what do yal think about self-hypnosis for confidence?

[moneyisking]

I am not really into the shrinks and related stuffs, but if trying new things help me better my confidence, I will try new things. I have been listening to self-hypnosis for self confidence on youtube, and I want to know what you guys think about it.

Thank you.

 

[switch]

well it seems to work since its based on 'tricking' your brain or otherwise giving you an artificial security...but i prefer it the traditional way
get money,workout,get a hobby,do some research and increase your self esteem...if you are shy you can also try some counseling..
those are the things i did,since i had a very low confidence till 6 months ago,but after doing those stuff,i seem to be better now

 

[moneyisking]

ya but unfortunately, I still am a student going through nursing school. I know I will make some serious cash once I graduate, but for the moment, I still am a broke college kid haha. FYI I lift weights, play guitar, focus responsibly in school; my life is pretty straight b/c I work hard for life and ain't the type to get pushed around like a bytch either. it's just confidence for women that seems lacking.

 

[ALPHAROMEO]

crap

a lot of bull

i tried that crap years ago never worked

it s just a way of making money for the scammers

u want to get rich make hypnosis tapes or write a book on the act of ****ing women

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

The only way to give off the confident vibe is to genuinely feel and be confident. It's gotta be deep down in you.

You can do things to amplify your confidence. Like: getting your wardrobe tight, getting your paper straight, learning new things that will enable you to chop up game on different topics.

Deon Sanders said it best: "When you look good you feel good. When you feel good you play good. And when you play good you get paid good."

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Hypnosis.... I believe and sometimes practice. As POOK said something about, "Think and you shall become." Not sure if that was exactly worded right. Everything on a subconscious level will be tremendous. To the naysayers: Anything that will get you in a positive frame cannot be bad!!! Just like hypnosis. If it changes your frame of mind, does it NOT work?

At the most very most it is relaxing and at the best it really works! Not sure about the ones that say it does not...but if I am relaxing, I am succeeding! Just a thought!

 

[Atom Smasher]

I've tried it in the past. In my own personal experience, I have always felt ill-at-ease and almost depressed after sessions.

I think it can work if you are highly motivated and it is the right time to make the change. If the timing is wrong, it might created a cognitive dissonance deep inside because the suggestions say things that simply aren't true. The hypnotist says, "You are confident" while your subconscious gets confused because it knows you're not. I disagree that the subconsious is completely judgement free.

I find that the best path to change is by absolute saturation of positive thoughts on a given subject. Let's say you want to be and believe that you're more attractive. Absolutely reject any experience/comment that supports that you're not good-looking and dwell on and keep remembering any experience/comment that supports it. Eventually new neuro-patheways will develop.

Ever see the side of a hill that has been graded for grass planting after a rain? The water finds the easiest path and the dirt erodes down to the bottom of the hill as the easy path establishes itself. In like manner we need to create new "Erosion paths" by cultivating thought habits.

YMMV.

 

[blind_one]

The hypnotist says, "You are confident" while your subconscious gets confused because it knows you're not.

Depends on the hypnosis text. While you should start with something alone the lines of " You are becoming (more) confident " so your brain/mentality gets used to it over a longer period of time in which you go over the hypnosis/affirmations time and time again.

Not a personal experience though, its from John Alexander's How to Become an Alpha Male

 

[Jariel]

I tried all of that, but none of it really worked for me. There are a lot of "quick fixes" out there that will give you fleeting mental boost, but gaining confidence takes time and work.

What worked for me is gradually facing my fears, recognising my faults and my reasons for low confidence and then working towards overcoming them.

 

[FairShake]

If you do that won't be real confidence. Talk to women, get sexual, fail, and try again. That's really the only thing that will work.

If hypnosis really worked, permanently, everyone would do it.

 

[corrector]

One of my cousins, who is good with women, tells me that he makes lots of affirmative statements when he looks at himself in the mirror, especially before he engages any woman. (he also has the "looks" big time) Having a good encouraging conversation with yourself probably won't hurt anyway.

 

[ladyzman]

One of my cousins, who is good with women, tells me that he makes lots of affirmative statements when he looks at himself in the mirror, especially before he engages any woman. (he also has the "looks" big time) Having a good encouraging conversation with yourself probably won't hurt anyway.

It's the looks that are getting him laid. Lets face it, the better looking you are, the easier it is to get tail. The only thing the affirmations are doing for your cousin is validating that they actually work when affirmations don't do ****. I've done affirmations and they weren't what was getting me laid. My looks, my luck that day, whatever **** she had going on in her life that made her interested in me, and the fact I have the balls to approach her and ask her out is what gets me laid. In all honesty, if I was better looking, I'd get sooo much more tail. But I'm OK so I do OK

 

[BigJimbo]

It's the looks that are getting him laid. Lets face it, the better looking you are, the easier it is to get tail. The only thing the affirmations are doing for your cousin is validating that they actually work when affirmations don't do ****. I've done affirmations and they weren't what was getting me laid. My looks, my luck that day, whatever **** she had going on in her life that made her interested in me, and the fact I have the balls to approach her and ask her out is what gets me laid. In all honesty, if I was better looking, I'd get sooo much more tail. But I'm OK so I do OK

Good point. As a very handsome man I find myself taking the long route just to look in a mirror. If you like what you see in it you won't have problems. Most guys look in the mirror and see imperfections. I don't. Well, I do have a few small facial scars. That just plays into my mysterious side. My rugged side.

Advice? Buy expensive fitted clothing and drive a card that you probably can't afford. Both will make you feel better and get you more "nanny nanny nunu". You gotta compensate for your s--- looks.

 

[Bossman90]

I think you should go the other route.