What is this?

[Yo_Yo]

So I just want a quick opinion. My new girlfriend is pretty cool, I really have no trouble with her, no bull****, EXCEPT THIS. This ONE thing.

And it may not be her? IDK.

But hear it out.

A few weeks ago shes talking to me on IM and says something about her ex wanting to **** her. She said she had a bf now. Her ex was like, well hes not gonna know, and she replied, no I'm loyal unlike you.

So I was like, ok well just stop talking to him. She was like, he keeps texting and calling me! If I ignore it he just calls until I answer.

So I was like okay, whatever.

The next day (or maybe a few days later) she texts me and says the Ex is like texting her, asking for money. So I asked her "what she said", and she said she asked why he only hits her up for money and sex? and he said because when hes around town thats what he needs, or some stupid ****.

I was like, okay well, lemme get his number, Ill tell him to **** off, no big deal. She was like, "hah, hes crazy." I was like, well, if you arent gonna deal with it, it must not be bothering you THAT much.

She replied, I just dont want to get you involved with him.

I was like, okay.

She said "trust me?" I said, ok.

A week later, she texts me about a DIFFERENT guy, saying that hes been bugging her and wants to date her. She said "why dont you ask my BF" he said Hell no, but proceeds to ask her to suck his ****, in which she keeps saying no. So Im like, well give him my number. She I was like, I can give you his number? I said fine, I'll call him after work. She was like, you should just text him now, I texted the guy and said hey pal, you really need to leave <her name> alone.

No reply. I was like, that was a waste of time, he didnt reply, prolly wont answer my calls. She said he was leaving her alone now though.

Yesterday, she was at this formal, business christmas party. We were texting a little, and she was talking about the party and said there were some people there she knew. I was like, okay cool, well you should go chill with them, I got some stuff I need to do.

Cool. An hour and a half later she texts me and goes "you should be very happy with me!"

I say "and why is that?"

"There was this guy (A THIRD DIFFERENT GUY) I knew at the party who kept trying to do stuff with me, but I kept telling him I had a boyfriend."

I said "what guy?"

"some guy from my old school"

I just simply said "ok cool, well I trust ya sweetheart"

So whatever. It's getting old though, this is bull****.

Is this girl cheating on me? Is she trying to make me jealous? Is she just MAKING it All up? Or is it just.. nothing? I mean. WTF.

Does she think she is gaining my trust by saying guys are hitting on her and shes rejecting them?

How should I handle this? I dont wanna next her cuz guys are trying to get with her, especially if she is being loyal, but I reallyyyy dont wanna deal with this bull****.

 

[Ease]

This is exactly what happens when you fail a sh-t test.

Once you show jealousy, she will manipulate the **** out of it. Not only will it annoy you to death, but she is losing attraction.

It's like when you make a joke at someones expense, and they take it badly and it just makes the joke funnier. It then becomes irresistible to constantly make jokes about it because it is so funny. You dont mean it maliciously, but you know his weak spot and its too funny that you just have to make the joke.

Imagine that, only instead of a joke its making you jealous. And instead of the reward being laughter, it is knowing that it makes you jealous.


Next time a girl sets up a trap, dont fall into it. 'A guy/my ex/an a-hole is flirting with me', you say 'thats nice'.

 

[MurdocNiccals]

Haha wtf that's ****ing weird...

Not unusual actually, but still ****ing weird if you know what I mean... Like I can sort of make sense of it but not understand WHY she's doing it.

Anyway I think she's making it all up. I personally think she wants you to think one of two things, either:

1) She wants you to think she's faithful and a good girlfriend

or

2) Wants you to think loads of guys want her so you are more into her

That's just my opinion, it's strange though. I don't think she's cheating on you. She might even be trying to guage your reaction on how you deal with these "guys" coming onto her (if they're even real) or something...

ALSO

Ease's answer sounds good, but I wouldn't say "that's nice." Sounds too confrontational. Try "haha well I can't blame them really " she's your girlfriend so you're allowed to imply she's ****ing hot like that.

I haven't actually dealt with a situation like this before personally, but that's what I make of it.

 

[Tiguere]

How Old Are Both Of You?

 

[Masculinity]

Your new girlfriend sounds like an attention-digging insecure girl.

She's trying to mess with your head. She's also telling you what to do already and you follow what she says just like her little puppy. You need to STOP that and spent more time on yourself and maybe talk to a few other girls. Keep in mind new relationships don't always work, so be prepared in the event this happens.

Regarding the "other guys": Sounds like a load of b.s. In fact, I had my gf do the same exact thing to me when we started dating. I was grinding with an extremely hot female friend of mine ( who wanted me) and my gf, walking with her friend, saw me and raised her eyebrows and walked to the other dance floor. I told blondie I'd be back and went to get my girl. She was dancing with some dude and stopped right when I came. When I pulled her away, she took her hand away from me; I walked away and said "blondie it is!" and she came chasing after me, haha.

Another time at the same club, I went to the restroom and when I came back she says:
gf: LIke six guys came and asked me to dance while you were gone
me: Oh..aren't YOU cool? good for you, you should have gone ahead.
gf: looks at me and smiles. I wanted to dance with you
me: I knew you're full of crap.
gf: smiles

Later that night she admitted she made it up to see my reaction. She also said "the way you want me all for yourself turns me on.":crazy:

 

[Diaforetikos]

My first part of my advice is that you need to develop your inner game more. Why are you worried about this? If she is cheating, then drop. Stop being paranoid over a situation you put yourself in. Don't let your insecurity ruin your relationship with this girl.

The second half is that if you really have a problem with all of this, then confront her about it. Your adding more problems to something that isn't there.

Personally I would take the former advice. But that's just me.

 

[MrGold]

Do it back to her and see how she reacts

When my missus busts BS like that on me to get a reaction I dont give her dust.. I just wait a week and and add a fit bird on facebook, poke her, let her poke me back and leave it for her to see! As soon as she realises you got options she'll fix up. Quicktime.

 

[DonJuan11]

So I just want a quick opinion. My new girlfriend is pretty cool, I really have no trouble with her, no bull****, EXCEPT THIS. This ONE thing.

And it may not be her? IDK.

But hear it out.

A few weeks ago shes talking to me on IM and says something about her ex wanting to **** her. She said she had a bf now. Her ex was like, well hes not gonna know, and she replied, no I'm loyal unlike you.

So I was like, ok well just stop talking to him. She was like, he keeps texting and calling me! If I ignore it he just calls until I answer.

So I was like okay, whatever.

The next day (or maybe a few days later) she texts me and says the Ex is like texting her, asking for money. So I asked her "what she said", and she said she asked why he only hits her up for money and sex? and he said because when hes around town thats what he needs, or some stupid ****.

I was like, okay well, lemme get his number, Ill tell him to **** off, no big deal. She was like, "hah, hes crazy." I was like, well, if you arent gonna deal with it, it must not be bothering you THAT much.

She replied, I just dont want to get you involved with him.

I was like, okay.

She said "trust me?" I said, ok.

A week later, she texts me about a DIFFERENT guy, saying that hes been bugging her and wants to date her. She said "why dont you ask my BF" he said Hell no, but proceeds to ask her to suck his ****, in which she keeps saying no. So Im like, well give him my number. She I was like, I can give you his number? I said fine, I'll call him after work. She was like, you should just text him now, I texted the guy and said hey pal, you really need to leave <her name> alone.

No reply. I was like, that was a waste of time, he didnt reply, prolly wont answer my calls. She said he was leaving her alone now though.

Yesterday, she was at this formal, business christmas party. We were texting a little, and she was talking about the party and said there were some people there she knew. I was like, okay cool, well you should go chill with them, I got some stuff I need to do.

Cool. An hour and a half later she texts me and goes "you should be very happy with me!"

I say "and why is that?"

"There was this guy (A THIRD DIFFERENT GUY) I knew at the party who kept trying to do stuff with me, but I kept telling him I had a boyfriend."

I said "what guy?"

"some guy from my old school"

I just simply said "ok cool, well I trust ya sweetheart"

So whatever. It's getting old though, this is bull****.

Is this girl cheating on me? Is she trying to make me jealous? Is she just MAKING it All up? Or is it just.. nothing? I mean. WTF.

Does she think she is gaining my trust by saying guys are hitting on her and shes rejecting them?

How should I handle this? I dont wanna next her cuz guys are trying to get with her, especially if she is being loyal, but I reallyyyy dont wanna deal with this bull****.

You problem is with your girlfriend. If you had a hot girlfriend that you couldn't wait to sleep with every night, would you text her telling her about 3 different girls wanting to have sex with you and that you did your best to reject them? You think that would turn her on? You think that would gain her trust in you?

Either have to tell her she's not good at making you jealous or tell her get the bleep out of dodge.