What is the Black Pill?

[Georgepithyou]

Women date up while men date down. Personality doesn’t matter as much to women as many think. I’ve seen many guys who were basically soulless rocks that had the personality of a tree with a good looking girl. I’ve seen many a Chad’s that probably struggled to tie their own shoes, with hot girlfriends. Personality doesn’t matter much to women until they’ve been kicked off the carousel, then they’re forced to like personality.

We also have tons of examples of below average looking men with hot girlfriends, women are not as visual as men.

Pete davidson is one of the ugliest guys i have ever seen yet he constantly dates hot women.

 

[Robert28]

We also have tons of examples of below average looking men with hot girlfriends, women are not as visual as men.

Pete davidson is one of the ugliest guys i have ever seen yet he constantly dates hot women.

He’s got fame behind him, that’s how he does it.

 

[zekko]

He’s got fame behind him, that’s how he does it.

Youth, fame, and wealth. Few guys in their mid twenties can achieve that kind of money and have access to the kind of lifestyle he does. Probably invited to all the celebrity parties, and good drug hook ups too. In his age range, he probably blows his competition out of the water.

 

[eli77]

I also understand why a man would be "black pilled." I assume these are men who are physically unappealing to women due to factors that are not within their locus of control. Rather than view these has handicaps that can be overcome to a limited extent, they view them as disqualifiers for romantic/sexual interaction with women.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -- Theodore Roosevelt.

Simply put, black pillers (who can assumed to be sub-6 even after thorough physical optimization), resent that they must be realistic about their league and date accordingly. Relentless comparison to Chad (facilitated by our beauty-obsessed, internet social media society) is the seed of that resentment and bitterness.

A 4 doesn't want to pursue and date women who are 4's. He would rather seethe in resentment and despair that Chad effortlessly brings the 8's and 9's back to his apartment after a night out. This defeatism then extends to the 4's who are within his grasp -- "they all want Chad too." That then devolves into the poisonous sh!t you see on SS sometimes. "It's OVER for [xyz]cels" or "if you're a manlet, kill yourself." I don't have a problem with ugly men resigning themselves to involuntary celibacy. I have a problem with the toxicity they spread to bring others down with them.

Any man, unless physically deformed, can get in killer shape, dress snappily, and become genuinely charming (which requires one to accept, with grace, his situation in life, and find humor and happiness in it). There's a woman out there for him. No, she's not going to look like a porn star. Yes, it's going to take some effort. But she's out there.

As for the men who claim "I've had many women, but they're all more trouble than they're worth so now I'm MGTOW" -- a man who has had moderate success with attractive women does not become MGOTW or black pilled. It doesn't happen.

"Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."

well said

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I also understand why a man would be "black pilled." I assume these are men who are physically unappealing to women due to factors that are not within their locus of control. Rather than view these has handicaps that can be overcome to a limited extent, they view them as disqualifiers for romantic/sexual interaction with women.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -- Theodore Roosevelt.

Simply put, black pillers (who can assumed to be sub-6 even after thorough physical optimization), resent that they must be realistic about their league and date accordingly. Relentless comparison to Chad (facilitated by our beauty-obsessed, internet social media society) is the seed of that resentment and bitterness.

A 4 doesn't want to pursue and date women who are 4's. He would rather seethe in resentment and despair that Chad effortlessly brings the 8's and 9's back to his apartment after a night out. This defeatism then extends to the 4's who are within his grasp -- "they all want Chad too." That then devolves into the poisonous sh!t you see on SS sometimes. "It's OVER for [xyz]cels" or "if you're a manlet, kill yourself." I don't have a problem with ugly men resigning themselves to involuntary celibacy. I have a problem with the toxicity they spread to bring others down with them.

Any man, unless physically deformed, can get in killer shape, dress snappily, and become genuinely charming (which requires one to accept, with grace, his situation in life, and find humor and happiness in it). There's a woman out there for him. No, she's not going to look like a porn star. Yes, it's going to take some effort. But she's out there.

As for the men who claim "I've had many women, but they're all more trouble than they're worth so now I'm MGTOW" -- a man who has had moderate success with attractive women does not become MGOTW or black pilled. It doesn't happen.

"Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."

I don’t think belief in the Black Pill means one is unattractive. Or one is bitter. One can be Black Pilled and realize it is in their favor.

 

[redskinsfan92]

I keep seeing people talk about this, but what exactly is it? Some guys say it means looks matter and others say it's a bleak outlook on the world.

But aren't those two just the red pill? What exactly is blackpill supposed to be?

Blackpill tends to be the idea that some men can in no way significantly improve their life and are doomed for failure.

 

[Mike32ct]

Some men are largely doomed for failure with women and probably shouldn’t invest too much time or $ in that area of life. I’m not saying they should completely give up. Maybe just dabble with dating, and see if they click with somebody. But don’t waste years on it or spend big $ on dating coaches.