I came here to improve my game. I was pretty AFC for a LONG LONG time.. infact i married my 2nd GF. Still married to her. (almost darn near 15 years married and together for 19 years).
Once i figured out all the marriage builders stuff i keep posting about I had to learn to be a bit more masculine (raised by a single mom bleh). This site helped me with that.
This site .. coupled with marriage builders has REALLY ramped up the interest levels of my wife... the MB stuff helped my wife learn how important sex is to men as conversation is to women (they are prety much equal emotionally) and how both of us can navigate our relationship in a manner that benefits BOTH of us on a consistant basis. MB also helped my wife figure out herself also so she could help me learn what she needs. (we both just winged it and only did what came naturally for each other which was not good enough)
Now .. I can BE A MAN and KILL MY DESPERATION when i need to since i never really learned how (was always desperate and always nice .. but not no more haha), because my parents cheated on each other and my dad left, and I know how to be a great beta when its called for also (in small doses). Its all about balance. Give and Take in equal proportions.
After all this time .. our marriage and relationship is better than ever! I have both MB and SS to thank.. its balance of beta .. and alpha. My kids are very thankful we never got divorced .. never cheated ... and figured out how to have a normal healthy fun and exciting marriage.