what have you done to get better with women?

[asa_don]

what have you guys specifically done to improve with women?

i see some guys who post are still having the same problems.

what are you doing/have done to correct your problems?

what made you more valuable?

what past bad behaviors did you stop in order become better?

i want this to be a self improvement thread for members to get better, also for guys to share what they did so people can learn.

start posting!

 

[old_skoolr]

Last year I had an awesome year. I finished my university degree and went overseas and had a ball. Had flings left right and centre. This year has been completely different, more transitional.

I've had to revaluate my life and what next decision I should make when it comes to career. I've found a new job in freight forwarding which hopefully will leave to a full time position, I've kept my old job every Saturday, which i run my boss's retail store for him.

I've starting hitting the weights at home 2-3 times a week and noticing the difference. Add that with 2 days of soccer and martial arts once a week. I feel like I'm starting to feel awesome again.

When it comes to bars, I've always been a lone ranger, never liked wingmanning. Only because I knew I had the skill to talk to 3 girls at once. Now I wingman more so I've learnt to hone in on the girl I want and leave the others for my mates to pick. It sucks coz I loved the feeling of talking to a few girls and thinking to myself "How can I turn this into an orgy?".

The arrogance of youth I suppose lol

 

[SmooveMooves]

I'm glad to see a thread like this. So many people are coming here searching for answers... and getting them, but yet still returning with the same problems.

I also notice an uproar in negative rep posters posting (not to imply that rep is important or anything) but Im not sure whether these are legitimate cries for help, or troll posts.

However, I am looking foward to the feedback in this thread as I hope we can continue moving onward.

I wish for us to encourage as well as inspire each other for progress and be the community we need to be for success.

Ahem, excuse my melodramaticism, but I am serious.

As for what I have been doing recently, I have been taking an extensive initiative in conscientiously making an effort to improve the little things of external game.

Controlled Vocal Tone
Confident Movement & Mannerisms
Posture
Overall Alpha Behaviors



It's one thing in to be able to pick up girls, but I want to become a living, breathing-

Ultimate Master prestige Lvl 99 Alpha Bachelor Warrior Machine who slays pvssy at the bat of an eye.

I note my social interactions in my head, and record the things I liked and the things that need improvement.

Some key things right now for me are speaking speed and eye contact, which I usually have down pact, but im catching myself slipping up now.

I also do this high vocal inflection when excitedly speaking, which I believe to find unattractive, so I need to weed out.

That's what I'm working on, how about the rest of you guys?

 

[IBreatheSpears]

Well, until recently my problem was seguing from the initial conversation to a date. I couldn't think of a smooth enough transition most of the time. I decided to give up. Now, when I decide the conversation has gone on long enough, I just drop the date invitation when the conversation reaches its crescendo. It's not very smooth but time will fix that.

Looking forwards, I need to do more cold approaches and have more dates in general. I'm the kind of person who can read and digest a massive amount of theory in a relatively short time, but I'm generally averse to actually practising, which makes all my knowledge useless as it isn't grounded in personal experience.

Also, I've noticed that in certain situations I can be completely fearless (and sober). At a recent music festival, I got bored and started asking girls to sleep with me whenever they walked past (although sadly none of them bit). I felt no fear, even when one of their boyfriends (who was walking with her) threatened me. Whenever an awkward situation arose (e.g. a husband and wife walking together), I dealt with it effortlessly using a combination of humour and flattery (I wished them a happy marriage, asked if they wanted kids, etc.). Now, granted, this was at a festival, so it's a relaxed atmosphere anyway, but I want to figure out how to artificially produce that state. If I was like that all the time, I would be a cold approach machine.

I also do this high vocal inflection when excitedly speaking, which I believe to find unattractive, so I need to weed out.

Definitely. I have a pretty normal voice, but I'm trying to teach myself to speak in a more even, measured tone and at a lower pitch.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Losing weight, getting in better shape, lost 53 pounds, previously I weighed 215lbs two and a half years ago, weigh 162lbs now and still working out, been working with a personal trainer since April this year, been doing some monitored approaches with David Wygant, will attend one of his boot-camps in November

 

[mangotot]

I have lost weight and dress better. My money situation has improved a lot over the last few years such that I can can call myself 'middle class' and no longer poor working class which makes me feel better about myself and potentially more easier to try it with hotter chicks. The only thing is I still suffer from AA. I will post about that sometime in the near future.

 

[Krueg]

1. Stop trying to "boost" interest in women. They like you for who you are or they dont.
2. Dump/Next UN-Interested women. You only want women who are crazy about YOU!
3. Focus on Me.

 

[Masculinity]

I think the most valuable lesson I learned is not to base my self-worth on wether a woman likes/approves of me or not. In the past, I would have gotten very nervous after realizing a woman didn't like me, questioning what I had done wrong. Now, those intrusive thoughts are more at bay.

 

[skinnyguy]

1. Stop trying to "boost" interest in women. They like you for who you are or they dont.
2. Dump/Next UN-Interested women. You only want women who are crazy about YOU!
3. Focus on Me.

1) YES
2) yes, but i think that nexting is overrated. it's a defense mechanism. just have fun and don't be worried about your ego.
3) Yes.

 

[Krueg]

2) yes, but i think that nexting is overrated. it's a defense mechanism. just have fun and don't be worried about your ego.

Personally, I seek a woman for me, someone who will be "Long Term" and possibly marriage in the future. I've been around the block and have a better sense of who just wants to have fun and fvck and someone who wants something more. This is why I screen women for my needs, sounds nice huh? Get use to it Don Juan!

Everyone's "Game" is different depending on your purpose/needs. Are you ready to be monogamous and find the right one for you, or have fun and pull as much azz as you want? Choice is yours.