What does she mean?

[TheGambino]

Fun story. Met a girl on vacation abroad before nye. I was with two friends on a trip. I approached her. Shes from the same country as us. She was alone on vacation but her ex lives there which she says she didn’t see him for 2 years and he disgusts her. Her grandma texted her if she saw him In front of me btw. She was staying in a hotel by herself and had friends there so I’m sure she didn’t stay at her ex.

She joined us for dinner and we decided to play a bachelor game which she would chose end of the evening who she would romance. Back home after going out she was all over me. Played it right due I could see she doubted between me and one of my buddies. Eventually she came to my room, we made out. Next day we went out and we would fly back but we were way too late at the airport and missed our flights. My buddies flew back a couple hours later and she begged me to stay with her for longer. I did and got a ticket 5 days later.

We went out everyday, she asked me to get a hotel together. Fvcked her a couple of times, we clicked, had major fun, laughed did fun things. Horse riding eating going out dancing etc etc.

She called herself my wife, basically love bombing hard. I was super sweet but after 3 days she tried to FaceTime a random guy she knows from home country in a bar with me. I told her “I don’t mind you do that, but not in front of me”. Then we had a akward silence for 45 minutes not talking. I was indifferent but sweet and polite. We left the bar, I ended the date kept sweet and we drove off. Next day she was all over me again, even more.

anyway she didn’t do that anymore if someone hit her up she didn’t even reply anymore.

I payed most time but she would grab money and wanted to pay half time. Sometimes she payed quickly so I wouldn’t.

also important: she mentioned how sometimes when men come too strong on her, she could back off a bit because she enjoys being by herself for periods of times doing her thing.

after 5 amazing and nice days I returned Home, she was staying longer, day we met she arrived there. She kept texting that she missed me dududududuud and she initiated 90%. Then she texts me a picture of her flight ticket. I offer to get her from the airport, she says it’s 1.5 hour drive to airport for u, are u sure? I say yes and we agree then she says baby dont Mind my Neece will pick me up. Don’t mind.

I answer ok no worries.

then she texts I landed. I say welcome back. She thanks me.

next day I try to call her to set a date and she ignores that.

now 1.5 days passed, she comes online but didn’t call back or text me at all anymore. Weird because she flipped 180.

I understand I need to focus on other women. I do. But does she need space? Other guys?

my gut feeling says I have to wait her out. What’s your thoughts dj’s?

 

[Dr.Suave]

There could be a million reasons why she´s ghosting. Like you said, focus on other girls.

 

[manfrombelow]

then she texts I landed. I say welcome back. She thanks me.

next day I try to call her to set a date and she ignores that.

now 1.5 days passed, she comes online but didn’t call back or text me at all anymore. Weird because she flipped 180.

I understand I need to focus on other women. I do. But does she need space? Other guys?

my gut feeling says I have to wait her out. What’s your thoughts dj’s?

Thank you OP for sharing your story, I'm sure we all could learn a thing or two from this.

I read your post twice to make sure I didn't miss out on anything.

So this girl was fvcking you and lovebombing you and yada-yada. Good.

And now she's ignored you for 1.5 days. And your guts are telling you something is wrong.

As an outsider, I have the luck of not being clouded by the heat of emotions (if you will), so here's what I'm gonna tell you:

Reasons don't matter when a girl ghosts you. What matters is the fact that she did ghost you. That's all.

Of course, if we have to take a guess, then it's very likely she's back with some other dude, which is totally normal phenomenon. But like I've just said: Reasons don't matter when it comes to ghosting.

And when you're confused, do NOTHING, as a wise guy has preached on SS a long time ago.

So she ghosted you. Therefore you should not keep trying to contact her anymore. If she reaches out to you, good. If she doesn't, well you haven't lost anything, have you?

Girls like her are perfect for FWB/sex buddies relationships, no more no less.

If I were you, at any point in the near future that she reaches out to me again, I'd take that opportunity to bang the sh~t outta her and that's just it.

 

[manfrombelow]

One more thing: Be glad at least you banged her pvsssy, most guys didn't even reach that stage and still got ghosted big time.

 

[Hal9000]

Hard to decipher the hamster wheel. I'd definitely wait her out and if you never see her again at least you've got some good memories. Consider it a bullet dodged if she can turn on you that quickly.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

My gut says she viewed you as a fling, but also has an intense/passionate love style.

 

[Stanley]

BPD attention hoe sensor is going off

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, you seem to get in deep quickly with these broads. Identifying and managing your tendency towards emotional immersion might be something worth working on. Learn to try and stay detached as much as possible.

 

[The Duke]

This is straight up t!tty dancer behavior. When they come on fast, they leave even faster.

Just wait it out. If she comes back around great, if not that's great too. All she will ever be is a good time.

 

[TheGambino]

Girls and traveling.
You turned her off with the little pouty thing ya did at the bar shen she face timed a guy.
You just met this chic less then 2 weeks you already mate guarding.
Screams thirst man.
I would stop dojng that. Guys shouldnt be doing that until she offers or tries to lock down exclusevity.

I absolutely do not agree with you. It’s disrespectful that a girl that’s on a date with you facetimes her male orbiter in front of you. Fvck no. Never accepting that lmao.I want her full attention if she’s in her hotel she does wtf she wants.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I absolutely do not agree with you. It’s disrespectful that a girl that’s on a date with you facetimes her male orbiter in front of you. Fvck no. Never accepting that lmao.I want her full attention if she’s in her hotel she does wtf she wants.

Is it really a "date" though if you're both on vacation?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Stop lovebombing OP! We don't like it when girls do it to us, and neither does it work.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I'm very sorry man.. but you really aren't seeing whats right in front of you. She doesn't want you and never wanted you. She was always stuck up on her ex and now shes looking for someone to fulfill this void with pleasure.. and she realized early on you're not that guy. She just entertained you for a second.. but never planned on choosing you

This stuff happens so much on this forum im jus gonna drop a post about it.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

She had plausible deniability on vacation, at home she’s a “good girl”, especially if she’s Arab/Muslim/Persian-whatever.

You two had your time in the sun, but you got too invested. Sad to say this but what do you think she was doing after you left her there? When a woman does this with us we think “well I’m just all that she did it just with me or for me, she’s not like this with other men”, unfortunately it’s 99.9% not true. We’d like it to be but it’s not.

If you wanna smash again if she contacts you invite her out of town again - it’s all she’s worth.

Vacation love affairs are fantasy.

 

[manfrombelow]

I absolutely do not agree with you. It’s disrespectful that a girl that’s on a date with you facetimes her male orbiter in front of you. Fvck no. Never accepting that lmao.I want her full attention if she’s in her hotel she does wtf she wants.

You have every right to "disagree" or "agree" over a certain matter, but it has nothing to do what how she emotionally perceived it at that moment.

On the contrary: Why didn't you facetime with another broad and tell her to say "Hiiiii"?

Anyway. It doesn't matter. The way things are, I highly doubt even if you hadn't said anything, this (she ghosting you) wouldn't have happened.

 

[manfrombelow]

You’re a DJ, not an analyst.

Well said.

 

[bat soup]

Fun story. Met a girl on vacation abroad before nye. I was with two friends on a trip. I approached her. Shes from the same country as us. She was alone on vacation but her ex lives there which she says she didn’t see him for 2 years and he disgusts her. Her grandma texted her if she saw him In front of me btw. She was staying in a hotel by herself and had friends there so I’m sure she didn’t stay at her ex.

She joined us for dinner and we decided to play a bachelor game which she would chose end of the evening who she would romance. Back home after going out she was all over me. Played it right due I could see she doubted between me and one of my buddies. Eventually she came to my room, we made out. Next day we went out and we would fly back but we were way too late at the airport and missed our flights. My buddies flew back a couple hours later and she begged me to stay with her for longer. I did and got a ticket 5 days later.

We went out everyday, she asked me to get a hotel together. Fvcked her a couple of times, we clicked, had major fun, laughed did fun things. Horse riding eating going out dancing etc etc.

She called herself my wife, basically love bombing hard. I was super sweet but after 3 days she tried to FaceTime a random guy she knows from home country in a bar with me. I told her “I don’t mind you do that, but not in front of me”. Then we had a akward silence for 45 minutes not talking. I was indifferent but sweet and polite. We left the bar, I ended the date kept sweet and we drove off. Next day she was all over me again, even more.

anyway she didn’t do that anymore if someone hit her up she didn’t even reply anymore.

I payed most time but she would grab money and wanted to pay half time. Sometimes she payed quickly so I wouldn’t.

also important: she mentioned how sometimes when men come too strong on her, she could back off a bit because she enjoys being by herself for periods of times doing her thing.

after 5 amazing and nice days I returned Home, she was staying longer, day we met she arrived there. She kept texting that she missed me dududududuud and she initiated 90%. Then she texts me a picture of her flight ticket. I offer to get her from the airport, she says it’s 1.5 hour drive to airport for u, are u sure? I say yes and we agree then she says baby dont Mind my Neece will pick me up. Don’t mind.

I answer ok no worries.

then she texts I landed. I say welcome back. She thanks me.

next day I try to call her to set a date and she ignores that.

now 1.5 days passed, she comes online but didn’t call back or text me at all anymore. Weird because she flipped 180.

I understand I need to focus on other women. I do. But does she need space? Other guys?

my gut feeling says I have to wait her out. What’s your thoughts dj’s?

She's probably married.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Vacation stuff happens on vacation. Women are in a free mindset there and want an adventure away from their normal mundane, boring life. You fit that role for her.

Now she is back to her normal life you don't fit in it anymore for whatever reason. No sense in worrying about it, find more women

 

[startstrongtoday22]

I think the only practical solution for you is to go no contact. I suggest you read the Just GOT DUMPED GUIDE. It’s the best piece of advice I got from this forum and the only reason I joined.

Since I learned the approach and method, my solution to everything is to go no contact. The reason is that whoever cares less in the relationship wins. Now guys on here will tell you know this won’t not work on even girls they’ve met once or message once one’s or they moved on. The new contact phenomenon has such power that it’s so hard to explain. I even using in business. It always works. It always works on anyone who has some interest in you.

If you have done a good job in making a good impression there is no reason why this person will not try to come back to you once you going to contact. just going to contact and stick to it.

 

[TheGambino]

I posted a random funny picture on social media and she reacts on it “hahahhaha”