What is happening to me?

[dayvidaims]

Well i have a girlfriend for one and a half month now she seems to care for me a lot and says she loves me (I know I must not believe that so easy but I believe she means it) from the first month we are together.

yesterday after her asking me a lot of times if i love her too I said yes (she was asking me the whole month and I was saying ''a little'') and I mean it... she said she is happy

well the problem is that although our relationship seems too be o.k i'm always afraid that she is seeing s'one else which must not be true as I don't have a single clue about that.

but this idea is killing me... what the fack is wron with me.
yesterday night I saw a dream of me learning that all that time we were together she had sex with 4 more gutys! lol...

I must tell you that this ideas somehow make my reactions towards her a little different when i see her in real life.

A! And I must tell you that at the start of the relationship when we were talking i said to her (as a DJ) that if s'one cheats on me and I learn it it won't be too difficult for me to immediately end the relationship..

Well can you give me some thoughts on the situation?

 

[tiburon]

There is a good side to thsi

I will congratulate you because even though you sound very young in this DJ live you are understanding some crucial truths.

First you understand she could be acting, lying and been a hypocrit about the whole love thing for whatever reason she might have.

Second you tried no to say I love you..when she said it.....

Third even though she seems to be a good girl atleast in your head you realize she could cheat and be no angel at all...


This is great but i will point out that just as women do many test on men you should do the same on her. Hold your horses and ont fall for thsi girl until you are 110 percent sure she is the real deal...this might never happened but test her.

Read my article on Good Girls Cheat Part 2 it says something about how you can tell if she is worth your commitment. Realize one las thing though : " any women who gives herself to doubt it is not a good women for you".So if she is never clear or never mentions what she is doing just to keep you informed...dump her and NEXT . A good women will not give her man extra reasons for ever doubting her..

Sincerely
Tiburon

P.S for next time never tell a women you love her untill you really do..and remember actions speak louder than words ..you can love her but there might not be any need to tell her..if she doesnt like thsi she can find another AFC who will say i loves yous just to keep her happy or like a parott. Telling a women you love her its a serious bussinesits like playing hot potato with a BomB, while not saying it has no risks at all.

 

[dayvidaims]

Yeah thanks...

Now that I've told her I love her i somehow mean it... (although i'm not sure if it's really love or something very strong)

Well I participate on that site for a lot of time now and i'm sure i know my game well... But i somehow think that having all this knowledge although keeps me the girl for more I don't enjoy my relationships so much...

 

[chlywly]

Women base love on their emotions, since there emotions are always off balance and doing complete 180's every month and sometimes every other week, their usual concept of love is extremely superficial.

When a woman tells you she loves you, you have to learn to ignore it, she can only show you she loves you with her actions, which for them is usually very hard, she can tell you she loves you at the same time tell 5 other guys and sleep with them all

But she has no idea what it means. She bases it on soap-operahs.

 

[dionysius_d]

You are touching on one of the toughest areas.. "ownership" of a partner.

Try to attain a state where it doesn't matter either way if she is with you or not.

In any case, enjoy your time with her. Don't pollute yourself with thoughts about "is she screwing other guys?"

What you are going through is completely normal, and happens to everyone.. just don't be obsessed by it.

If she is right for you it will work out, if not, you will see it.