What keeps a girl faithful and loyal to you?

[drift_king]

How attached do girls become to a guy and not let any other guys in?

My bad experience with this girl showed me that even if I was with her and things went fine I'd be constantly worried about this other guy my rival who had more similar interests with her than I did. Couple that with the fact she wanted to learn salsa and he's latin he'd have perfect opportunity to kino her cos he does salsa.

How would you keep a girl solely focused on you and noone else?

I understand having other girls in line makes her wary of her position. IS that really enough for her to be so all consumed with keeping you that she doesn't even think of other guys even if they have more in common than you do?

 

[Bible_Belt]

How attached do girls become to a guy and not let any other guys in?

My bad experience with this girl showed me that even if I was with her and things went fine I'd be constantly worried about this other guy my rival who had more similar interests with her than I did. Couple that with the fact she wanted to learn salsa and he's latin he'd have perfect opportunity to kino her cos he does salsa.

How would you keep a girl solely focused on you and noone else?

I understand having other girls in line makes her wary of her position. IS that really enough for her to be so all consumed with keeping you that she doesn't even think of other guys even if they have more in common than you do?

Interest level is always the best defense against cheating. Insecurity will work against you in that it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It takes time and experience, but at this point in my life I just trust interest level and let my girlfriend do about whatever she wants. I have been dumped before and left for another guy a time or two, but it seems like all of those women have come crawling back at some point after the breakup, so I see it with perspective, try to break up with no hard feelings, and then go fvck another girl to forget about it. All the women who have dumped me have had to eventually settle for less. If you have the confidence to see a girl dumping you as being merely a mistake that lets you get new pvssy, then you will do well in the relationship. If you lose that confidence, everything will fall apart.

 

[slaog]

Treat them mean, keep them keen as the saying goes. Not entirely correct but there is some truth to that statement.


Its about creating attraction. You do that by having a high value mindset. Thats something you don't have. You're worried about losing her which means you're putting her on a pedestal. The guys who couldn't care less if the relationship ends are the guys with high value mindsets or at least see themselves as being higher value then their woman.


Worrying and being paranoid about her cheating will only drive her away from you. So its a bit of a paradox in that regard.


So, develop a high value mindset and you won't worry what women do and they'll be far less likely to cheat too.

 

[lakeshore]

If you have the confidence to see a girl dumping you as being merely a mistake that lets you get new pvssy, then you will do well in the relationship. If you lose that confidence, everything will fall apart.

Great point BB, thats the point I'm at right now. Its funny because I find myself not hating or being pissed at girls with this mind set when they reject you.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

How attached do girls become to a guy and not let any other guys in?

Depends on the girl and the guy's game (social proof, confidence)

My bad experience with this girl showed me that even if I was with her and things went fine I'd be constantly worried about this other guy my rival who had more similar interests with her than I did. Couple that with the fact she wanted to learn salsa and he's latin he'd have perfect opportunity to kino her cos he does salsa.

First off Drift, you and everyone that gave you repeated good advice in your previous threads know that this girl was never your gf.... in fact it seems like she has severe emotional issues and you wouldn't take the hint.

A girl has to have high interest for anything to happen.

How would you keep a girl solely focused on you and noone else?

That's impossible, just like you will check out a fine piece of @ss or chat up a HB even when your dating another girl, girls do this too. Your job is to make her realize that you have more to offer than any other guy will while your with her.

I understand having other girls in line makes her wary of her position. IS that really enough for her to be so all consumed with keeping you that she doesn't even think of other guys even if they have more in common than you do?

No, but social proof as I mentioned helps A LOT A LOT! haha After a while if she's not getting what she wants and you as a man get too comfortable (which most men do), she'll start to lose her attraction for you.

Why are you still hung up on this chick? She's retarded and lame! There are so many hot girls out there, especially in college, go have some fun and worry about relationships later in life.





PIMP

 

[drift_king]

Interest level is always the best defense against cheating. Insecurity will work against you in that it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It takes time and experience, but at this point in my life I just trust interest level and let my girlfriend do about whatever she wants. I have been dumped before and left for another guy a time or two, but it seems like all of those women have come crawling back at some point after the breakup, so I see it with perspective, try to break up with no hard feelings, and then go fvck another girl to forget about it. All the women who have dumped me have had to eventually settle for less. If you have the confidence to see a girl dumping you as being merely a mistake that lets you get new pvssy, then you will do well in the relationship. If you lose that confidence, everything will fall apart.

But in this situation, sorry for keep banging on about it but I need to really learn from this awful experience. My rival did salsa I don't, she wanted to learn salsa so he got to kino her incessantly. How do you maintain a high value mindset that despite her having that interest and potential interest in him (he had game and had a lot more things in common than me)?

To me it seems that even if I have this high value mindset and remove the insecurity why would that keep her focused on me and not being charmed away by his latin lover looks?

I know I screwed up way before those 2 got together but I think inevitably she would have left me for him. I know it's negative and insecure but given how things turned out it seems that I don't think it would be possible to keep her highly interested in me. What things do you need to offer as you say that make you high value?

Social proof I know is a big one. But is that really enough to prevent her looking at other guys cos she's consciously anxious about you leaving her?

 

[Bible_Belt]

is that really enough to prevent her looking at other guys


She will always look. You should to. That is part of being human.

What are you really so worried about? If the other guy makes her happier, then he can have her. If you care about her and want her to be happy, then let her go and move on. The woman you really want to be with will not go anywhere when you take that attitude. If a girl does leave you, that is her mistake, and your good fortune to go get some new pvssy. I live my life that way and it works out well.

 

[drift_king]

is that really enough to prevent her looking at other guys


She will always look. You should to. That is part of being human.

What are you really so worried about? If the other guy makes her happier, then he can have her. If you care about her and want her to be happy, then let her go and move on. The woman you really want to be with will not go anywhere when you take that attitude. If a girl does leave you, that is her mistake, and your good fortune to go get some new pvssy. I live my life that way and it works out well.

Do you not get p1ssed off when a girl cheats on you? I mean you must be hurt some way somehow especially if you have feelings for the girl and were looking to maybe one day marry her, wouldn't you feel betrayed?

what's your attitude and approach to this?

 

[Slickster]

Do you not get p1ssed off when a girl cheats on you? I mean you must be hurt some way somehow especially if you have feelings for the girl and were looking to maybe one day marry her, wouldn't you feel betrayed?

what's your attitude and approach to this?

If she cheated on me she just did me the biggest favor in the world!!! She just showed me her true colors and I no longer have to waste my time. This is the best thing that could happen.

Sure I'll be pissed for a moment but I won't ever let her see it. She is instantly cut out of my life, and my thoughts. She no longer exists. I happily move on knowing I'm one step closer to finding a girl worthy of my time.

 

[Rez]

There is a lot of great advice in this thread. The OP should go back and re-read the entire thing just to make sure he acquires all the facts.

Here's my 2 cents:

Why the hell would you ever be interested in dedicating your energy towards a woman who doesn't even want to be with you?

Yes, cheating sucks. But if a girl wants to be with someone else, that is her decision to make and this actually saves you from a lifetime of being with someone who doesn't even deserve your attention.

Let's say you're at a restaurant with your girl. You notice that the waiter is being "extra friendly" as he blatantly flirts with her in front of you. Now......what do you do?

A) Get up and punch the guy :box:

B) Hit him with a baseball bat :trouble:

C) Crawl into the fetal position and whine about it all

D) Simply observe how your girl responds to his flirtation

Choose wisely grasshopper, lol.

The point is this: It doesn't matter what your "rival" does. The actions you need to pay attention to are that of your girlfriend. If she's reciprocating his advances then she's nothing but trash. She should be the one getting mad, not you, when another guy comes onto her in front of you (or even if you're not there).

Most guys make the mistake of getting all caveman and what-not when another person hits on their girl. But if your woman likes the attention and you notice that she never objects to what they do, then leave her ass and find someone who actually has manners.

Bro, focus on your girl and show her the time of her life. Don't get caught up in this jealousy game cuz it'll get you nowhere fast. Besides, there's always more p.ussy to be had.

All the best.

 

[AMDG]

Do you not get p1ssed off when a girl cheats on you?

You should dump her long before her IL drops.

 

[Candela]

You definitely need to be confident and assertive with her. Don't treat her extra nice or try to "save" her from him. If you are confident then you are golden, even if this means breaking up with her. Remember, if you see her pursuing another man, it was probably gonna happen sooner or later, so yes, she is showing her true colors. If you sense things changing between you (i.e. distance, less affection, tension, quick tempers, etc) take the hint and dump her. Be a man; be firm and don't be afraid of letting her get angry. And be confident about this, don't take her back when she comes running. Some significant time needs to go by before you could be able to trust her again, if EVER.

I say this because i just went through the same thing. I was with my ex-girl for a year, everything perfect, talkin bout marriage already, and BAM, after thanksgiving break things start getting weird and distant... when i bring it up she says she's "confused" about us... I try to kiss up to her and "convince" her to work on things... BIG mistake, man... she walked all over me and strung me along, especially bc i showed myself to be insecure. Finally i came out and told her i was moving on. And guess what, I found out today (less than 2 wks later) it was because of another guy, that she seems to have more in "common" with. Hard lesson learned. I found out on my own, by the way, she never admitted to anything. Showed herself to be a liar and backstabber, something i never thought she would have been capable of. It all started with another option open to her and a lowered interest level in me. If this girl is worth it she this will show, and if not, move on without looking back.