What is going on with her!?

[mag333]

Dated this chick for around 3 months. Lotsa little problems but we worked thru them. All the sudden over the course of a week she goes from head over heals in love to "uncertain." So I said fine, cya later, have a nice day. And she gets angry cuz I don't want to be friends. I felt and still feel like she was trying to back burner me so I'd be there if her plans didn't work out.

Now she is comin back and trying to get in touch with me and getting pissed when I don't answer. When I do answer, she goes through again and again why we wouldn't work out then she asks if I understand and I say; "It doesn't matter if I understand, if you feel those things, then thats all that matters." I'm playing a lil coy and refusing to tell her I still care about her or not.

And tonight she asked me 'hypothetically', if we got back together, could we work certain things out. And I once again acted like I didn't give a damn and said that some we probably could, some we probably couldn't.

Then after she is done and frustrated trying to interigate me, she gets pissed and says "whatever, I don't care if you don't" Yet she always contacts me again.

Is she just looking for the best deal she can get with respect to keeping me on the back burner (which I have made quite clear I am not going to do)?

Or is she just testing me and see how far she can push me around?

I dunno. Gladly I am maintaining well and got prospects already.

-C

 

[jigga23]

when i broke up with my ex she pulled the same sh*t. saying lets be friends and back burner me. I would give her a little space and time. then i would be like i cant make any decisions for you but im not going to stick around if thats what u want. i dont know sometimes you gotta be willing to say if you want it like this then this is what im going to do. just tell her how you feel and be like if you dont like it then im done with you. basically overall give her the fake exit routine.

 

[mag333]

That is basically what I have been doing. I'd say it is working since she still gets in touch constantly even tho after every convo she basically tells me to screw off...I think cuz I show complete indifference vs. how good I used to make her feel.

 

[pressure0354]

date someone else and get her out of your head

 

[insanity]

she's testing you. i've had women do the same thing. they want to break up and then they give you the reasons why it wouldn't work. then when you say good-bye, who calls back....the ex. it's like they want you to beg them for their company, like you made some sort of mistake.

a couple of years ago i suspected that an ex wanted to taste the grass on the other side, because she was always looking for an excuse why we shouldn't go out anymore. when i said o.k, nice knowing ya. she wanted to be friends, i said nope i gotta go. a couple of weeks later who calls me wondering what i'm doing, i said yeah we should be friends...but get this, there was a twist. i had met a great girl and i told my ex how this new girl was the greatest and how i was glad that we broke up cause i never would have met a girl like this. she got mad and jealous and said she called and that she wanted to give it another go cause she missed me. i told her sorry but friendship was all i was looking for. she hung up.

through the year i got drunk phone calls from her and she got psycho. finally she stopped one day. what a nutcase

 

[Macgyver]

Just give them the shove off then! Ignore them and if they don't make a real effort on making nicey nice with you, move on!