What are some DHV's that I can't think of?

[Josh Davidson]

Some that came to mind are: being tall, having wealth, having tattoos, having piercings, playing the guitar well, being well endowed, having good looks, having a strong social circle, being the perceived alpha mate of group by women, and having many female friends

 

[B80]

women

nice car, posture, presence.

 

[lost_blackbird]

nice car, posture, presence.

I just bought a nice car, been driving a panel van round for a couple of years now which is
reliable but very spartan when it comes to comfort and driver aids. I went out of my way to
buy one with an especially nice interior driving half way across the country to find one with
the hard to find cream leather interior which contrasts well with the black (in this particular
case) paintwork. I like black cars, my last 4 have all been in black. It's a very nice place to sit,
the 9 speaker Bose audio system sounds great too. It will be delivered on Tuesday. Can't wait.
Didn't buy it to get/impress girls though, just to have a nice comfortable, quiet and pleasant
way to travel when the occasion requires it. It will be going in for a remap very soon to make
it a bit more powerful as there's an extra 55 ponies that can be safely squeezed out of that
particular engine with just a re-tune.

 

[B80]

I just bought a nice car, been driving a panel van round for a couple of years now which is
reliable but very spartan when it comes to comfort and driver aids. I went out of my way to
buy one with an especially nice interior driving half way across the country to find one with
the hard to find cream leather interior which contrasts well with the black (in this particular
case) paintwork. I like black cars, my last 4 have all been in black. It's a very nice place to sit,
the 9 speaker Bose audio system sounds great too. It will be delivered on Tuesday. Can't wait.
Didn't buy it to get/impress girls though, just to have a nice comfortable, quiet and pleasant
way to travel when the occasion requires it. It will be going in for a remap very soon to make
it a bit more powerful as there's an extra 55 ponies that can be safely squeezed out of that
particular engine with just a re-tune.

Thats the thing, some people are negative on cars, but some like cars for whatever reason and people being impressed by them is just a by-product, not the goal.

I drive an M3 and get regular looks from men/women. Mainly men approaching in car parks or even making comments at traffic lights.

I love it and regularly go out for an hour or two, driving around. Performance is immense, rarely fails to put me in a good mood. So glad I did it after umming and arring about buying a decent car I'm proud of for years. Don't begrudge the running costs at all so far.

 

[rjc149]

Tattoos? Piercings? Sounds like you watch too many "top 5 things alpha males do" videos on Youtube. I work a white-collar financial services job in NYC, let me tell you, you show up to the interview with tats and piercings, you're not getting the job. McDonald's always needs dishwashers though.

Or, you can play your guitar at happy hour for tips. Don't worry, NYC's housing courts let you live rent free for up to a year before the marshal shows up and throws your tatted a$$ out on the street along with your guitar.

Here are some real DHV's:

Dress well. Not expensively, but well. There's a difference. Being dressed in fitted clothing of the current fashion demonstrates high social IQ.

Have a sense of humor. Be warm, witty, charming, and make people feel comfortable and wanted.

Call out bullsh!t.

Work out and be in shape.

Maintain a good haircut.

Sure, being tall, handsome, and wealthy all help.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Displaying higher value explicitly reeks of insecurity.

Bait a girl to dig into your life and let her find hidden gems. That'll get her hooked to digging more into you, they love the chase.

Don't make it easy for them, they'll thank you.

 

[characternote]

Tattoos? Piercings? Sounds like you watch too many "top 5 things alpha males do" videos on Youtube. I work a white-collar financial services job in NYC, let me tell you, you show up to the interview with tats and piercings, you're not getting the job. McDonald's always needs dishwashers though.

damn. Sucks to live there lol
So many of my friends have swanky jobs in London (finance, marketing etc) and they are full of tats and look like a ****ing convict lol

I guess times change. In the old days you weren't allowed long hair and stuff haha

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

DHV is all about your presence, which can manifest in many different ways depending on the person. I wouldn't say there is a single way of explaining it, because there are many paradoxes involved (for instance, being self-aware and empathetic, while indifferent to what people think, or living in the moment and spontaneity, while also savvy and discerning).

Most guys need external things to act high value (clothes, status, wealth, etc) but they can be crutches. We focus on the wrong things and think we can correct deficiencies by presenting ourselves in a certain way (fake it till you make it) which I think is fundamentally flawed.

 

[SW15]

Some that came to mind are: being tall, having wealth, having tattoos, having piercings, playing the guitar well, being well endowed, having good looks, having a strong social circle, being the perceived alpha mate of group by women, and having many female friends

There are some different personas that different women find attractive. There are different alcohol brands that attract different segments of the market. Same with mostly any product category.

The personas that I find are best with attracting women are:

1. The Deadbeat: Tattoos, piercings, marginal employment (either in blue collar or a service sector McJob), criminal record, possible drug dealer or trafficker. Often gets with lower middle class or lower class women. If he's a high end drug dealer/trafficker, he can get some upscale women.
2. The Suave Upper Middle Class or Higher Guy: This is well put together guy. He looks good. He's often fit and it is best if he is 6'0"+. This is the type that college educated or higher white women in big city yuppie areas are chasing. He drives a solid brand of car in many cases. He might even have a party boat in some coastal areas or near a lake. He's often well spoken if he keeps things going a little bit longer.
3. Muscular/Fit Guy: This guy can take on a few different forms. It could be the surfing or tennis instructor who bangs bored girlfriends/wives. It could be the gym at the guy with big muscles. Anyway, he seduces based on looks primarily.
4. Musician/DJ: Often combines elements from The Deadbeat with the ability to play guitar. Guitar playing melts panties. A few DJs are good seducers if they are Muscular/Fit Guys looking good in the clubs.

 

[characternote]

biggest DHV is her thinking you are hot/handsome. It's about not doing something stupid from that point.
The best game in the world is futile if you are not her type.

 

[Serenity]

Not worrying about DHV demonstrates far higher value than someone desperately trying to demonstrate it.

Seeking approval aka DHV is a fools game, the only thing you will achieve at the end of that is losing yourself.