What does your gut tell you to do?

[SuperEMan]

Would you break some of the rules if you knew a girl was genuinely attracted and interested in you by her actions, words, and bodylanguage?

I looked at similar threads and people have been making good suggestions :
ie if you feel you WANT to call her, do it
if you feel you HAVE to call her, don't

and various things girls do and don't do that are obvious if she's interested.

It's also funny to see some people over analyze things, but I don't want to under analyze it by going too much with my gut feeling.

SO: This girl I email closed was already very into me and the 2 interest revealing emails she responded to me confirmed it (it contained things not necessary and don't make sense- in a nutshell for interest criterion). I call her for the first time at night, leave a vm telling her to meet, and she responds with text msg 2.5 hours later apologizing for the lateness and suggesting a time the second day. (In hindsight, should've called her right then)

I texted her early the next morning because I am busy and get up early, and called and leave a vm telling her to call back. Nothing.

The next day I call again and reach her after 1.5 rings, she tells me she has a project meeting late afternoon for Sunday so she suggested setting a time for early afternoon that day.

I call Sunday to confirm, but get vm and left one telling her to call back.


Now, I can honestly say that this girl is very interested and attracted to me, I have never felt it this strong before from girls, and she's gone out of her way to email things and sharing detailed time frames of when she's free, returning my very FIRST phone call with text very soon, and being happy about meeting when I was actually on the phone with her- humans can tell from others' voices when they are genuinely happy.

But I do know that girls are conditioned to not show too much to avoid risk being seen as desperate (When I asked her on the phone for a time that worked for her, she even blurbed Saturday afternoon but realized how eager she wanted to see me)

So, my gut tells me to call her again soon because I want to, or go one step back to email and gauge interest from her response...

 

[chancer]

NO! Stop calling her. You call and leave messages for her to call you back. She doesn't. If you're going to leave a message, do it, But DON'T CALL HER AGAIN after you just told her to call you. It shows that no matter what she does or says, you will always call or come back. You need to be a challenge.

From what you've told me, it doesn't seem like she very interested at all. Once you really get a feel for girls, you can go by gut feeling. But it seems that it's only causing you problems right now, so stick by the rules. Girls will never give you a clear path. Are you talking to any other girls?

PS. I don't leave messages, but I do text.

 

[SuperEMan]

thanks for the pointer. I've found that if girls are not interested, they can simply ignore a guy and they don't need to return a call or anything.

I mostly engage girls that are already attracted to me physically, so I have a pretty good gauge for that with my gut feeling.

I'm gonna pull back with this girl and turn it up with the other girls I'm messing with. You think I should re-engage this later by taking a step back and bust her with email?

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by SuperEMan
Would you break some of the rules if you knew a girl was genuinely attracted and interested in you by her actions, words, and bodylanguage?

I looked at similar threads and people have been making good suggestions :
ie if you feel you WANT to call her, do it
if you feel you HAVE to call her, don't

and various things girls do and don't do that are obvious if she's interested.

It's also funny to see some people over analyze things, but I don't want to under analyze it by going too much with my gut feeling.

SO: This girl I email closed was already very into me and the 2 interest revealing emails she responded to me confirmed it (it contained things not necessary and don't make sense- in a nutshell for interest criterion). I call her for the first time at night, leave a vm telling her to meet, and she responds with text msg 2.5 hours later apologizing for the lateness and suggesting a time the second day. (In hindsight, should've called her right then)

I texted her early the next morning because I am busy and get up early, and called and leave a vm telling her to call back. Nothing.

The next day I call again and reach her after 1.5 rings, she tells me she has a project meeting late afternoon for Sunday so she suggested setting a time for early afternoon that day.

I call Sunday to confirm, but get vm and left one telling her to call back.


Now, I can honestly say that this girl is very interested and attracted to me, I have never felt it this strong before from girls, and she's gone out of her way to email things and sharing detailed time frames of when she's free, returning my very FIRST phone call with text very soon, and being happy about meeting when I was actually on the phone with her- humans can tell from others' voices when they are genuinely happy.

But I do know that girls are conditioned to not show too much to avoid risk being seen as desperate (When I asked her on the phone for a time that worked for her, she even blurbed Saturday afternoon but realized how eager she wanted to see me)

So, my gut tells me to call her again soon because I want to, or go one step back to email and gauge interest from her response...

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD MAN ! All u gotta do is leave 1 voicemail and if she doesnt return the call , its obvious she's moved on .... simple as that

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Stop mixing up 'gut' feelings with AFC anxieties.

 

[penkitten]

do not call her!

 

[DinoCassanova]

So, my gut tells me to call her again soon because I want to, or go one step back to email and gauge interest from her response...


>>> Don't call anymore unless she calls you first (obviously). But if your gut really told you she's interested maybe try emailing her (very quick and to the point w/it) like maybe in the middle of the week or so. That's what I might do anyway.

 

[guitaronfire411]

Intuition has been proven to suck and is highly unreliable.

For example, I nexted a girl and found out the next time that I saw her that she wasn't fooling AND got really nervous around me (in a good way) when I said we can probably go out sometime in the future.

Just don't give a damn, and if she accepts, take it in your stride. My "top prospect" has helped teach me this.

 

[EquityPrivate]

Originally posted by SuperEMan

I call her for the first time at night, leave a vm telling her to meet, and she responds with text msg 2.5 hours later apologizing for the lateness and suggesting a time the second day....

1.

I texted her early the next morning because I am busy and get up early, and called and leave a vm telling her to call back....

2.

The next day I call again and reach her after 1.5 rings, she tells me she has a project meeting late afternoon for Sunday so she suggested setting a time for early afternoon that day....

3.

I call Sunday to confirm, but get vm and left one telling her to call back....

4.

4 calls, including one each day for three days in a row.

...so, my gut tells me to call her again soon because I want to, or go one step back to email and gauge interest from her response...

STOP calling her.

Anyone out there, when you get in this cycle ask yourself:

"Would a busy guy with an engaging and dynamic social life who has lots of options and female interest elsewhere in the world be calling this girl this often, or would he have called once and left it at that?"

What do YOU think the answer is?

So do you think she's getting the message that you are a busy guy with an engaging and dynamic social life who has lots of options and female interest elsewhere in the world?