What can I do to compensate for my height?

[SeymourCake]

I'm 5'8 and on most days, I'm not insecure about my height but today at the gym, I looked in the mirror and I realized how short I was compared to some men who towered over me. It was only when I saw myself in a third person perspective I've realized this insecurity is being brought back to the surface. I wish I was 6'3, but obviously I can't do anything about it because it's genetically hardwired into my genes.

What can I do? I know this is something out of my control. Should I start feeling good about myself knowing I'm not a midget or my legs are not amputated? I've realized women are height wh0res though some do not want to admit it.

 

[Mike32ct]

My buddy is 5'8". I advised him to spike up his hair. Having a taller rather than flat (or shaved) hairstyle gives the appearance of more height.

It works pretty well for him.

 

[Thorninmyside]

I'm 5'8 and on most days, I'm not insecure about my height but today at the gym, I looked in the mirror and I realized how short I was compared to some men who towered over me.

Don't date those men then! :crackup:

But seriously, 5'8" is fine and if you're lean, you'll still look better than someone like me who is 6'1" and a bit heavy in the middle. So be lean, dress sharp and the ladies won't give a sh't.

 

[skinnyguy]

If you're 10 inches I think it will make up for that

 

[El Payaso]

My friend would gladly switch places with you. Try being 5'6".

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

I'm 5'8 and on most days,

SHUT THE **** UP !

Im 5.5 how you compensate THAT ? You don't. If you think you are inferior because you have shorter legs then you will make yourself inferior in your mind and it is gonna **** up so badly you got no idea.And girls will feel it.

Who gives **** what women want ? Go for what you want. Be your best.Dress well.Gym.Make money.But not to compensate for some wh0res. And rule no 1 dont be whiner whining about height.There are millions tall guys who are ****ing loosers, beta boys,omega boys,jobless,moneyless ... height helps a lot but if the mind doesn't follow you are screwed.

There is always somebody better,younger,taller,richer - thats the game - you are suppose to win with the cards you have.
5'8 ? I would **** whole city with this height.You are a looser to whine about such good height.Really.Get a life.

 

[Genos]

Yep, pretty much what JohnyTheArrow said. I'm 5'4, and I honestly don't feel it's that bad. I can have success with women if I try. I've had dates with women taller than me as well! It's harder, but its not the end of the world. At 5'8, the world is your ****in oyster man.

I kind of like to think of being disadvantaged in looks/height/other genetics, etc. as playing the dating game on 'hard' mode, haha. What this does is it forces you to bring your 'A' game to life. Where other men can half-ass things and have a decent shot with women, you will have to excel in order to achieve the same level of success. And you know what? It's a hell of a lot more satisfying when you had to work for your success rather than have it fall into your lap. Change your mindset - find enjoyment in the additional challenge, and you'll see progress in leaps and bounds.

I found an awesome post on the redpill subreddit a while back, definitely check it out: http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/..._dude_game_part_1_im_55_and_being_short_isnt/

 

[Serenity]

Can't really give much advice since I'm actually 6'3“, but I can tell you I don't really experience height as a relevant factor. You're comparing yourself with others, we all know how that ends don't we? There will always be someone dumber, smarter, higher, lower, stronger and weaker.

In any case you can't change your height (except for extreme methods), so you don't really have a choice but to accept it if you want to end that insecurity. Common expressive compensation tactics is to not talk about it and make witty jokes if it's brought up.

Being 6'3" I can tell you there's plenty of things to be insecure about, that is if I give a sh!t. The most useful thing I've found about being high is seeing over most peoples heads at concerts. The worst thing is constantly bumping my head into things that was designed for fvcking midgets.

Konduit is right, I can half-ass a lot of things. I'm pretty good looking as well, which adds on even more bonus. If I care enough to put on the right clothes I have randoms greeting me wherever I go, I'm not even remotely trying to draw that attention.

 

[teebear]

There are millions of women who are shorter than you who just want a man to be taller than they are. Target those women.

I'm 5'7" and that's my mindset. Funny enough, all three women I am seeing are taller than me and it really doesn't seem to bother them.

Height might be one of those "nice to have" factors for some women that isn't a total deal-breaker if you don't posses it. Just make yourself as attractive as possible in every other regard and reap the benefits.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Medium size guys usually have the baddest broads. Never seen a tall dude with a super smoking hottie

 

[salinechow]

Unbelievable that this post coinsides perfectly with an experiance I had last night

I went out last night with a buddy. We are both very charismatic and charming but we were striking out pretty hardcore. Even the girls we did well with either had BFs or were just ultimately uninterested. After almost 5hrs of this I was feeling pretty beat up. Yet, hell bent on increasing the # of rejections I get( I have turned that into its own game, I actually kind of get off on it a little now) I sarged on.

I am 5'8. I watched as two college basketball players bought these girls drinks and conversed with them. One was 6'10 the other about 6'6. I could tell that by the girls body language they were being polite but were uninterested. When the guys left to get them another round I marched. Made a quick impression using my "honesty" approach. (PM or ask and Ill expand on what that is. Works well for me) Long story short, when they returned I would not let them "squeeze" back in or make any more time. They got alpha sticked BAD. Then when I told them to get lost the girl actually helped by waving in their faces and saying "Bye"

I talked to her for a while longer and she enthusiastically asked me to call her when we were saying goodbye.

I would love to share more details but I am such a long winded poster already, and, this is someone else’s thread. So here is the takeaway.

1. A tall frame can be a weak one.

2. Collect rejection like you like it. Never be afraid, never give up. The next huge success can be only secconds away. Go find out! Rejection is ALWAYS better than regret. Rejection teaches. Regret ruins.

3. Study body language. Tests are always easier when its "open book"

You guys here are always saying to find something as a hobby and dive into it(one reason being to help with oneitis, the other being for inner frame) I took your advice. I made it a goal to become as proficient at the study of non-verbal communication as possible. It might be as important to the "game" (of life too) as anything else I have ever done.

P.S Those drinks those idiots were buying...Untouched!~ I didn’t notice until she pointed it out. There they were, 3 drinks with nary a sip taken nor a straw wrapper removed. She said she didn’t really trust guys that bought and brought drinks to her. These out of touch losers didn’t even notice she wasn’t drinking them or that she told them she had to drive. I asked her why then would she keep ordering them. She said it was funny to waste their money since they didn’t care enough to listen to her or pay attention enough to spot her ruse.

 

[djthiago1]

SHUT THE **** UP !

Im 5.5 how you compensate THAT ? You don't. If you think you are inferior because you have shorter legs then you will make yourself inferior in your mind and it is gonna **** up so badly you got no idea.And girls will feel it.

Who gives **** what women want ? Go for what you want. Be your best.Dress well.Gym.Make money.But not to compensate for some wh0res. And rule no 1 dont be whiner whining about height.There are millions tall guys who are ****ing loosers, beta boys,omega boys,jobless,moneyless ... height helps a lot but if the mind doesn't follow you are screwed.

There is always somebody better,younger,taller,richer - thats the game - you are suppose to win with the cards you have.
5'8 ? I would **** whole city with this height.You are a looser to whine about such good height.Really.Get a life.

I'm 5.7 and never had a problem. Like you said, you gotta play with the hand you were dealt with. Think of it as playing a game on hard mode, if you beat the game it means you're better then the ones who beat it on easy mode.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Become bad mother****er and be proud you are short.Life is **** but if still can succeed against the odds - you are the man.

You shortness is like bad card in poker but you can still win with bluff :cheer:

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

A good body and confident attitude will compensate for a lot.

My old housemate is about 5'7-8 but acts like he's 6'4. I've never known him have problems meeting women. It will only become a problem if you allow your insecurity to show. Be honest with yourself, there's not a whole lot you're gonna do about it, so acceptance is key.

Some chicks (generally shorter as well) would actually prefer a slightly shorter guy. I am nearly a foot taller than my ex and once I started working out again and putting gains on, I think she started to become a bit intimidated by the difference in stature.

 

[62Telecaster]

What can you do? Stop worrying and don't care about it...

I'm 5'6" and have no problems with my height. I have girls approach me all the time on weekends, whether they're taller or shorter doesn't seem to matter. Just have fun and be yourself...I'm a music nut and love to see cover bands or just dance, my height doesn't matter one ounce when I'm in the right environment and having fun with my friends. Putting off a fun and engaging presence completely puts height to shame...my current streak of weekends in which I've been approached by at least one quality woman while I've been out with my friends sits at 11 right now. Like the post above, height can very easily take a back seat to other qualities if you're comfortable with who you are.

...get over yourself and just remember to dress nice and have fun.

 

[mangotot]

I am 6'4 but sometimes wish I was 5'8 because people would not notice me and I'd blend in more. And for the record I can't say my height, from experience, helps me to be a master of the universe slayer.

The point is OP, this problem only exists because you think its a problem. Its all in your head.

 

[foreverAFC]

Should I start feeling good about myself knowing I'm not a midget or my legs are not amputated?

yes. when you start feeling bad about being 5'8, be thankful you arent 5'6 or 5'4 or 5'2 etc.....some always has it worse

5'8 is normal, just hit the gym and be as in shape as you can, it all you can do. learn a martial art and learn how to use your body.

 

[62Telecaster]

I am 6'4 but sometimes wish I was 5'8 because people would not notice me and I'd blend in more. And for the record I can't say my height, from experience, helps me to be a master of the universe slayer.

The point is OP, this problem only exists because you think its a problem. Its all in your head.

Props for using the phrase "master of the universe slayer":crackup:

 

[SeymourCake]

Check this out everyone.

http://youtu.be/-QwUWgxjee0

This is the current generation of western girls.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Check this out everyone.

http://youtu.be/-QwUWgxjee0

This is the current generation of western girls.

Nearly every person in that video is less than 20 years old; so the news is, young people are superficial. I, for one, am shocked