What does it mean when says " I didn't expect you to ask me if I had a bf" ?

[ScottMustaine]

This girl came up to me on FB. Said she thinks I'm incredibly intelligent and went into philosophical debate. Sure thing it was fun, she wasn't a moron either.

Then I decided to build next day better rapport with flirting etc and asked her whether she had BF. She said " No. xD I didn't expect you would ask me about that... "

Before that she was asking me about some girly looking f4g who likes to sh1t on everyone and degrade them. A dude who's ****y, but is biggest crybaby when things heat up.


So... The fck now... Next ?

 

[peteywintz]

Ask her out? You just got the "No I don't have a boyfriend" + Smiley Face.

**** that noise after that, get her out on a date.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Altought some more info would make the difference Im not sure its a good sign.

"I didnt expect you to ask me if i had a bf" in girls talk may mean:

"I didnt expect you to be a sexual being with the audacity to make a move".

I start to believe that anything following any move which is not an encouragment to go further is a potential red flag, when a girl which likes you finds that you like her back is usually happy and flattered, she doesnt come with bullsh1t or anything that would derail the topic or move the attention.

A better reply would have been "nope I dont, so if you wanna invite me for a drink i may come " or " im free as a bird ".

 

[ScottMustaine]

I just told her. "Why did it surprise you ? "

"I don't know... "

"Well I'll take that with a hidden meaning. Cya, have fun "

"Cya )"


It started by her giving me some philosophical question on ask.fm ( place where people ask you anonymously ). So we had a chit chat for few hours and I told her to hit me up on facebook. With all the talk about philosophy and school I don't know how to turn these things sexual...

Man, after being played on last time with girl sh1tting how she likes me now I just want to cut out my sexual function.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Never ask a girl if she has a boyfriend. Got it? You stand a good chance of making her feel as though you think she is a slut/cheater and can't be trusted. Whether that's reality or not is not relevant if you want to bed her. It is relevant for LTR material but you'll likely find out after you start spending time with her. Don't shoot yourself in the foot in the meantime.

 

[ScottMustaine]

So what would be my next move ? Asking her directly out would even make things even worser. She will go to a gig soon ( which I probably won't be allowed to go ) and she among other girls will worship those glam looking guys.


In the meantime. I risk getting friendzoned if I continue chatting. How the fck I make a rapport here ? :S

 

[DonJuanabe]

Don't make it hard for yourself. Ask her out.

 

[ScottMustaine]

I said I might come up to gig and describe myself what im going to wear. She said " Im going to wear the same t shirt haha "

So I said " Yeah that would be cool. But if I don't make it, we should go out some other day. Since you won't hear anything what I say out of loudness anyway. "

I'll edit this post when she responds.

 

[ARrocket]

I just told her. "Why did it surprise you ? "

"I don't know... "

"Well I'll take that with a hidden meaning. Cya, have fun "

"Cya )"

Sorry bro but this is just plain awful.

Instead, after she said she didn't have a bf, you should have said "oh good, we're gonna hang out then."

Now, just hang out with her!! If you can't see her right away, stop talking to her until you can.

 

[ScottMustaine]

My frustrations are leaking. Will do.

I came up with the ' we should hang out out of the gigs' thing and she agreed with " yes, it's quite loud and moshes are crazy sometimes, but music is cool you know. "


She keeps saying sorry for not answering fast and I like moron said I like her politeness. I'm so OUT OF FRAME. I can't believe what I'm writing.

It's like not being in control of myself. I'll delete FB in upcoming days and isolate myself for a month or so. I need to do some major things. And I feel like I have some hidden things inside of myself that I need to uncover... What's bothering me. Frustrating me etc.