Juan
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Hi guys
I am sure we have all asked ourselves many times in our lives, just what is life about? I find it especially difficult because I do not believe in God, and believe we are all here purely by chance. That leaves me asking, why am I here? What should I do when I'm here.
A lot of times since I left highschool I have felt empty. As if I am just floating along through life, achieving nothing. I felt as if I should be doing something "BIG", something to change the World. And I think we all do.
Over the last two years I have been OBSESSED with getting a girl friend, and getting laid. I was failing at university, didnt have any real hobbies and I just wanted a girlfriend. Even though I KNEW the DJ mindest is AGAINST needing a girlfriend, I still wanted one to be "happy". Why? Well, I have never had real girlfriend, and I am a virgin. I think when we feel we need a girlfriend in our lives to be happy it is because we have a need to feel validated, we need to know that SOMEONE out there cares that we exist. And loves us not because we are family, but because we are who we are.
What I am saying is, if any of you reading this are unhappy with your lives and are thinking a girlfriend will make things better. You're right, but the effect won't last forever. You see once you get used to having a girlfriend, it's no longer exciting. And if your life was boring before you met her, it will be boring within a year of getting together with her. You still won't be happy because you have not found what truly makes you happy.
My friend was an AFC like me. He was obsessed with getting a girlfriend. It was ridiculous, but he did a lot of things right. He approached every girl he was interested in, got rejected countless times, but ended up getting an attractive girlfriend and getting laid for the first time in his life. He was happy, you could see it. He had more confidence, and his boring job didn't seem so bad anymore.
Fast-foward a year and a half later. We spoke today and he was telling me how the relationship with his GF is no longer interesting. And how he feels he is just floating through life doing nothing. Each day goes on and on, but it doesn't feel like he's going anywhere. He felt like I felt not too long ago, yet he got what I thought I NEEDED. A girlfriend. But his happiness was only temporary.
You will never feel happy in life unless you have a PASSION for something (as I believe Pook? said). You need to find something in life that you WANT TO LIVE FOR. trust me, it's not a woman. There's something you would really enjoy doing with your time. Life, to me, is all about keeping yourself occupied, about learning new things and constatly pushing yourself to change for the better. That way you will always feel like you are moving. When I first started talking to girls, meeting new people, and going on dates. CHANGING MYSELF. I felt happy, because I was "moving". Growing. then I had slump where I did nothing, and I was the unhappiest I've ever been in my life. Change yourself for the better MAKE this life what you want it to be. People CAN change, it's NEVER easy but it's possible.
Now this is NOT an excuse to avoid approaching that chick at work
. This is a reminder that women are not all there is too life, they are an exciting part of life but not EVERYTHING. Go outside and look around you (if you're in the city, go to the country). Look how beautiful the world is, how every thing works so wonderfully together. Feel the grass beneath your feet stare into that blue sky. Stare up at the stars at night, and tell me it isn't beautiful. Life is fantastic, you only get one chance at it. When you are dead, that's it. The end. You will have either wasted your time here and made the most of what you have.
Just think about it.
NaturallySelected
I am sure we have all asked ourselves many times in our lives, just what is life about? I find it especially difficult because I do not believe in God, and believe we are all here purely by chance. That leaves me asking, why am I here? What should I do when I'm here.
A lot of times since I left highschool I have felt empty. As if I am just floating along through life, achieving nothing. I felt as if I should be doing something "BIG", something to change the World. And I think we all do.
Over the last two years I have been OBSESSED with getting a girl friend, and getting laid. I was failing at university, didnt have any real hobbies and I just wanted a girlfriend. Even though I KNEW the DJ mindest is AGAINST needing a girlfriend, I still wanted one to be "happy". Why? Well, I have never had real girlfriend, and I am a virgin. I think when we feel we need a girlfriend in our lives to be happy it is because we have a need to feel validated, we need to know that SOMEONE out there cares that we exist. And loves us not because we are family, but because we are who we are.
What I am saying is, if any of you reading this are unhappy with your lives and are thinking a girlfriend will make things better. You're right, but the effect won't last forever. You see once you get used to having a girlfriend, it's no longer exciting. And if your life was boring before you met her, it will be boring within a year of getting together with her. You still won't be happy because you have not found what truly makes you happy.
My friend was an AFC like me. He was obsessed with getting a girlfriend. It was ridiculous, but he did a lot of things right. He approached every girl he was interested in, got rejected countless times, but ended up getting an attractive girlfriend and getting laid for the first time in his life. He was happy, you could see it. He had more confidence, and his boring job didn't seem so bad anymore.
Fast-foward a year and a half later. We spoke today and he was telling me how the relationship with his GF is no longer interesting. And how he feels he is just floating through life doing nothing. Each day goes on and on, but it doesn't feel like he's going anywhere. He felt like I felt not too long ago, yet he got what I thought I NEEDED. A girlfriend. But his happiness was only temporary.
You will never feel happy in life unless you have a PASSION for something (as I believe Pook? said). You need to find something in life that you WANT TO LIVE FOR. trust me, it's not a woman. There's something you would really enjoy doing with your time. Life, to me, is all about keeping yourself occupied, about learning new things and constatly pushing yourself to change for the better. That way you will always feel like you are moving. When I first started talking to girls, meeting new people, and going on dates. CHANGING MYSELF. I felt happy, because I was "moving". Growing. then I had slump where I did nothing, and I was the unhappiest I've ever been in my life. Change yourself for the better MAKE this life what you want it to be. People CAN change, it's NEVER easy but it's possible.
Now this is NOT an excuse to avoid approaching that chick at work
. This is a reminder that women are not all there is too life, they are an exciting part of life but not EVERYTHING. Go outside and look around you (if you're in the city, go to the country). Look how beautiful the world is, how every thing works so wonderfully together. Feel the grass beneath your feet stare into that blue sky. Stare up at the stars at night, and tell me it isn't beautiful. Life is fantastic, you only get one chance at it. When you are dead, that's it. The end. You will have either wasted your time here and made the most of what you have.Just think about it.
NaturallySelected
