Went Clubbing Today

[NeedToImprove]

it was ok, went with a friend, we both dont have girlfriends, we both have been burned recently, him from a 3 year relationship and me a one year relationship. lots of girls there, great music. ive been working out for the past 2 months so i feel a little more confident, but not as much as i want to be, i'm very shy and so is my wingman, also we dont trust women easily and we tend often to dont want to read the signs or we dont pay attention (make excuses maybe)

my friend had this hot blonde (a 8 / 8.5) getting by his side, dancing by his side, flirting, and he was like i dont give a ****, and he looked at me in that kind of way: what should i do now? i told him to act like a man would, but he just stood there, hearing the music, she kissed him in the face and left. what more evidences did he need that she was into him?

with me the situation was different, well im not as attractive as him, but i had my opportunity too, there was this cute blonde girl ( 8 ) with a female friend and 2 male friends ( one of them her boyfriend maybe or not, i will never know ) and she looks at me and makes eye contact with me for some seconds. later she turns back while her boyfriend (?) went to get drinks, looks at me, blinks her eye and smiles, i became what's happening here, wanted to talk to her, say something but i couldnt... then the guy came back, started dancing with her, and from then on, she ignored me and never gave me any attention.

well, just had to share this with you guys, for a moment it felt great, for some minutes i created "expectactions" (dunno for sure if this is what i really felt, but its close) but now that i think of it i feel kinda fustrated... maybe she was looking to a guy behind me that caught her eye who knows lol.. well **** it, im off to bed.

lata

 

[JJMcLure]

You and your buddy need to start hitting on more chicks.

Think of it more like handing out flyers than waiting for a buyer for an expensive painting. There is no perfect opportunity, there is no lighting bolt. You approach and talk to as many chicks as you can - for fun, practice, and to find one you like.

It's not a big deal - neither you or her are obliged to anything past a brief chat. That's how you get to know if you want to go any further. Just learn to approach and get over the FEAR of rejection. I suggest you and your buddy play a game like, e.g. you have to pick a chick for him to approach, then he picks one for you etc. It would take the pressure off and you can both laugh about it. And it keeps it fun, which it not only should be but will help you project the right vibe to chicks.

 

[Docs]

my friend had this hot blonde (a 8 / 8.5) getting by his side, dancing by his side, flirting, and he was like i dont give a ****, and he looked at me in that kind of way

He looked like he was lost, that for a minute, he knew what he really wanted in life. The music slowly moved into the background, the world slowed down and then, he knew, that he loved you.

Whoaaaaaaaaa! :rockon:

 

[Dee-Zy]

she kissed him in the face and left. what more evidences did he need that she was into him?

waaaaaaaaaaaah???

I never even had that, Nishbuk did though ... :cuss:


But yeah, you need to start talking to them. Start by saying hi and asking their names, even if you choke, you have done a baby step but you have done a huuuuge leap. By doing this often, you will find out that there are different types of chicks, snobs, friendly ones, interesting ones, chicks with conversational skills, social chicks, b1tches, stuck ups, ect.

You can't see it as, oh I screwed up, I couldn't cary the convo, you have to see it as nice, I know that chick's name. After you do this often, you will see how many different types of girls there are out there, odds are, you will stumble on a lot of snobs, but you will find some shy girls, some social girls, some fun girls, some interesting girls too, after a while, even if YOU don't say much, THEY will carry the convo, or start it at least. When you get to meet those fun/social girls, you will practice your conversational skills with them, and when you will meet girls that are not so great at conversation, you will.

After a while, you start feeling sorry for chicks that just snobs you. I mean, if you drop a pick up line or if you were all AFC with them like oh you are the most beautiful woman in here, and they act like that. sure. But if they snob you after you only ask for their name? That's just sad.