What Is Fear?

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Many great books have been written to discuss and bring to light what fear is. One of these, "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway," is a great read. And a great motto. Feel the Fear and Do it anyways. It makes fear seem natural, and when you do it ANYWAYS, it makes it all worthwhile. Think about it...

Wouldn't it be better to ACT and fail miserably, having tried what you fear most, RATHER than NOT act at all? Not do anything? I believe EACH moment we don't act on what we fear, we slowly lose a piece of energy levels and courage. You slowly, or quickly, cut into your self-confidence. You make yourself helpless, and learned helplessness at that.

Fear is the emotional reaction to the unknown. We all have it. Every single one of us. However, it's what the person DOES with it that matters most. It's a challenge to the psyche. And to me, it's where LIFE exists, behind fear. Most times, the things we want to do or the greatest fears we have, otherwise, we wouldn't even think about them. Most people who fear death or disaster, really fear living. They have nothing else to focus upon. Their life is shambles, so to set about with a purpose, they find things to fear and set about educating others and avoiding those things they fear.

It is better to DO what you fear and fail, than to do nothing at all. You can say you won't approach that girl, but more good will come having spoken to her, than not trying at all. For starters, you'll approach a different girl if this one blows you out, and you'll probably succeed. You'll also be able to laugh at life and realize you're living, not locked in the confines of a cage. You'll feel more confident in all aspects. And maybe you'll meet a new friend. FAR greater benefit comes from that.

People don't fear driving and having an accident, or they wouldn't drive. And you don't fly a plane thinking of it crashing. The incidents of life are just karma, it's just "ka." What is willed to happen will happen with little intervention in other respects.

Doing the things you fear the most will reveal the greatest power in life. The barriers you seek or the jails holding you back from what YOU TRULY want, or you wouldn't be so consumed by it. The geeky nerd who has poor social skills, most desperately seeks to socialize and be cool. The only way he can do that is to ACTUALLY do it. To feel the fear and do it. The recent college grade might seek big money and want to join sales to earn it, but he fears prospecting. The only way to do it and get through it, is to do what you have to do.

Fear is a FALSE reaction to things not present here. If they're not present here, is it worth even concerning yourself with? No. Not at all. Not by any means. You concern yourself with HERE and NOW. Where and whenever that might be. Bottom line. And courage can ONLY exist if there was something to TRIUMPH over. Confidence can only exist when there are SELF CONSCIENCE people. Weaklings are only weak in relation to strength. Without a spectrum upon which to compare things or relate things to one another, there'd be no existence, just a GREY blob of crap. All mixed together, because it's all the same.



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What movie was that in?

Predator II?


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Wouldn't it be better to ACT and fail miserably, having tried what you fear most, RATHER than NOT act at all?


I think it all depends on the situation and the consequences for failing...as well as the type of fear. Fear can be rational and irrational. If one has a 'rational fear' then sometimes, if for nothing else but the sake of one's ego and mental stability, its better not to set ourselves up for failure.

But inregards to irrational fears....then yes, I fully agree with you. I guess the key is identifying the difference between what's irrational and rational.

For example, I contemplate a new job prospect....one that is beyond my experience level. I'm a bit hesitant...and maybe I should be for my own good. Jumping into something I may not have the background for could be damaging to my career, and my confidence, etc. I consider some of this hesitation to be rational fear. On the other hand, some of it certainly is irrational. (And being at a time of uncertainy is obviously reflected in my post. Anyways...)

Sometimes fear holds us back as a warning of sorts, and sometimes it simply stops us from evolving. I guess I'm saying that there are times when its good to shock ourselves out of our own comfort zones....and there are times when its not always the best thing.

Asa side note, I read something interesting a while ago...having to do with the difference in risk assessment between men and women; the area in the brain that assesses 'risk' in men is much smaller than it is for women. This could be why - generally speaking - women are less likely to take a risk, or be more attuned with their own fears, then men are.
 
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