evan12 said:
The truth is not every body want every body, that is why people in the first year (or even days ) of high school or university try to find friends as soon as possible , because once even one has friends , the ones who couldn't will stay alone. for sure there are social ones who always can find new friends but the average person cant .
If you insist to force strangers to be your friends you will end up with self worth issues because of the times you will turned down . work on the groups and friends you have , that is a better bet .
That sucks dude. I love myself too much to grovel for friends. Glad I never compromised my integrity back then. My friends, while very young, Were like brothers to me, for sure, but in high school we'd drifted apart most definitely and I never had such brotherly friends again. Now, at work, I have a couple of close-knit friends. We are like a brotherhood and attend funerals when one goes down, however, I'd say, ONLY 8-10% attend any given co-worker's funeral, pretty sad, and we're talkin a bro only 30 years old just up and dies of a heart attack...only 10% go to his funeral. I went on out-of-town trips and parties with him back in 2009 so I HAD to go. I should hope others attend mine when I die, if they're still alive.
I could care less about the suck-ups, brown-nosers, glad-handers, insincere, overly-ambitious of high school and college years, who cares about so-called "American" friends. I don't follow popular culture, and do not wish to be contaminated by it, so my friends are very few and far between all throughout my life. I'd always had friends from a farm or out in the country the most, hardly ever from the city/inner city...those who are all caught up in the latest "fashion." MY particular friends growing up tended to be we'd fight a whole lot, but a brotherly fighting, always sports, roughhousing, outdoors, fishing, 3-wheelers, getting bee stings, wasps, etc. After that, Really, what do you as Real friends really DO? if you're not being compromised by the latest fashion/music. I never considered friends made after childhood to be as deep as my best friends during childhood. Every one after that was studying and vying to better their careers, and getting ahead, gossiping, maybe, even at Your expense, half-the-time. Politics became more and more as we aged. Now it's VERY hard to trust ANYone. I trust myself, and love myself more than any other being on the planet, even more than my parents. I know who I am, and how true I am; therefore, how could I not love myself?
When I hear a woman, that sings so beautifully, you know, a Very Centered soul. You just KNOW, that this woman is very conscientious, has a big conscience (we of this site, know how we can only go so far to trust a Woman's conscience), a mind/heart that is trying to do right and is Being right as best she can. You hear that woman singing (particularly a slow song), you're affected by that beauty and can appreciate it More (than others can), if you, yourself, are just as centered as she is in conscience/spirit. You IDentify. It's very difficult for me to identify with trash pop culture music. So most "friends" are polluting. I've kept myself pollution-free most of these years, usually only delving for a friend (woman) temporarily when I wanted something from them/her temporarily. I've had my FILL and no longer need/want to delve or stoop for a friend. I'll be my best healthy self and surround myself with those like myself (though very few and far between).
