Most women and men included, believe the average sexual partners of others is around 4 for men and 2 for women.
I make no joke.
This is the average man in the street, not your DJ, playa or PUA, who know the true score.
But the Average man, is said to have around 4-5 partners his whole life-
The average women to have less.
So in that, when or if you meet a women she is probably more prone to hold you to that societal standard.
Hence even if you have banged x amount of girls, I usually find it beneficial to never disclose the number and play down your lay record, i.e. say you've only had 3-4 girls - That is what is considered 'normal' - Believe it or not.
Don’t believe me?
Ask the nearest normal guy and girl -
Anything over 8 on either party is considered high from the minds of an average guy or girl.
I personnally wont date a girl who has slept with more then around 6 - I will sleep with girls with a highish number but I would never date them!
So worrying about your preformance in bed, is probably what she is worrying about too, unless its a party girl.
The average guy goes years without sex - sometimes 6 years or more - they sometimes stave off these dry spells by having any type of women in there lives - hence just because the average guy is getting sex, in more cases then not - that sex is with someone they dont really desire and who where just available.
People seem to think others live in a Hollywood movie land, but the truth is, most average people have settled for the sake of settling - only a rare few actually strive for what they believe they can achieve - most guys settle for the first bit of skirt that gives them attention.
Hence the amount of sex is irrelivent - Any guy virgin or not can get sex easy, they just need to lower there personal bar.
But saying that why should you?
Just dont compare yourself to people you have no idea about in terms of the bigger picture.
You can only move forward and upwards, keep your eye on the goal and shoot straight -
This thread is almost like the one where a guy was lamenting about his 6 year dry spell.
who cares?
No one but him, its his choice to change - external sources are good to cushion the blow, but people can and do use them for excuses to stive off change.
It does not matter how much sex you have had, all it matters is what your going to do about it the future to 'change' - dont seek comfort in the sharing of pain with others - thats finding a cushion for the blow and wallowing in your own personal comfort zone.
Placing barriers up around your sexual preformance is in parts an AFC tendancy to find 'an out' in trying to get it on with girls - Stop thinking about excuses - thats the bottom line problem right there.