what if a girl with a boyfriend comes on to you?

soopafly2k

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I just wanted to know what the don juans out there thought of my situation. There is this girl in my class who I strongly believe is interested in me. She was the one to start conversations with me, I never used to pay her any attention. So she asks me to do a class assignment with her, and asks me for my number. I give her mine and she gives me hers. After that we been pretty cool, we go out from time to time, she also tells me how her and her boyfriend are on "bad terms" and she wants to let him go but he doesn't want to. She gives me all the signs such as touching me when she talks, calls me more than a I call her, etc. Everthing is on point except that boyfriend thing. What do yall think I should do?
 

Tkman

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Originally posted by soopafly2k
she also tells me how her and her boyfriend are on "bad terms" and she wants to let him go but he doesn't want to.
So ... if they return to "good terms" ... you would be left out ? :D Bull**** !!! Next her !!!
 

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Don't do anything, but if she ever asks you out on a date tell her to grow up and come back once she's dumped that boyfriend because until then you're not interested in stroking her ego and being a band-aid for her screwed up relationship.
 

Golden Arms

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Some of them are just teases or are looking for a guy to be their emotional tampson, IMO
 

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some girls are just real flirty, or like to have a lot of "guy friends," but if she actually wants something, you set the terms, not how it's going between her and her bf.
 

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Don't get attatched to her.

Stay kind of aloof.

If you're at all interested in this chick, DON'T talk to her on the phone for more than 5 minutes. DON'T call her, unless you have something genuine and specific in mind.

And above all...don't allow her to talk about her boyfriend with you. If she starts, say, "look, I'm not the person you should tell this to. You should talk to one of your girlfriends about it." Find a way to excuse yourself, and exit the conversation.

As always, concentrate first on yourself, and secondly on other chicks. Have options, so your dating life isn't dependent on this chick's whimsical relationship.

And, you're probably right that she's somewhat interested in you. But not interested enough...yet. Work on it very subtely, letting her make moves (which she will do).

And when she breaks up with him, don't rush immediately and ask her out. Don't convey any feelings towards her that lead her to believe you want to be her next bf. Be a challenge for a while, then make a move.

All of the basic principles still apply here...main difference is that you will delay making a move until after her current relationship is doen and over.

Hope this helps- E-Z
 
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