What do you guys think of this?

[fuko2007]

So been a while since ive posted but got a problem and need some input.
My birthday is this Saturday and this girl ive been seeing has been asking me where i want to go or what i want to do.

Well tuesday she said she was having work done on her house remodeling etc and didnt know if she could leave or not. I said it was fine i would just cut my grass and do some work around my house. Well she came back with your not working on your bday. So i took that as we were still doing something.

Today i get this text as follows

Her: They started the dogie room yesterday evening. I dont want to screw up your bday if you want to go hang out with your friends. " she had already asked me to do something and i said yes". I dont know when i need to be at the house and trying to coordinate with the power company to drop the line so they can do some repairs. But have to figure out when guys can do the repair so the power company can drop the line.

Now after this text we talked on the phone and she said the same thing pretty much but her tone was different. She also said she would know if she could do something until friday night. Now im at a point to where im pretty mad because its thursday and she is just now saying this and it almost seems like she is trying to get out of it.

I dont know what to do as of this point. Should i just say fvck it and tell her not to worry about it or wait and see. This is kinda a vent to so any advice would be nice.

 

[El Payaso]

Do what YOU want to do without approval from her or anyone else.

 

[Partizan]

How serious is it with this girl?

If I am dating a girl casually, I sure as hell am not going to spend my actual birthday with her. I'm going to spend my birthday with my family, good friends,and/or an exclusive gf.

Frankly, if someone I was casually dating even entertained spending her birthday with me, then it would turn me off and would lower her value in my eyes. I would wonder if she has any friends or a life outside me. Now I have "celebrated" birthdays with casual dates before but it's always 2-3 days before or after the actual bday.

 

[Bingo-Player]

It seems very elaborate to be an excuse which makes me think shes genuinely got a lot on her plate

The harder she feels pushed into doing something with you on this particular day the more she will resent you for it and the lower her interest will go

Just go ghost for a few days enjoy your birthday and then leave her pick up the phone

 

[fuko2007]

yeh im not to big on my birthday really don't care. Its just the principal of the matter that bothers me. She knew this would probably happen so why did she ask. And she is making it sound like a favor if we even do anything.

I don't call her / text her much at all. And if i go out of town and don't tell her she gets offended. She just called me and was talking about Saturday. She said she can still do something she does not know when. I'm just going to drop the issue i guess and if she doesn't call she doesn't call.

But she has said she got me some presents, last year she got me a whole bunch of stuff and took me out of town. Bingo-player i think your right but something is still a little off with the whole situation.

 

[HoneyHitter]

There seems to be some incompatibility here:
- she wants YOU to do something fun on your birthday so she can join in or preferably brag about to her girlfriends.
- you only care about doing something with HER

This girl is looking to be entertained, but she feels like you are not enough of a catch (anymore?) to appreciate some alone time.

 

[VladPatton]

I know how stressful and crazy construction can be, it is in my line of work, so yeah, her point is understood. However, nothing in home construction happens at night, especially on a Saturday night. Why the hell can't you 2 do something then? That's what is weird about this.

My advice is to just say ok, no problem, and go hang with your friends. Just make sure to take her down a notch for pulling this on you on a Saturday night that's your bday. That's not too cool.

 

[fuko2007]

VladPatton thats what i was thinking was strange. I asked her why they were working in the evenings there and on a staurday. Even on saturday i know guys in that line of work and they will go early in the a.m. around 8 and knock off around 1 or 2. Not show up in the afternoon and work till night.

When i asked she said they were on another job building a hotel and when they leave there they go there and work. Still does not make sense. Its better when the home owner is not there anyway. I did a little of that while i was in school and we did most of our work when they were away or at work. Never on a saturday. But leads me to the ? again WHY does she have to be there and why cant she just call and find out if they plan to work that day?

 

[wishyo]

How serious is it with this girl?

If I am dating a girl casually, I sure as hell am not going to spend my actual birthday with her. I'm going to spend my birthday with my family, good friends,and/or an exclusive gf.

^this. just tell her what you want, that's it. if you want her on saturday, tell her that. if she cant, well too bad. if u still wanna see her, ask her one more time, if she has some other b/s to do, move on. simple