Well my DJ in training days are gone. Don't be a fool, wrap your tool

Moofahsa

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Yep, a one night stand in April of last year came back to bite me in the ass.

Got court ordered for a paternity test and yep I'm the father.

I'm devestated, but it is my own fault. I'm not too happy about the next 17 years, but I guess it could be worse.

The mother of my child is a skank that now has 2 children, 20 years old and has never had a job. So here I am, fresh college graduate about ready to start my life and now I have a wrench thrown in my entire life due to one bad choice when I was overly intoxicated at a party.

Be careful guys, it can happen...
 

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Moofahsa said:
Got court ordered for a paternity test and yep I'm the father.

I'm devestated, but it is my own fault. I'm not too happy about the next 17 years, but I guess it could be worse.
More like the next 30 years...

Look at it like this, you have a little mind to mold into whatever you want it to be. Hopefully the mom won't be the typical *****y "baby mama" and hinder the progress of this kid. The fact that she is twenty years of age with two kids tells me there is going to be plenty of drama. Just don't play any of the mind games that are going to follow.

What was your degree in?
 

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at least you finished college

where is PRL/LMS when you need him?

This is part of the reason that I don't do ONS or anything like that. I screen possible hook-ups on many levels before hooking up.

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DonGorgon

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comic_relief said:
at least you finished college

where is PRL/LMS when you need him?

This is part of the reason that I don't do ONS or anything like that. I screen possible hook-ups on many levels before hooking up.

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I only f girls who believe in abortion.
 

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I only f girls who don't. The problem is that they change their mind on you.

I know you feel down right now, but everyone loves their kid once the kid arrives. Many people were accidents. I was one myself. I think a majority of pregnancies are actually unplanned. Many of us reading this forum right now were "mistakes," and merely think we were planned.

Also, you call your 'baby momma' (lol, get used to that term) a "skank," but it could be worse. It at least sounds like she knows how to raise a kid. I would rather knock up a skank who will change diapers and take care of the baby than I would some career woman who thinks every baby chore should be split 50/50 with the man. Things could be worse. Your financial commitment aside, it sounds like she will be the one doing most of the work raising the baby, and you'll get a son or daughter out of the deal.
 

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Sorry man!

Dosen't mean your days of DJ training are over. Nobodies ever is no matter how good they think they are, what their doing, how their living...it's never over.

You marrying her? No offence, but I'm going to be rather blunt. But even IF you are tieng the knot with her (like alot of people are compelled to do in this situation), it probably won't work. Not to say it won't, but every one I know of whos in a situation like or close to yours either hates their wife and life, is divorced, or the likely scenario (which I'm guessing is yours) never got married to skank.

Either way, YOU have to be the best father you can be for this kid now. He is of your flesh and blood. Don't let yourself be a crummy father that alot of kids in its position has. If things don't work out between you and skank then oh well, let your kid grow up knowing he has a skank for a mom and a cool dad, not a skank for a mom and a crummy dad.

Don't look at it like its a wrench in your life. Atleast she didn't give you some crazy std (that you know of yet). Yes with gas prices how they are today its going to suck financially, but you've got to do the best you can for the kids sake....Raise a little Don Juan or Don Juannette....dad.

P.S. wrap it before you tap it next time ;)
 

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Get a job at Mcdonalds and you can see how she likes receiving Mcdonalds wages.

If some b!tch tricks you into getting her pregnant I'm all for frustrating her at every opportunity.

If she chooses to keep it and not abort it, it should be her responsibility alone to raise that child.

You had no say, you were tricked, she could put it up for adoption and any number of things to stop from ruining both of your lives but she didn't she wants to make you pay well I say screw her.

Get a job at Mcdonalds or something else low paying and see how she likes syphoning off of that income.
 

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KontrollerX said:
You had no say, you were tricked, she could put it up for adoption and any number of things to stop from ruining both of your lives but she didn't she wants to make you pay well I say screw her.
This is probably the only time I'll ever disagree with KontrollerX. I'd be willing to bet she didn't trick him into sticking his **** in her. He did it on his own free will, albeit irresponsibly, and if she's choosing to keep it there's little he can do except man up and be a good father to this kid.
 

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"This is probably the only time I'll ever disagree with KontrollerX."

Unfortunate but I can respect your disagreement.

"I'd be willing to bet she didn't trick him into sticking his **** in her. He did it on his own free will, albeit irresponsibly, and if she's choosing to keep it there's little he can do except man up and be a good father to this kid."

The problem with a lot of guys today AFC's and DJ's included is many men have been brainwashed into a knee jerk reaction by the feminists when it comes to things like this.

I'll try to explain the best I can so bear with me...

Guys have this societal enforced programmed automatic reaction that once a girl gets pregnant oh thats suddenly his responsibility and he better man up and take care of his kid ie this is the knee jerk reaction and the feminists love that they have you all brainwashed so thoroughly on this.

This is misplaced empathy, misplaced caring, and misplaced morals when in reality all you agreed to, all you signed up for, all that you wanted was to have a pleasurable sexual experience with a woman that you were currently attracted to and nothing else.

Unless you outright said you wanted to be a daddy before the act you are not morally obligated or responsible to be a father to the child of a woman who callously and deceitfully tricks you into getting her pregnant under the guise of oh its just sex we're just having fun and I have no hidden agenda to keep a child should I get preggos.

The courts and society believe differently of course and so they legislate their morality onto you with harsh penalties and peer pressure that you are scum if you don't toe the line and go along with what "the man" thinks you should do.

So even though you are a DJ in that still lingering AFC awe shucks part of your brain you say to yourself dawgonnit I better raise my kids, I won't be a real man if I don't.

But instead I say to you that until you are given a fair and equal say over pregnancy and a child of yours by law of whether to abort it, adopt it, or give up all rights to it to free you from paying child support you need to speak up and demand this justice and as long as there is no fair and equal justice surrounding this matter you should do everything in your power to frustrate the unfair treatment the courts and society wish to push upon you.

If you did not want to be a daddy before getting a woman pregnant odds are you don't want to be a daddy after getting the woman pregnant either but you cave in to the brainwashing, expectations and legal pressures because thats the easy thing to do, the thing you are programmed to do, the thing you have been made to believe is the right thing to do but in reality the right thing to do is to fight for equal rights and stand up like a man and do what you want to do.

If you don't want that kid or that woman in your life any more do everything you can to frustrate her trying to steal money from you by getting a low paying job for her to syphon from.

If you do want to raise the kid as you've suddenly fallen in love with the idea of being a father all on your own then do so but also fight for more of a say through activism in the men's movement surrounding pregnancy and your rights over your own child of whether to terminate the pregnancy or just sign away your rights entirely and give it to the woman which means you are no longer legally considered the father and thus not forced to pay. Fight for those rights.

Guys stupidly say because they are programmed to do so "well by sticking his meatwhistle in the girl he needs to take responsibility and be daddy" and I say no unless he expressley made it clear he wanted to be a father before the act then all he signed up for was a pleasurable experience not father hood.

The acceptance crowd would also probably be happy if someone who got a cureable STD would also just accept that and never get treatment for that.

As after all keeping the STD to them is "being responsible for your actions" just like playing daddy to a child you didn't want or ask for is.

What a crock.
 
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