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Being ghosted is one of the most frustrating things. A bunch of time, energy, thoughts and desire gone out the window. What should make your situation easier is the fact you banged her several times. I'd say chalk it up to a good time and move on. There's zero acceptable excuse for being ghosted.
 

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Being ghosted is one of the most frustrating things. A bunch of time, energy, thoughts and desire gone out the window. What should make your situation easier is the fact you banged her several times. I'd say chalk it up to a good time and move on. There's zero acceptable excuse for being ghosted.
Exactley. I like her but the fact that she didn’t pick up or call back makes that my ego can’t take her serious anymore. Even if I wanted to, she lost her credits.
 

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Exactley. I like her but the fact that she didn’t pick up or call back makes that my ego can’t take her serious anymore. Even if I wanted to, she lost her credits.
There ya go. It is what it is. Like @DEEZEDBRAH says. Comply or bye. Approach dating more like women do with an abundance mindset and you will have better results and less frustration.
 
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She called herself my wife, basically love bombing hard. I was super sweet but after 3 days she tried to FaceTime a random guy she knows from home country in a bar with me. I told her “I don’t mind you do that, but not in front of me”. Then we had a akward silence for 45 minutes not talking. I was indifferent but sweet and polite. We left the bar, I ended the date kept sweet and we drove off. Next day she was all over me again, even more.
You literally answered your own question in your OP. You had sex, take the W and leave before it turns in to an L.
 

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Congrats, you paid for her vacation to bang her twice. On to the next one (she sounds like a hoe anyway).
 

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Gambino, be glad you got to bang her, you had a good time while it's YOUR TURN.

So now when your turn's over, accept it and find a new pvsssy to bang.
 

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I posted a random funny picture on social media and she reacts on it “hahahhaha”
Unless she initiates real contact by pm-ing you with something concrete such as "Hey Gambino, how have you been?" and only then you may proceed from there, any other breadcrumbs such as a "hahaha" reaction on your social media MEANS SH!T.

By reacting to your social media, she wants to achieve one of these two (or both) goals:

1. She wants to see if you still are head-over-heels for her aka if you're still her SIMP.

2. She wants you to chase her.


In other words, it's a trap, a bait, hence don't fall for it. Keep ghosting and bang other plates, this one might or might not contact you again, it doesn't matter anymore.
 

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Congrats, you paid for her vacation to bang her twice. On to the next one (she sounds like a hoe anyway).
She paid half of everything. I only paid twice the dates rest 50/50
 

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@manfrombelow @Howiestern and the forum is right again.

I waited 6 days.

me: hey how are you
Her: hey sweetheart I’m very busy with work but good and you?
Me: fine, Lets meet up for drinks when are you free to get together?
Her: this week I’m busy working next week I have 3 days off, Monday Tuesday Wednesday.
Me: let’s do Tuesday

her 12 hours later.
Her: my boss actually called me to work those 3 days. I hate my job, I need to quit.
Me: that means you cant meet up anymore?
Her: no I’m sorry…
Me: okay

Her: I can’t believe he asks me to work all those days now.
Me: well goodluck working
Her: I was really looking forward seeing you… pfffffff
Me: yea, next time

deleted her number. I will keep her on Instagram but never open her stories anymore.
The forum is right, again.
 
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@manfrombelow @Howiestern and the forum is right again.

I waited 6 days.

me: hey how are you
Her: hey sweetheart I’m very busy with work but good and you?
Me: fine, Lets meet up for drinks when are you free to get together?
Her: this week I’m busy working next week I have 3 days off, Monday Tuesday Wednesday.
Me: let’s do Tuesday

her 12 hours later.
Her: my boss actually called me to work those 3 days. I hate my job, I need to quit.
Me: that means you cant meet up anymore?
Her: no I’m sorry…
Me: okay

Her: I can’t believe he asks me to work all those days now.
Me: well goodluck working
Her: I was really looking forward seeing you… pfffffff
Me: yea, next time

deleted her number. I will keep her on Instagram but never open her stories anymore.
The forum is right, again.

That's weak brother. Delete her from Instagram. Remove her. The fact that you keep her on will make you want to check out her stories and see her face all the time. Who cares about Instagram and stories. It's all for weak people. Enjoy your life, delete her from Instagram, remove her from your life, and then if she wants to come back, go no contact, go no contact for as long as can, even if she comes still go no contact, until she begs, and then you are still no contact, and then if she reaches after, you can say you were seeing someone else. Otherwise, you will be wasting your time.
You need to realize woman like chasing men as much as men like chasing woman. Like I said read the JUST GOT DUMPED GUIDE.
 

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Thanks @TheGambino for the update.

The best thing about having this kind of community is that you're constantly receiving input from a non-emotional perspective. We are not robots, hence while we're fully capable of giving out the best advice for people, we're not as effective in giving ourselves pieces of advice of the same quality due to us being blinded by emotions caused by our own situations. I learned this the hard way.

And when not just one but multiple outside people give us input for our situations, they are never wrong because they have this privilege that we don't: Being NON-emotional regarding our problems.

Back to your story, if I were you, I would immediately cease all attempts to reach out to her from this very moment on, for obvious reasons. Time to pay yourself a little more respect!

Goodluck!
 
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Thanks @TheGambino for the update.

The best thing about having this kind of community is that you're constantly receiving input from a non-emotional perspective. We are not robots, hence while we're fully capable of giving out the best advice for people, we're not as effective in giving ourselves pieces of advice of the same quality due to us being blinded by emotions caused by our own situations. I learned this the hard way.

And when not just one but multiple outside people give us input for our situations, they are never wrong because they have this privilege that we don't: Being NON-emotional regarding our problems.

Back to your story, if I were you, I would immediately cease all attempts to reach out to her from this very moment on, for obvious reasons. Time to pay yourself a little more respect!

Goodluck!
That’s exactly it man. I joined the community after I realized how effective the just got dumped guide was for me. It put into perspective how emotional I was. I tested it with an ex who was acting c0cky when I was trying to get her back, and then she got burned because I went no contact after she started reaching out. No contact solves problems.

Also, respect is #1. Distance gives respect, and so does not too much communication. The less time you spend with them it seems the more respect you seem to hold. The less stupid conversations. You hit the nail on the head.

I also found teasing them or making jokes about each other is stupid too but making fun of third parties and other stuff tends to sit better.
 

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@manfrombelow and the rest of my bros.

I deleted her number.
posted on my Instagram random I was in her city for a football match and she dms me on Instagram.

“hey your literally are in my city and you don’t tell me…..”

Didn’t reply yet
 

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A vacation hit is dope! But that's where it stops. You got sucked into her frame for 5 days and she had a ball with it.

Let's count the egotistical victories on both sides

You: Won her over all of your boys (1) ****ed her (2)

Her: Got you to stay for 5 days the second you missed your initial flight (1) Got you to spend your nonsexual time and attention (2) Spent money on her (3) Showed her jealousy and insecurity with the facetime situation (4) you offered to pick her up when she landed (5)

If you add up the point totals (5-2), you can see how she pictures you as a beta male nice guy who tries to wife up a woman he just met. Each day that went by where you were compromising and sweet added more reasons for her to ghost you since you're no longer a challenge to her ego.
 

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A vacation hit is dope! But that's where it stops. You got sucked into her frame for 5 days and she had a ball with it.

Let's count the egotistical victories on both sides

You: Won her over all of your boys (1) ****ed her (2)

Her: Got you to stay for 5 days the second you missed your initial flight (1) Got you to spend your nonsexual time and attention (2) Spent money on her (3) Showed her jealousy and insecurity with the facetime situation (4) you offered to pick her up when she landed (5)

If you add up the point totals (5-2), you can see how she pictures you as a beta male nice guy who tries to wife up a woman he just met. Each day that went by where you were compromising and sweet added more reasons for her to ghost you since you're no longer a challenge to her ego.
That’s a quality post. I see my negotiation position here.

I replied : “it was small business trip” what it was yesterday.

nice profile pic. 2pac - I get around
 
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That’s a quality post. I see my negotiation position here.

I replied : “it was small business trip” what it was yesterday.

nice profile pic. 2pac - I get around
The fact you still replied to the broad showed you don't respect yourself and our input. I'm not contributing anymore to this thread.
 

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The fact you still replied to the broad showed you don't respect yourself and our input. I'm not contributing anymore to this thread.
she didn’t disrespect me so much to ignore her. Ignoring only when she disrespects you. I won’t make any efforts to ask her out ever again ofc.
 
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The fact that you continue to message her is that you still like her, but keep asking for advice and not taking other peoples advice. I already told you to do no contact, but you continue to find ways to catch your attention and try to respond to her.
 
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