snackwitch
Don Juan
hey guys wanted to get perspective from some experienced DJs (I dont need any feedback from racist or prejudiced people thank you)
I am a guy who came from a pretty restrictive Muslim family (my parents were in an arranged marriage back in the old country). Basically most of my extended family have ideas and conceptions of male-female relations, dating, marriage that is at odds with how things work in America.
I'm too old to try cover up or make excuses for who I am, where I come from, or what my family is like.
The main problem is that any dating or meeting of girls needs to be done away from my family. The reason is that they are judgmental, and they will become antagonistic towards any female I would be hanging with who A) is not Muslim and B) who I have no intentions of marrying.
This fact makes me terribly self-conscious with any girls that they I think of bringing into my life at all. I feel torn with living my life and realizing my potentials and the obligations and emotional appeals that my family browbeats me with.
I grew up in the U.S. and I am American, but I feel like my extended family are attempting to drag me back into their old world way of thinking (my aunts and mom have been mentioning finding someone for me).
How do I deal with this sort of situation without making a girl feel nervous, apprehensive, or suspicious about the fact that I avoid bringing her around my family?
I am a guy who came from a pretty restrictive Muslim family (my parents were in an arranged marriage back in the old country). Basically most of my extended family have ideas and conceptions of male-female relations, dating, marriage that is at odds with how things work in America.
I'm too old to try cover up or make excuses for who I am, where I come from, or what my family is like.
The main problem is that any dating or meeting of girls needs to be done away from my family. The reason is that they are judgmental, and they will become antagonistic towards any female I would be hanging with who A) is not Muslim and B) who I have no intentions of marrying.
This fact makes me terribly self-conscious with any girls that they I think of bringing into my life at all. I feel torn with living my life and realizing my potentials and the obligations and emotional appeals that my family browbeats me with.
I grew up in the U.S. and I am American, but I feel like my extended family are attempting to drag me back into their old world way of thinking (my aunts and mom have been mentioning finding someone for me).
How do I deal with this sort of situation without making a girl feel nervous, apprehensive, or suspicious about the fact that I avoid bringing her around my family?