Weird Situation. need advice.

[Matlm]

What's up fellas?

I have been talking to this girl for about a week. She goes to my school and I just started talking to her last week. I needed a ride home and she gave me one even though it was like 20 minutes out of her way.

So today she asked me if i wanted a ride home and i said "yeah." so we went back to her house and we were chillin on her bed watching a movie, but I wasn't feeling the vibe at all. She didn't seem like she wanted to mess around. She had a phone interview at 5, so she was just like "allright i gotta drop you off."

We were talking in the car and she told me how she wasn't really dating now, and just wasnt trying to get into a relaitonship. I agreed with her.

When she dropped me off I went to hug her and a kissed her, but she pulled back and she was smiling and was like "uh no, i don't hook up with people like that... It would have to be a date or something." so i was like "fine, I'll take you out." and she was like "Yeah, im not really dating now though." So i was just like "allright thats cool, can you hand me my backpack" and i got out of the car.

I've only known this girl for a week, and i guess im kinda rushing it cuz she is graduating in janruary. I was just totally surprised because I thought that she was super slutty, and then to hear her say she just doesn't hook up with people... It seems like she is into me though, i mean why else would she drive me so far?

uhh, im confused guys, give me some input.


Edit. 12/11/03

I talked to her today at school and I just wasn't feeling the vibe. I didn't feel like there was any point in worrying about it anymore, so I am just going to pull away and not worry about it until I feel comfortable again. It's not worth stressing over. It's not like I'm scared, I just sense that any effort at this point is futile. I just don't want to pursue it.

 

[FitnessGuy]

Ok I have experience with a situation almost EXACTLY like this.

This girl, she would drive me home, in fact she would drive me too school also, and she did so for a week!! All the signs were there, we went to lunch a few times, hung out and talked all the time, I thought I had her. So then I tried to get with her and FAILED horribly. I was crushed. This was just my experience, but it sounds like this girl is much like the girl I was trying to get with. Goodluck, I would move on, and just forget about this chick she is a b1tch.

 

[Matlm]

Suprisingly, Im not crushed. Just confused.

Anyone else care to comment? did i move too soon or what?

 

[Speed Demond]

Sounds like she's a lil nerviouse....go hang with her ..but insist it's a date..it'll work out

 

[Matlm]

You think so? i am just so disillousioned right now

 

[LouieVaton Don]

Well if you woulda tried to screw her when you two were alone, you probably would've known by now. I wouldve. Look you dont sit back and say you didnt feel the right vibes, your the man, you create the vibes damnit! Obviously you like her, I know you do. Get it poppin then. When you tried to kiss her after that your window of op already closed. By not getting physical with her especially when you two were alone, you already failed(a major one at that)one of her shyt tests. Shes telling you how slow she takes it when she shyt tested you from the break. Know that I just told you what happened, and forget her.

 

[Matlm]

I could tell she wasn't gonna mess with me when i was in her room. We were just smoking. like i said it was weird, and i've never been in a situation like that before.

 

[LouieVaton Don]

Well I was in a similar situation this past spring. It was kinda weird too but I was still inexperienced then. The bottom line though is......you like her, make a move. I mean its not just gonna happen outta nowhere 9 times outta 10. You gotta talk sexual like youve done it some many times its like blinking. You have to know that relationships between males and females are to the very core sexual, thats it. Create that mood within her and you desreve a piece, dont you deserve a piece?Your str8. Now I dont know what you plan on doing with this chick but forgetting about all this would be a big time saver. And hey, if she somehow wants you to come back to her house it'll be another plus.

 

[Matlm]

Bro, where in maryland are you from? I'm only Olney.

So your saying just keep talking to her like it's no big deal? That's what I plan on doing, because I am at the point know where rejection really doesn't bother/deter me.

 

[LouieVaton Don]

No im saying only talk to her when she reaches for you, dont reach out for her from here on. Get some new chick to take you to school.

 

[jbrunner_ipa]

...i would guess that she's probably starting to get into somebody else but she's not sure that it'll work out. She's more than likely into you or else she pities you a whole lot (which i doubt). Your situation is tough b/c if you hang out with her too much you can get stuck in a friends zone. Maybe catch a ride home with her once or twice a week, just enough to stick around. I don't know but my gut feeling on this one is she's thinking about somebody else and she's not really sure it'll work. I could be wrong but that's my two cents.

 

[Matlm]

Yeah, good points.

I think I am just kinda surprised at myself for not being all down and out about it. It's just kind of like "whatever"

 

[xblitz44x]

Matlm,

It's good that you're in a detached state. That way you can see things clearly. From what you said about the girl, *I* would have tried to kiss her as well. There is a chance she is playing games, and a chance that she DOES like you...but since she has a slutty reputation she wants to disprove it with her actions. Hence her 'I don't hook up with people like that'. She's full of shyt because that's how normal, healthy people hook up. She was invalidating the slut rep, and for what reason? Because I think she might be into you.

It's not definite but I really think *she* wouldn't ask to drive you home AGAIN if she wasn't into you. Unless there is another reason you can think of that we don't know about. I would relax and stay friends with her. Genuinly get to know her on a friendly level. Since you're not attached this shouldn't be difficult for her. Learn more about her, pay attention not so much to her words, but rather WHY she said them, and where they came from.

Have fun.