Konada
Master Don Juan
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Decided to write this because I've seen this board degenerated into a homo-b!itchfest, losing sight of the real purpose of this site. My journey is never complete but I've come a long way from where I used to be a year ago.
I believe oneitis is not caused by a lack of options, but rather a incorrect paradigm to begin with. 'Spinning plates' as much as it is preached, is merely a manifestation of this principle of reality. Losers live in the reality of scarcity, while winners live in the reality of abundance. I have never spun plates in my life thus far, because I see no need to do so. Why? There are millions of girls out there, who is to say that the one girl that rejects you is 'the one'? For every girl that drops or flakes on you, there are many waiting to be approached. It's a numbers game, embrace the abundance mentality. Believe it and oneitis will be a thing of the past.
Of course to live in the paradigm of abundance, I had to improve myself to step into this abundance. Self-improvement is one principle that has stuck with me throughout this past year. Because of this site, I started working out, gaining 15lbs in 4 months. Sad to say I've discontinued my efforts due to commitments in conscript military. The advice here compelled me to improve my social skills. I was once what you would call an antisocial loser, in comparison where I talk to anyone I feel like, without the fear of being judged. As a result I've opened more social circles than I used to have, which I am very proud of to date. More importantly, the value of self improvement forced me to step out of my comfort zone, taking up leadership positions and what not. Ultimately this did a great deal on my self-esteem and confidence, climbing ever higher with each opportunity grasped.
Ultimately, I couldn't have done all this without nurturing my own self-respect. It was hard at first because I basically had none. I was a doormat to everyone, not only girls. I was stuck in a social circle where I was constantly being ridiculed and made fun of, because I rather be in one than be without one. Stepping into this site made me realise how dysfunctional I had become as a person. As any newbie, I was eager to learn, regardless of he credibility of advice given. It turned me into a selfish-prick that said no to anyone, that drove people away from me. It was only until A few months ago while I did some thinking, that self-respect was not about walking over others. It was about living with others, whilst still mantaining your integrity as a person. What does it mean? I take no **** from others regardless. I say no to unreasonable demands or when I feel that I'm about to be taken advantage of. I do not allow myself to be ridiculed or made fun, simply by cutting out these people in my life. They do nothing but defile and degrade your self-esteem. It's hard to cut out such people when they are the only crutches in your life, but believe me, it is in this case, better to live without such a social circle.
I believe that majority of people on this site are introverted, mainly because I've seen some very well thought out posts and advice, something that is hard to do given the amoun of deep thinking involved which I believe needs solitude. As I'm writing this I'm alone in deep thought. Introversion is merely just a term to describe how one derives his energy from. Introverts get their energy from solitude, while extroverts gets theirs from people. As introverts that just means we get drained easily from social events, however it does not mean how we can influence our experiences. Many incorrectly interpret introversion as diminished social ability but this is not so. Socializing is a skill everyone needs to learn and excel at. You may be an introvert but you can communicate well with others, that is until you run out of energy and that's when you would most likely eject out of the event. Do not let the label of introverts tie you from becoming a outgoing person. Because they are entirely mutually exclusive.
Life is about you and you alone. It's not about your parents, your friends or your family. It is about the legacy you leave behind. Placing importance on women merely sidelines you from the true sight and meaning of living. Do not worry about how many girls you get to bed, but rather the quality of girls you get. Do not hesitate to cut out anyone who is detrimental to your life. Live your life as a quality man. You will be rewarded with quality like wise.
I believe oneitis is not caused by a lack of options, but rather a incorrect paradigm to begin with. 'Spinning plates' as much as it is preached, is merely a manifestation of this principle of reality. Losers live in the reality of scarcity, while winners live in the reality of abundance. I have never spun plates in my life thus far, because I see no need to do so. Why? There are millions of girls out there, who is to say that the one girl that rejects you is 'the one'? For every girl that drops or flakes on you, there are many waiting to be approached. It's a numbers game, embrace the abundance mentality. Believe it and oneitis will be a thing of the past.
Of course to live in the paradigm of abundance, I had to improve myself to step into this abundance. Self-improvement is one principle that has stuck with me throughout this past year. Because of this site, I started working out, gaining 15lbs in 4 months. Sad to say I've discontinued my efforts due to commitments in conscript military. The advice here compelled me to improve my social skills. I was once what you would call an antisocial loser, in comparison where I talk to anyone I feel like, without the fear of being judged. As a result I've opened more social circles than I used to have, which I am very proud of to date. More importantly, the value of self improvement forced me to step out of my comfort zone, taking up leadership positions and what not. Ultimately this did a great deal on my self-esteem and confidence, climbing ever higher with each opportunity grasped.
Ultimately, I couldn't have done all this without nurturing my own self-respect. It was hard at first because I basically had none. I was a doormat to everyone, not only girls. I was stuck in a social circle where I was constantly being ridiculed and made fun of, because I rather be in one than be without one. Stepping into this site made me realise how dysfunctional I had become as a person. As any newbie, I was eager to learn, regardless of he credibility of advice given. It turned me into a selfish-prick that said no to anyone, that drove people away from me. It was only until A few months ago while I did some thinking, that self-respect was not about walking over others. It was about living with others, whilst still mantaining your integrity as a person. What does it mean? I take no **** from others regardless. I say no to unreasonable demands or when I feel that I'm about to be taken advantage of. I do not allow myself to be ridiculed or made fun, simply by cutting out these people in my life. They do nothing but defile and degrade your self-esteem. It's hard to cut out such people when they are the only crutches in your life, but believe me, it is in this case, better to live without such a social circle.
I believe that majority of people on this site are introverted, mainly because I've seen some very well thought out posts and advice, something that is hard to do given the amoun of deep thinking involved which I believe needs solitude. As I'm writing this I'm alone in deep thought. Introversion is merely just a term to describe how one derives his energy from. Introverts get their energy from solitude, while extroverts gets theirs from people. As introverts that just means we get drained easily from social events, however it does not mean how we can influence our experiences. Many incorrectly interpret introversion as diminished social ability but this is not so. Socializing is a skill everyone needs to learn and excel at. You may be an introvert but you can communicate well with others, that is until you run out of energy and that's when you would most likely eject out of the event. Do not let the label of introverts tie you from becoming a outgoing person. Because they are entirely mutually exclusive.
Life is about you and you alone. It's not about your parents, your friends or your family. It is about the legacy you leave behind. Placing importance on women merely sidelines you from the true sight and meaning of living. Do not worry about how many girls you get to bed, but rather the quality of girls you get. Do not hesitate to cut out anyone who is detrimental to your life. Live your life as a quality man. You will be rewarded with quality like wise.
