What advice would you give to men struggling with girls? What has worked for you?

[Dr.Suave]

The following was actually a reply to someone else´s post but I feel it would reach more struggling members of the forum by creating a new topic. I hope other members can contribute more advice in the replys. Stuff that has worked for you, preferably recently but good ol classics are welcome too.


Original post follows:


DJ bootcamp? Your TASK was to talk to girls?

Im sorry I disagree with all of this. I dont like the mindset.

That stuff never really worked for me. Becuase the focus was on getting the girls. While this might work for some people, for me it created scarcity mindset.

What recently worked for me was focusing on doing stuff I actually enjoy, while triple booking with OLD matches the same date, time, and place to come and join me.

If none of them cancelled, I would go out with the hottest one and I would make something up to flake on the other girls. My main focus was enjoying the actual date more than the girl herself.

Btw, now that I think back, I dunno if Murphys law or what, but when I singled book, the girl would flake more than half of the time. When triple booking, none would cancel and I had to flake on the other girls.

I would invite them to a restaurant I was actually craving for, or to watch the latest blockbuster I actually wanted to see. I believe that being focus on enojying the actual date would give off the abundance mindset instead of neediness or scarcity mindset and girls would somehow sense it and they loved it.

Texting was nothing special. No PUA tricks.

Text One: "Hey girl. How´s ur weekend going?" When matching during weekend. If matching Monday/Tuesday it was "Hey girl. How was your weekend?". If matching Wednesday/Thursday "Hey girl. Any cool plans for the upcoming weekend?"
Her: Bla bla bla

Next text: "Cool. What do you enjoy doing with your free time?"
Her: bla bla bla

If we have suff in common:

"Looks like we have a lot in common. Im craving my favorite sushi place, wanna meet 5:30ish pm next saturday?" Maybe Im implying that since we have stuff in common I wanna get to know her better.

If we dont have that much in common:

"I live in X city by Y mall. Anything interesting near your house?"
Her: Bla bla bla
"My favorite Burger place is very close to your house. Wanna meet Next saturday evening and grab a bite?"


If there was a new movie I actually wanted to see.
"I wanna watch the new Marvel movie. Lets go on day1 to avoid spoilers. My favorite movie place has a show at 6pm"

No long texts. No double texting. No over-talking or over-sharing. Keep it simple and more or less mirror their response time.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

BY turning above 26 and keeping in decent shape. The dating game is near impossible for young men without clout and Chad looks.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Put yourself in situations where you can meet new women constantly, always keep improving your SMV so you have more options.

It's an uphill battle but it isn't impossible to get a rotation of attractive girls.

 

[SargeMaximus]

The whole “just have fun” cliched approached never worked for me. I always enjoy myself when I’m out. It never involves women because they don’t get me. Only way I got girls was to be direct and sexual using OLD

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I wonder if asking ‘what works for you?’ Is that productive. I suppose an exposure to many solutions is possibly a good thing. I’m pretty sure my ‘what worked for me’ advice wouldn’t be that useful to others. There are likely general principles which are probably of some value, and most of these are well known.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I wonder if asking ‘what works for you?’ Is that productive. I suppose an exposure to many solutions is possibly a good thing. I’m pretty sure my ‘what worked for me’ advice wouldn’t be that useful to others. There are likely general principles which are probably of some value, and most of these are well known.

This is a good point. Generally I’d say OP needs to find what will work for him, but it’s a good idea to get ideas and field test them

 

[Hamurabimbi]

How about a situation we can all relate to. Barrista/Waitress/Clerks/Bartender…
I make serious, prolonged eye-contact. Flirt hard. Offer a few comments about myself, see if they take the bait. I’ll throw in a compliment. At this point, she should be a bit giggly, smile a lot and show her teeth (mask ruin that part). Or other signs. If I’m not just flirting for fun, snd depending on the situation, i’ll leave a card/# with the bill. Or, just ask her out. Even if I’m just flirting non-seriously, I often get a free drink or some other perk out of it.

 

[SargeMaximus]

How about a situation we can all relate to. Barrista/Waitress/Clerks/Bartender…
I make serious, prolonged eye-contact. Flirt hard. Offer a few comments about myself, see if they take the bait. I’ll throw in a compliment. At this point, she should be a bit giggly, smile a lot and show her teeth (mask ruin that part). Or other signs. If I’m not just flirting for fun, snd depending on the situation, i’ll leave a card/# with the bill. Or, just ask her out. Even if I’m just flirting non-seriously, I often get a free drink or some other perk out of it.

I once had a waitress ask what I was doing after. I assumed it was just small talk but I also wanted to try and bait to see if she was also trying to bait me. She mentioned when she was off but also didn’t seem interested. How do you know the difference between a waitress just being polite and actually into you? I have a rule where I don’t go after hires guns because it’s their job to be nice to you.

but it would be good to have a way to find out when it’s genuine and not part of their job

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I once had a waitress ask what I was doing after. I assumed it was just small talk but I also wanted to try and bait to see if she was also trying to bait me. She mentioned when she was off but also didn’t seem interested. How do you know the difference between a waitress just being polite and actually into you? I have a rule where I don’t go after hires guns because it’s their job to be nice to you.

but it would be good to have a way to find out when it’s genuine and not part of their job

I’ve done it so often & for so long it’s almost instinctual by now. It’s hard to give a true analysis. Girls either get excited, giddy, chatty & giggly. Or, get a look one sees in movies. Where they slit their eyes, & get a wicked, sexy smile. Almost like a cat watching a cornered mouse. If you’re luckey enough to be in a non-masky place, big eyes, big smile, big teeth are a huge tell. If they take something you brought up in the conversation, and expound on it. If you say a double entandre, or something vaguely sexy & they run with it, making it explicitly sexual. There’s probably tons of body language cues that we’re delivering, but i can’t verbalize.

 

[EyeBRollin]

They aren’t worth it.

Women just aren’t special. Stop acting like they are.

 

[SargeMaximus]

They aren’t worth it.

Women just aren’t special. Stop acting like they are.

Bro you really shouldn’t be on a forum dedicated to seducing women if this is your response.