What can an aspergers man do to get women?

[lanba]

I can act normal but never as well as men who actually are normal.

What should I do? Just embrace my weirdness and run with it?

A few weeks ago I was on the train and the two women next to me by chance were talking about aspergers and saying they hate talking to people with aspergers because we never understand what they say. (Maybe it's because they talk so much ****).

I looked at them and they changed the subject.

Asperger's is the new black. The black people I know have no problems with discrimination but people like me with a mental condition are constantly ridiculed and ignored. It's kind of hard to be confident around women when there's a 50% chance they'll hate you for something you can't change.

Can you imagine someone on a train proudly announcing that they hate blacks? Not in 2014. So why is it ok to hate aspies?

And more importantly is there a strategy guys like me can use to actually have some level of success with women? I feel like it would have to be a slightly different stategy to what a typical guy would use. Because I can barely relate to the typical human experience. To me it all seems like a bunch of silly rituals like church or some kind of cargo cult.

 

[lanba]

No but they should.

 

[Dgwizdal]

I'm going to take a shot here but would like to know what symptoms are the most troubling for you - Hard to read other people's emotions? Inability to relate? Difficulty focusing? etc?

 

[lanba]

Sounds about right.

Always thinking of the right thing to do or say just as it becomes too late to make a difference. Plus a good dose of shyness and anxiety. And in a noisy club or pub it's basically impossible for me to hear/comprehend what a girl is saying over all the background noise. I'll miss important details such as her name, or do something stupid like nod and smile when I can't hear a word she's actually saying. Then awkwardly turn away when she stops talking.

 

[DragonBlood]

First of all kudos to you for putting yourself out there. Theres plenty of normal guys who arent hitting the bars and clubs or trying to understand women at all. You are also right in saying there are a lot of 'rituals' to meeting women but what you dont see is they are not 'silly' TO WOMEN. For them all the games and socialising is the fastest way they can find out if you are someone they are compatible with or not. For them its about wasting as little energy as possible while holding onto their respect/status in how they go about it. Understand the game but dont dismiss it as silly and unimportant.

I'll miss important details such as her name, or do something stupid like nod and smile when I can't hear a word she's actually saying. Then awkwardly turn away when she stops talking.

You see this is mainly where you are falling. Im terrible at remembering girls names or holding onto what they are actually saying, in fact Im suppose to go on a date tomorrow and I have no idea what the girls name is.... ? You have to be indifferent about this stuff. Look at celebrities do they fuss over every little detail there fans give them? Do they even have to know or remember the fans name for the to start liking them? Nope!

The most important thing here is that you just keep vibing and enjoying the moment, relax if you forget details, relax if there is a pause... its up to her to impress YOU and hold a tight conversation. I think you give up too quickly and worry too much about winning over girls. If a girl likes you almost nothing you do wrong will matter, if it does she probably isnt that interested anyway and you should move on.


Another possible issue is do you escalate physically?

 

[( . )( . )]

Has anyone bothered finding out why this unheard of disease is everywhere all of a sudden?

Back in my day we just put it down as another single mother/beta father raised corn & porn statistic. With a constant drip feeding of cathedral indoctrination and "social" media since birth.

Aspergers has a more PC feel to it though. Plus obviously it's now hip to be a sufferer ie: "victim" of something.

 

[E-Male]

Hey, man.

I say embrace it. Work with what you've got. Play the hand you're dealt.

Have you seen Shallow Hal? There's a character in that movie with spina bifida (sp?) who's supposed to be a ladies man. It's a movie, yes, and a silly one, but the point is you are what you are.

Think of all the ugly guys you know who do well with women. Heck, think of Telly Savalas, one of the ultimate ladies men. From a conventional point of view, the guy looks like a creeper. But he made what he had work and ended up one of the smoothest men ever.

 

[FairShake]

But he made what he had work and ended up one of the smoothest men ever.

Aspergers pretty much excludes the smooth. The very condition keeps one from acting smooth.

I'd tell any aspie to focus as best they can on the other person. Experiment by trial and error find out what works and what doesn't. Approach it like building a computer by scratch. Approach it strictly by logic like you're used to.

Also, I'd actually try to be nice or at least civil. Any kind of "negging" or bad boy vibe will probably come across badly.

 

[lanba]

Aspergers pretty much excludes the smooth. The very condition keeps one from acting smooth.

I'd tell any aspie to focus as best they can on the other person. Experiment by trial and error find out what works and what doesn't. Approach it like building a computer by scratch. Approach it strictly by logic like you're used to.

Also, I'd actually try to be nice or at least civil. Any kind of "negging" or bad boy vibe will probably come across badly.

Good advice.

 

[( . )( . )]

Can you imagine someone on a train proudly announcing that they hate blacks? Not in 2014. So why is it ok to hate aspies?

"Aspies" are generally straight white teenage males predominantly products of single mummydom or betafied libtard parents. They are not on the societal SWPL protected list. They don't even come close. If you guys had a tendancy of taking it up the ass you could gain a higher spot on the can/can't shame scale. You'll never reach the heights of victim recognition as blacks do but if you claim faggotry you might be able to bump up a few spots.

Goodluck.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Aspergers is the new word for 'nerd'. Its a made up disease since all the hipster women in the world are identifying as geeks and don't want it to hold the negative conotation it traditionally has. Why is it now 'cool' to be a geek/gamer gurrrl, when 20 years ago (FOR MEN) it would have gotten you beat up, cast out or had your face forced into a toliet. I know for a fact, I was there. I was one of maybe three kids in my entire highschool who knew how to use a computer.

There's no such thing, you don't have a disease, go over to the Phillipines or Latin America and you'll be magically cured. If Aspergers is a real disease then apparently so is feminism.

If you have Aspergers then I'm completely retarded because I like Star Trek, Star Wars and can program BASIC on a commodore 64 and didn't figure out how to get laid till I was 25. Christ my wife must have Aspergers really badly because she spends all her time watching Japanese cartoons in the corner.... If a woman does that, there's nothing wrong with her, she's not SHY, WEIRD or UGLY anymore, she's a strong, independent, geek who's just having trouble finding a good quality man. It's just a term used to hate on males who have more interest in their own lives than the women around them, its a way to shift blame. All the kids today have this fvckin victim mentality... can't get a job cause I don't have a degree... can't get a woman cause I have mental problems... can't get in shape cause my thyroid, FVCK OFF. The only excuse you have is you've been to fvckin lazy/cowardly to learn game or you didn't know about it. So you are socially retarded, FIX IT.

Notice how there are almost NO women who have Aspergers. Next the word FAT is going to be replaced by some sort of disease... they are already trying to make it illegal to use against women.

 

[Atom Smasher]

The syndrome is possible to overcome.

I was diagnosed with it myself, and whatever it actually is, at least it's a description of actual symptoms/behaviors/perceptions.

I have largely overcome it through shear willpower and forcing myself into social situations. I do have one remnant of it remaining, and that is if I see someone whom I know (even someone I know very well) in an unexpected location, I have the greatest difficulty comprehending that it's actually them. I lean on the side of it not really being them, even though I might see them almost every day.

Whatever Asperger's is, it involves social anxiety, and practice can make it go away for the most part.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

I can act normal but never as well as men who actually are normal.

What should I do? Just embrace my weirdness and run with it?

A few weeks ago I was on the train and the two women next to me by chance were talking about aspergers and saying they hate talking to people with aspergers because we never understand what they say. (Maybe it's because they talk so much ****).

I looked at them and they changed the subject.

Asperger's is the new black. The black people I know have no problems with discrimination but people like me with a mental condition are constantly ridiculed and ignored. It's kind of hard to be confident around women when there's a 50% chance they'll hate you for something you can't change.

Can you imagine someone on a train proudly announcing that they hate blacks? Not in 2014. So why is it ok to hate aspies?

And more importantly is there a strategy guys like me can use to actually have some level of success with women? I feel like it would have to be a slightly different stategy to what a typical guy would use. Because I can barely relate to the typical human experience. To me it all seems like a bunch of silly rituals like church or some kind of cargo cult.

there are Asperger meet-up groups, maybe develop a bigger social circle through one?

 

[LiveFreeX]

I have the greatest difficulty comprehending that it's actually them. I lean on the side of it not really being them, even though I might see them almost every day.

Could this not just be called suprise or disbelief.. I'm pretty sure everyone feels that way.

there are Asperger meet-up groups, maybe develop a bigger social circle through one?

Yeah its called XBOX LIVE people... I swear to god, half you people are victim enablers. Want another 'meet up group' go out to an ANIME convention or get involved in your local astronomy club... This is a made up, bull**** disease to describe shyness.

Because I can barely relate to the typical human experience. To me it all seems like a bunch of silly rituals like church or some kind of cargo cult.

Poor snowflake, you aren't so special after all. Newsflash, nobody 'relates' to the human experience... this is just more victimization trending and finding ways to seperate yourself from the group. YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL. Being an 'aspy' is just, the new name for emo, nerd, outcast.... yeah so what you think differently...but the same as another group. You are still a human, like 1.3 billion Chinese... if anything THEY ARE ASPERGERS.
Stop playing the victim card, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Go out and do whats necessary to learn game until you know it.

 

[VikingKing]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to LiveFreeX again.

 

[VikingKing]

Tell you what. The moment you stop victimizing yourself, is the moment you will be free and be able to find a path in life that makes you happy, and confidence will follow.

Blaming a person/people , or a "disease" is giving all of your power away. This is why feminists are so miserable, unhappy, and weak. Their movement is counterproductive because it is based on a victim mentality.

So blaming other people, or things for your problems will only make you feel, and appear powerless and weak.

Don't beat yourself up, just take accountability for your own choices. You simply need to put yourself out there more socially. First you crawl, then you walk, then you run.

 

[Turuwal]

Ok here's what I've heard. Going from memory so it could be inaccurate.

ASD may be on the rise because of the increase in undifferentiated sounds (white noise) that exist in a child's environment such as air conditioning, fans, standby power, and general traffic. These things are more prevalent in western societies and could partially explain its rise therein. Or perhaps the "solutions" of treating children with ASD as special needs are paradoxically making it worse. In any case, it seems that in ASD children, their brains respond to the undifferentiated sound by failing to trim back unneeded neural connections. The end result is the non-ability to filter out irrelevant stimuli so that they become overloaded in social settings.

The treatment that I heard about was presenting the person with a series of tones in the form of a game and having them figure out whether the tones are different. As the person progresses through the game, the tones get closer and closer in pitch. This differentiates the processing of sound, but as a side effect also seems to differentiate and filter the processing of other stimuli too.

I believe there is more information in the book "The brain that changes itself". If not, use google to find out more. You have aspergers so this should be easy for you.

 

[lanba]

"Aspies" are generally straight white teenage males predominantly products of single mummydom or betafied libtard parents

When the subject of aspergers was raised with me as a kid, I insisted that I was normal, and my parents never mentioned it again. I was 22/23 before I was mature enough to properly realise that I have it and what it means to have it. I did not spend my childhood going around playing the victim card as some of these posts might suggest.

And all the years I spent deluding myself that I'm normal, were just that, a delusion. You can not live your life in denial of something that has a fundamental impact on the way your brain works. You can see the differences on an MRI.

 

[Yewki]

Aspergers is the new word for 'nerd'. Its a made up disease... There's no such thing.... If you have Aspergers then I'm completely retarded because I like Star Trek

Congratulations, you have no idea what Aspergers is. This is similar to saying a mentally challenged person is actually normal but just too lazy to exercise their brain. Very ignorant.

Now, it is true there can be a gray area between being relatively normal but lacking social experience, and having full blown Aspergers. It's also not a binary thing, where someone either completely has Aspergers or doesn't. Some people may think they have Aspergers when in reality the problem is they are introverts who lack social experience. And some people have minor symptoms of Aspergers which are only further amplified by social inexperience. But Aspergers is a type of autism, it is a functional impairement. It is estimated about 1% of the population has it. Just because you can't relate to it doesn't mean it's imaginary.

 

[Yewki]

And more importantly is there a strategy guys like me can use to actually have some level of success with women?

Honesty, the sooner you stop feeling sorry for yourself the better. The answer is lots of practice and exposure.

Think of it this way, if you actually do have a form of autism (i.e. Aspergers), you can still be more socially successful than people who do not... you just need lots of practice. Thinking you can't succeed because you're different is self defeating.