what does she want?

[wildleopard]

hiya peeps!

i'm back again and never before i've needed you so much...
this is still regarding the chick that i had met on a train.. and i had posted regarding that earlier.. and she's actually not ugly.. she's pretty attractive if a bit overweight.. but im willing to get over her weight issue as she's pretty hot otherwise..

anyway, ive since had 2 intense makeout sessions with her but that was after her acting a lot lot flaky for a few weeks and me ignoring her completely.. e.g. not bothering to even talk to her although we see each other on the same train going to work every morning..

eventually, she didnt respond positively and i had given up anyway.. with my ego coming in between approaching her again.. but, i saw her one night at the club and there she was dancing.. i was a bit drunk so i danced around with her anyway and got into a lot of touching and stuff.. i acted as it was pretty normal that we hadnt talked..

for the next coupla weeks i again didnt talk to her.. basically didnt show up in her train.. and one of her older friends liked me as a person and set about patching us up.. and for some reason we ended up making out in my car when i dropped her at home the next week at the club..
anyway, after that i again acted like an a55hole for the next 2 weeks and not bothering to call her... and she again acting like a flaky bithc..

she called me once but that was basically nothing.. but as fate would have it, i bumped into her again on the road driving with her friends one night.. anyway, she was acting like she didnt want to know about me but i continued to be c & f and i told her that she has to tell me what she wants and that i am interested in her given she cuts the crap..

the next night one of my mates and she and her friend meet again.. and they left us 2 alone and we ended up making out again.. pretty heavily.. and she talked abt her having only 1 relationship till now.. and that she didnt show any interest coz she didnt know if i wud be able to commit to her.. and she said that she did like me and that i was smart etc.. anyway, i dont know if that was afc or not.. but i was fed up and told her that i do want her to be part of my life.. and i also let her know that she has to give up that 'playing hard to get' bithcy attitude.. she did get a bit comfortable with me.. and did all that lovey dovey stuff..

but again, late night.. i did msg her again to see her reaction.. saying that i cant get her outta my head and hoping that she's enjoying.. but alas, there was no reply.. and the next day i called her twice but she didnt pick up or call back.. i see her the next day at work.. and she had no explanation.. and didnt even bother to wait for me on the platform and she knows that im always behind her as im a bit late.. i caught up with her and she said she had no credit.. and blah blah excuses..

now.. the point is that i wanna get her into bed pretty sooon.. and i think ive a good chance if i play my cards right.. there's a long weekend coming up and i wanna take her to a weekend get-away and stay for a night somewhere touristy.. but i want her to say yes to that.. and i dont wanna call her for the next 2 days atleast to not be seen as desperate...

this is a request to everyone.. please tell me what does she want? can you please tell me where this is going and how to proceed? what should be my next step? i dont want to lose her.. and i dont want this to be one-itis but i surely want to go forward and make it more serious..

thanks a lot !!!

Mark

 

[Booblepook]

You are approaching fat insecure girl like she's an HB10, reducing her several points, and making her feel even uglier. She has an idea about romance, same one you had before. Yet you keep playing games, and she's confused.


For the weekend it should be fine to ask her straight up. Also would be nice to ask her for a movie or dinner before that, and take it from there.


You know, serious, but confident.


What does she want? A man who's into her. Does she have any skills to tell if and when she has that? NO. Would she have a problem with a guy she likes escalating it toward sex? NO.

 

[wildleopard]

thanks for the reply...

actually the reason i played all games that i did was because there are a lot of guys after her attention.. calling her all the time etc.. and i played cool and busted her.. maybe it worked and thats why she made out with me..

but i also did it coz she had an air of bithciness around her.. like not picking up my calls or not returning calls or texts.. and i have caught her lying a coupla times.. and she still continues to do it..

anyway, just wanted to add that info and i would welcome any other suggestions or comments from all of you.. as the weekend is approaching closer by the day..

thanks again..

 

[SickAgain]

Its common knowledge that most if not all fat girls are hoes. They'll take any male attention they can get. Keep this in mind. They are fully aware that they have a severe disadvantage in the dating game.

 

[MacAvoy]

Your coming across as very AFC. Its a BAD thing that you two are on the same train everyday to work. You don't want to be talking to a women that much, especially when you haven't closed the deal with her.

Your biggest problem is your putting all your eggs in one basket. You have no other options, your not spinning plates and as a result, your putting an overweight women on a pedastool. I've got no problem with dating heavy set girls, but your treating her like she's Cinderella sending her txts saying you can't get her out of your head and wanting to take her for a romantic get away when you haven't even closed the deal.

Its pretty AFC to spend a few hundred bucks to have a chance at a piece of tail. Don't get me wrong, I've spent that kind of money travelling & on rooms but it was for guaranteed tail.

You need more options, you've been here 5 years, you should no better.

 

[DonGorgon]

She sounds like a lose ho... you need to just go straight for the f.

 

[MacAvoy]

She sounds like a lose ho... you need to just go straight for the f.

Sometimes I find you give great advice but today, its like your speaking for the sake of hearing your own voice. Giving one liners with no reasoning behind it and coming from left field from what I gather.

 

[DonGorgon]

Sometimes I find you give great advice but today, its like your speaking for the sake of hearing your own voice. Giving one liners with no reasoning behind it and coming from left field from what I gather.

Actually I am a realist and many times the reality of the situation is too harsh fro many.. So I told it like I see it.. My mission is not to make sure that you are happy every time i type. Many times one line is all thats needed. This is a very simple situation and there is nothing really to advise about do to that...

She doe snot sound like a very nice person and she doe not sound like she is worth persuing for an LTR so what is left? an "f"! and as you know she is f'ing others... So the OP will waste energy on her while she does what she does.. If he is happy with that then oh well..

 

[wildleopard]

thanks for the replies..
its encouraging when you guys reply.. and it helps to improve me.. ive been lurking around for 5 years but its only since the past 6 months that ive been in action..

yeah.. we do catch the same train but i never sit in the same carriage as her.. and dont see her for sometimes 1 - 2 weeks inspite of me catching the same train..

the reason that i want to take her away is just to do that.. close the deal.. she lives with her parents and i dont have a proper place to bring her over.. so theres no privacy basically.. and i thought that if i get her away to someplace for a night.. i can go for it..
and the reason that i sent her those texts that i did was to possibly invoke some romantic feelings.. as busting her balls didnt seem to work too well.. so i thought she was the romantic type..

tell me any ideas which would enable me to ask her to go away with me successfully.. i dont want to mess it up as im fed up of these mind games and just wanna lay her.. she's not that much of a HB but yes, i dont have many options so unconsciously i mightve put her on a pedestal..

thanks everyone..