"What do you want?"

[rick6599]

I went to see one "Old love" to pizzeria where she works. As soon as I entered, she spoke to me in upset way "What do you want?" I didn't want to make a scene so I opted for "Just came to order take out pizzas" Still, she knows I wasn't there for pizzas. I want to go there again. What do I say this time?

 

[Bonhomme]

Looks like she wasn't thrilled to see you

My advice is not to go back. Unless you really do just want the pizza. Move on.

As best I can tell, nothing you can say will change the way she thinks very much.

 

[StringShredder]

You're not going to say anything because you're not going there again, buddy!

If you do ever go in there accidentally, make sure there is a nice looking girl with you whom you are giving all your attention. As for the "old love", just pretend you've never met her before and behave that way.

But even that is lame. Better to be seen with that new girl somewhere other than the pizzeria.

In a girl's mind, the most plausible explanation for your appearance, location or behavior, should never be that you have some premeditated plan to enter into her presence.

If you show up at the pizzeria where she works, no matter who you are with, the most plausible explanation why you are there will always be that it's because you are thinking of her. Thus, you shouldn't do that.

You can still create a situation in which you can approach her, but it looks like a chance meeting. But again, create too many of such situations and it looks like you are stalking. Bump into her once or twice in a span of sevearl months, and the most probable explanation is that it's coincidence. Bump into her five times in four weeks, and coincidence is not longer the probable explanation!

 

[StringShredder]

Even if he wants the pizza and nothing else, his motive will still be misconstrued in the girl's mind. People can't read your mind. They use all kinds of lazy shortcuts in their reasoning to form a couple of hypotheses about why you are doing what you are doing. Then they pick the most plausible one. If they fancy themselves to be clever, they will keep the second most plausible one in their "back pocket" and exert a slight effort to look for clues in its favor.

 

[Climax]

My 2c...

Originally posted by rick6599
I went to see one "Old love" to pizzeria where she works. As soon as I entered, she spoke to me in upset way "What do you want?" I didn't want to make a scene so I opted for "Just came to order take out pizzas" Still, she knows I wasn't there for pizzas. I want to go there again. What do I say this time?

Her: what do you want?

You: Well, this IS a pizza place, isnt it?

Her: Ya

You: So why did you ask me a question that u already knew the answer to? unless you actually think that i came here because of YOU?

Her: (at a loss of words) ok, so what do u wanna order?

You: I want (what u wanna eat)

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When u get your pizza and are about to leave
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You: And if i DID come here for you, would that be a problem?

At this point you should get the truth from her.. and whatever she sais, u will just need to accept, weather its what u want to hear or not.

What you need to do now:

Go there again in a few weeks ( dont go any time soon, that would come out as being stalker-ish ) and then just do something similar to what i mentioned above and see how things go from there..

Goodluck...

Laterz...

 

[rick6599]

Equitas, thanks, that was a good one. To bring another chick around, and even kissing her in front of the main target would still be a bit awkward. I was not direct enough this time. Got to take it easy. Couple of weeks, then being straight.