What is POWER

[jhonny9546]

There are many definitions of power, such as being a physically fit, robust man who radiates power.
Financially and socially wealthy, with status, validation, and social proof. Emotionally and spiritually, a rock.

Reversing the POV, from a male perspective, power, is when a woman is in her full femininity, starting from her physical appearance to her mental one. In fact, she may not be in shape, even slightly overweight, but something about her femininity makes my desire radiate in an animalistic way. That feeling we have all experienced. You know what I'm talking about, right? When the adrenaline rises in your body, you start to get hard, because you've seen her, heard her voice, her movements, and that something about her that drives you crazy.. That is POWER.

From a woman's perspective, what defines this "power" in a man? Not all men might be 6'4" tall, or big, with broad shoulders, even if they are fit, so there is always something beneath the visual aspect that a man can demonstrate that drives a woman wild on a primal level. I could mention a really deep voice, and then what? I'm sure many experienced men here know how to navigate a woman's mind by now and be able to logically define the concept.

If I had to list four things, in order of importance:

1. Physical appearance of a strong man, like a fighter or a combatant. Taking care of his body and his image.
2. Being emotionally "mute": getting excited, laughing, being kind, but never showing weakness; rather, a kind of "mute confidence". Sometimes, letting yourself be understood by his gaze alone, without the need to speak.
3. No fear of facing challenges, arguing, having his say, showing that he does it with total calm but at the same time also showing disinterest in the outcome. He wants to do it that way and he will.
4. Going against the rules, taking risks. He is not afraid to let you go even if he cares about you. He could be invited to a very important party but decide not to attend in order to be present at a personal commitment.

 

[plumber]

much of it is relative.

strong man... stronger than others in view.
no fear.. less fear than others in view.
rebel.. more risky than others in view.
self assured.. ok and proud to be himself.

- these are intertwined. difficult to not have all or none.


the tv show Reacher does a good job of demonstrating this.

we don't have to be the best.... we do have to be the best in view.

women is literally picking a horse in a race for today. looking for the winner.

assumed that winner will be the one with most power.

the First indicator of power is how other men treat you.

 

[jhonny9546]

we do have to be the best in view.

Even if in women's minds there are only the top male influencers, this makes sense. We are still made of flesh and blood, limited to a physical and temporal space. So it means that if you are a top influencer and you live in the city of 10 thousand inhabitants, you are number 1 there, and number 1208900 in the world.

the First indicator of power is how other men treat you.

True, but very generic, can you say more?

Also, put yourself in the shoes and POV of a woman, what would be the traits she would look for in a man, to make her survival a success?

Physical Strength: fighting and winning against others

Financial and Social Resources: it doesn't matter in what ways, whether shady, illegitimate or legitimate, but the ability to procure resources among others.

Value: desired by other women makes her insecure just enough to "work" for him.


Did I mention kind, empathetic, loving, calm, quiet, intelligent, mature?
They would seem to be "accessory" things. It doesn't matter, as long as a man manages to have the aforementioned traits. Like when they give you a dessert to eat, it doesn't matter if there is no icing sugar or a dusting of cocoa on top, you can be fine without while still eating a great dessert, which is the most important part you wanted.

Now, I'm still in the shoes of a woman, and I can also see exceptions. Women who do not feel this survival drive too much and who are therefore happy and want friendly, loving, calm, quiet men. Why?

The more a woman seeks those traits above, the more she could be driven by her survival instinct and therefore be weak, insecure. She needs a man to feel alive and have a reason to live, while there are other women who are simply okay with themselves, but would be better off with the presence of a "sweeter" man? This does not mean that a man has lost his frame. We are talking about characters and traits.

Pretty sure many men here experienced different flavors of women I'm talking about

 

[New_Journey]

Freedom

 

[plumber]

Now, I'm still in the shoes of a woman, and I can also see exceptions. Women who do not feel this survival drive too much and who are therefore happy and want friendly, loving, calm, quiet men. Why?

lots of other components in the calculations.

a big one is her SMV, AND her self perceived SMV.

even bigger is her femininity that is part of SMV. this is mostly constructed from chemicals in the body. this is a yin and yang thing. more feminine(power) wants more masculine (power...). usually more feminine is higher SMV. she can talk like a sailor or a saint, but still be very feminine.

no women want calm, quiet men. some will accept or settle for them, others will hunt them to be a provider. I am sure you have heard already about dual mating strategy. almost all will lie about that.

no high test(balanced) men, want women that are not feminine.

best course is to get and keep getting power.

 

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It's enabling PvP mode

 

[jhonny9546]

she can talk like a sailor but still be very feminine.

no women want calm, quiet men.

Would be interesting to hear more about those two