MatureDJ
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I was looking at this article, and ti got me thinking:
http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a17341/the-next-sexual-revolution-open-marriage/
I've always thought that an open marriage (at least for a nominally monogamous marriage) was just the acquiescence of the partner with the lower sexual market value to the partner with the higher sexual market value, so that the higher one would at the very least stay nominally attached, both for at least semi-regular sexual relations (mainly important for the case of the man being in an inferiors position) and for raising children in an otherwise standard nuclear family way, as well as for various financial, and even social standing reasons. I just have to think that a man that submits to this is just being a beta, which makes me wonder how, outside of wanting the "family situation", a woman could find herself attracted to such a loser. The situation that makes much more sense is that of the man wanting to be like Zeus and do other women, and with the woman being at low sexual market value (even if she has kept decently slender), and the man wanting to take advantage of his increased value. I guess that this type of unequal marriage demand could be just simply one of the partners announcing in public what (s)he plans to do, and be willing for the other to say "no way" as an easy excuse to break up the marriage, rather than deal with deception after-the-fact.
I suppose that a truly balanced open marriage (i.e., both partners wanting to fool around, not just the lower one agreeing to it while silently resenting it) could be both not really wanting to be married, but still enjoying a "home base" marriage, perhaps supplying sex to the other if (s)he is going through a dry spell, and for the advantages previously noted
As for myself, I could not see myself being demeaned by my wife like this. If she wants to fool around, I would demand and end to the marriage, although if I were still attracted to her, I could see her in the fvck buddy rotation. (My attitude is that if I ever got divorced after having children, I would see absolutely no reason to re-marry.)
http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a17341/the-next-sexual-revolution-open-marriage/
I've always thought that an open marriage (at least for a nominally monogamous marriage) was just the acquiescence of the partner with the lower sexual market value to the partner with the higher sexual market value, so that the higher one would at the very least stay nominally attached, both for at least semi-regular sexual relations (mainly important for the case of the man being in an inferiors position) and for raising children in an otherwise standard nuclear family way, as well as for various financial, and even social standing reasons. I just have to think that a man that submits to this is just being a beta, which makes me wonder how, outside of wanting the "family situation", a woman could find herself attracted to such a loser. The situation that makes much more sense is that of the man wanting to be like Zeus and do other women, and with the woman being at low sexual market value (even if she has kept decently slender), and the man wanting to take advantage of his increased value. I guess that this type of unequal marriage demand could be just simply one of the partners announcing in public what (s)he plans to do, and be willing for the other to say "no way" as an easy excuse to break up the marriage, rather than deal with deception after-the-fact.
I suppose that a truly balanced open marriage (i.e., both partners wanting to fool around, not just the lower one agreeing to it while silently resenting it) could be both not really wanting to be married, but still enjoying a "home base" marriage, perhaps supplying sex to the other if (s)he is going through a dry spell, and for the advantages previously noted
As for myself, I could not see myself being demeaned by my wife like this. If she wants to fool around, I would demand and end to the marriage, although if I were still attracted to her, I could see her in the fvck buddy rotation. (My attitude is that if I ever got divorced after having children, I would see absolutely no reason to re-marry.)
